Maintaining Marriage...

FATnUGLY

11 Jul 00, 19:31

THIS SUCKS!!!!!
my friend has been callin me again..and she keeps on tellin me that her hubby dun care for her as much as before they all get married... she says he dunch tok to her as often liaoz...and those little little things...

Is marriage really the tombstone for courtship..now I really know why my frens dunch wanna marry..

I oso run outta words to say to my fren liaoz... Sad

FnU

stringray

11 Jul 00, 19:44

Hmmm.......
have a good tok with him loh

Heeheehee :p :p :p

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FATnUGLY

11 Jul 00, 19:51

Originally posted by stringray:
Hmmm.......
have a good tok with him loh

Heeheehee :p :p :p

no use one..he wun tok to me..the thing is his wife is quite close to me..so anything she will come tell me...and he kinda dunch like me... and if I tok to him like last time...he will jus tell me 'DUN KPO AND FARK OFF'...which I am quite pissed..

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FireIce

11 Jul 00, 20:55

being in love and living under the same roof is different...

my advice fer ur fren is...since she has oredi chosen the path (marry the guy) then she gotta live with it loh...both need to be understanding...i think she shd have a talk wif her hubby..work things out...but oso need to give each other his/her own breathing space...

peiyi

11 Jul 00, 23:15

Hm.. tell your fren dat telling you all dat won't help her in anyway lor. She better have a gd tok wif her hubby!

moose

11 Jul 00, 23:59

Ya lor,it's better she tell her hubby all these than you as you not her hubby mah,can't really do much,heehe Very Happy

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FATnUGLY

12 Jul 00, 09:56

Originally posted by FireIce:
being in love and living under the same roof is different...

my advice fer ur fren is...since she has oredi chosen the path (marry the guy) then she gotta live with it loh...both need to be understanding...i think she shd have a talk wif her hubby..work things out...but oso need to give each other his/her own breathing space...

the thing is that my this guy fren is quite attached to his outside frens and most of the time, after work go meet them for dinner or coffee or pubbing and usually leave his wife at home..which she felt bery left out..he oso seldom brings her out to meet his frens..not like before marriage..he oso cut down his time to really tok to her.. I ask my fren , she told me tt after they haf been married (for 1 yr plus liaoz) their feelings seemed to haf been dampened..

she told me she missed living wif her own parents and own siblings..and livin wif him is such a torture... I dunch know but I dun hope as I can seeemed to see the word 'divorce' knocking on their door Sad

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FATnUGLY

12 Jul 00, 09:59

Originally posted by tet:
be there to listen to her pour her sorrow... but NEVER interfer in their affair.

Good Luck

yea tet..tts wat I am doing..I jus listen to her pour her sorrows to me..but I can say tt its bery sad.. Sad

but I feel like talking to the guy, which my fren stops me from..she also told me the same thing as you, ask me not to interfere in it.. so guess wat I can only do is limited.. Mad

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FATnUGLY

12 Jul 00, 10:04

Originally posted by moose:
Ya lor,it's better she tell her hubby all these than you as you not her hubby mah,can't really do much,heehe

the problem is that his hubby dunch eben wans to tok to her..and she feel it quite useless if she toks to him like tt..and he wunch listen oso...

is there any like marriage counselling, I wish to recommend them there..
do you think it helps???

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FATnUGLY

12 Jul 00, 10:07

Originally posted by peiyi:
Hm.. tell your fren dat telling you all dat won't help her in anyway lor. She better have a gd tok wif her hubby!

no use..as I said..they all got problems talkin to each other now..I think communications breakdown..best way I think is marriage counselling..do you think it helps???

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FATnUGLY

12 Jul 00, 10:16

Originally posted by FireIce:
being in love and living under the same roof is different...

my advice fer ur fren is...since she has oredi chosen the path (marry the guy) then she gotta live with it loh...both need to be understanding...i think she shd have a talk wif her hubby..work things out...but oso need to give each other his/her own breathing space...

you know , maybe I got this wrong impression..I think that living together will bond the 2 of you even more...but it doesnt seem to work for those 2..mabbe he face her until so sianz liaoz..I oso dunch know as I rarely talk to the guy..I only hear from one perspective and tts from the ger's side..

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jliu

12 Jul 00, 19:51

My advise: Eat to have strength.

moose

12 Jul 00, 21:31

Think the guy once got married took your fren for granted,but then even if you recommend professional counsellor to them,her husband may refuse to go for the counselling sessions,hehe Very Happy

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FATnUGLY

13 Jul 00, 05:23

Originally posted by jliu:
My advise: Eat to have strength.

jliu: means wat???

