Is he having an affair?
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hi elinda,
he's working at Bank, as PFC (Personal Financial Construction)
any information about it?
Well im thinking to take a class, but he seems dont like it. So i dont even dare to talk more about it
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juz4you: have you spoken to your family about this, what did they say? are they supportive of you?
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he has a high demanding and sales job
no sales = no money...
need money = need more time at work to find more leads..
more leads doesnt mean close case...
when leads come = need time again to make it as a sale closure.
some pple i know...work 7days a week, to keep in run for the targets..
if one doesnt perform, chances are, bank cld ask him to leave. -
hi squelch,Originally posted by theSquelch:juz4you: have you spoken to your family about this, what did they say? are they supportive of you?
i dont even dare to talk about this to my family, which family that you talk about, i dont have friends and family in here -
i'm talking about your family. so you are a foreigner?Originally posted by juz4you:hi squelch,
i dont even dare to talk about this to my family, which family that you talk about, i dont have friends and family in here -
i hope at least he tells you what's bothering him.....guys who dun talk much can be really dangerous. So do try to strike a conversation asking him how his day was.....go for a trip together.Originally posted by juz4you:Hey middle, thanks for the comments.
well we've been married for most 1 year, and yes it's getting sucks
Make it a point to try to resolve, i hope u do succeed & wish u all the best
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Well yes, im a foreigner.Originally posted by juz4you:hi squelch,
i dont even dare to talk about this to my family, which family that you talk about, i dont have friends and family in here
no, i dont dare to tell m' what happen -
First thing first... get a hobby or more frens... ur hubby needs time to build his career.Originally posted by juz4you:Well yes, im a foreigner.
no, i dont dare to tell m' what happen -
Personal Financial Consultant?Originally posted by juz4you:hi elinda,
he's working at Bank, as PFC (Personal Financial Construction)
any information about it?
Well im thinking to take a class, but he seems dont like it. So i dont even dare to talk more about it
Sounds like a Personal Banker to me with a more fanciful name
Btw Personal Bankers have a very stressful job and they have targets to meet
It's normal to work past 10pm too
Looks like he is under a lot of stress.
I dunno maybe you should just talk to him about it
I mean he is your husband and won't eat you up
At this rate you will stay at home and your imagination starts to wander and thinks he is cheating on you when it is honestly work -
Thanks for JIAYOU me middle,Originally posted by de_middle:i hope at least he tells you what's bothering him.....guys who dun talk much can be really dangerous. So do try to strike a conversation asking him how his day was.....go for a trip together.
Make it a point to try to resolve, i hope u do succeed & wish u all the best
i really love him, but sometimes he really shake me off, he make me affraid of him
Well, that's also what i think. Sometimes i just scare of something will happen, cos he never share with me, what's going on with he's day -
Why are you afriad of him?
He hits you?
If he yells coz you ask tell him you are asking coz you love him
And as a concerned wife you just wanna know to try to share his burden
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hyum...Originally posted by elindra:Personal Financial Consultant?
Sounds like a Personal Banker to me with a more fanciful name
Btw Personal Bankers have a very stressful job and they have targets to meet
It's normal to work past 10pm too
Looks like he is under a lot of stress.
I dunno maybe you should just talk to him about it
I mean he is your husband and won't eat you up
At this rate you will stay at home and your imagination starts to wander and thinks he is cheating on you when it is honestly work
Is it? okay elin, thanks
Wish me luck, i'll try to talk to him more thanks -
Having one or not is not the problem.Your marriage is.Pick a good time to have a heart to heart talk with your husband cuz maybe he is under some kind of work stress or something.Give him some space if thats what he needs....although I must say one week without sex for a newly wed is pretty unusual.If space is what he needed you have already given him the size of Canada>Originally posted by juz4you:I'm Female, married, 23 year old.
I've been think about this shit this few weeks, I know i might think too much about my husband, But i just can't stand it, sometimes he behave like he really hate me. The way he talk to me, see me, is just too damn cold. He give me feel that i'm a stranger, We are stranger.
It's already happened the first two months our marriage, but i keep calm, and tryin' to be patient, and think in the positive way. But he freak me out, he keep behave the same way, even worse.
Sometimes he make me feel that he just need me for cleaning he's room and ironing he's clothes, i dont know why, i just can't stand it when he talk to me in the way like he talk to the maid, he's so fierce, and looked at me like i owed he's money or whatever!
I'm so sure about my self, that i'm a good wife, I never cheated on him, always do wife's JOBS, serve for the meals, Ironing he's clothes, Clean the house. And i never asked for anything, including money. I just accept what he gave to me, i never ask for anything except he's honesty, patient, and faith.
it's been a week we never had sex, he mighted think and he said, sex is not everything. But my friends, all tell me he might have another "WIFE" there?
I keep try ev'rything to turn he's on, but it's seems doesn't work, i'm sure i never change anything from the way i'm doing it. But he seems not feel comfortable with it. I dont know what's going on with him? I know him, that he can't have he's day without masturbate(that's what he said before we married) But i dont know what happen with him, he seems so "OKAY" without sex, even in he's busy day of work.
I just scare that he found something else that can make him cettiesfied
Is he have an affair out there?
Please help me..
JL
In the meantime stay happy and positive about your partner. -
maybe this is really all that he wants you for, you just didnt know it before, until you married him and moved here.Originally posted by juz4you:I'm so sure about my self, that i'm a good wife, I never cheated on him, always do wife's JOBS, serve