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FATnUGLY

13 Jul 00, 05:24

Originally posted by moose:
Think the guy once got married took your fren for granted,but then even if you recommend professional counsellor to them,her husband may refuse to go for the counselling sessions,hehe

he has to!!!!!!!!!! if he wanna save this marriage..I dunno but I hope his parents will tok some sense into him.. only they can do it.. Sad

FnU

stringray

13 Jul 00, 22:59

FnU: u as a outsider, stay out of their problem lah.
Let them settle it themselves lah.
Why bother & get yourself into trouble.

Sit down & have some tea lah.

Heeheehee :p :p :p

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FATnUGLY

14 Jul 00, 06:11

Originally posted by stringray:
FnU: u as a outsider, stay out of their problem lah.
Let them settle it themselves lah.
Why bother & get yourself into trouble.

Sit down & have some tea lah.

Heeheehee :p :p :p

yea..I am not going into their problems..jus lending a helpin ear to my fren who pours her sorrows to me..tts the most I can do.. Sad

the guy's parents r now handling the situation..which I dunch hope leads to a divorce

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lexelle

14 Jul 00, 20:15

FNU:

Wake her up~!

She is the only one who can help solve the problem.

If she keeps pouring out her sorrows to you, it's no use... no help at all.

Get her to have a good talk with her husband.

Very Happy

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FATnUGLY

15 Jul 00, 12:56

Originally posted by lexelle:
FNU:

Wake her up~!

She is the only one who can help solve the problem.

If she keeps pouring out her sorrows to you, it's no use... no help at all.

Get her to have a good talk with her husband.

dunno leh... it seemed tt there is really a breakdown of communications between them..eh I really wonder..if you really live wif your wife or husband under one roof...will there be a time where this kinda thing happens?? its kinda scary leh...imagining not toking to each other and still livin together...

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lexelle

15 Jul 00, 13:04

FNU:

If she dun talk to him also no use...

Must talk, even if they quarrel, must control tempers...

As a 3rd party you cannot do much...

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FATnUGLY

16 Jul 00, 13:26

Originally posted by lexelle:
FNU:

If she dun talk to him also no use...

Must talk, even if they quarrel, must control tempers...

As a 3rd party you cannot do much...

yea lex..I think most of you all dunch wan me to 'chup' this case..I think I gotta gif up..and jus hope for the best..

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Thank you for loving me baby
You'll always be the one who drives me crazy
I think this is a gift from God to have you here..
Thank you for loving me baby
I'll treasure all your love and all the things we share..
And I wanna tell you, how much I love you.....

millennium

16 Jul 00, 15:15

FnU:

Hope you don't get offened. All the while I never post anything in this topic. That is because I personally also feel that outsider shouldn't interfer in other people relationship problem. I never bother about people BGR problem regardless the person is my siblings, relative or friends. Cos I believe that no one else can help them other than themself. Outsiders most of the time will only give them more problem and create more misunderstanding instead of helping them.

What I usually do is just listen to ther sorrow and console them but don't give them any advise, let them consider and make the decision themself.

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FATnUGLY

16 Jul 00, 16:56

Originally posted by millennium:
FnU:

Hope you don't get offened. All the while I never post anything in this topic. That is because I personally also feel that outsider shouldn't interfer in other people relationship problem. I never bother about people BGR problem regardless the person is my siblings, relative or friends. Cos I believe that no one else can help them other than themself. Outsiders most of the time will only give them more problem and create more misunderstanding instead of helping them.

What I usually do is just listen to ther sorrow and console them but don't give them any advise, let them consider and make the decision themself.

OK!!!!!! i listen to you buddy!!! Very Happy

FnU

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Thank you for loving me baby
You'll always be the one who drives me crazy
I think this is a gift from God to have you here..
Thank you for loving me baby
I'll treasure all your love and all the things we share..
And I wanna tell you, how much I love you.....

susantml

17 Jul 00, 13:59

FatnUgly what you can do already done so let them find the way out that all i can said outsider is very hard to help ... so both have to do their part , so just listen and forget not keep ...you will feel much better... ok ... ask your girlfriend to relex don't give him so many intention see how he react frist... ...

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Don't said thing bad
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phoenix09

21 Jul 00, 06:57

no matter wat u say....the outcome wouldn not be decided by u,it's by her own slef alone......so dun think of that much lah....mariage is between the two of them...u trying to help her solve problems will onli make things worse....that guy may actually think that u are a third part trying to break them apart....isin't that worse.. i agree with wat some of them say... u can listen and console but dun give advises.....and no matter wat happens... remember that u are not responsible for it and dun let emotions get better of u.. even though she is your fren..

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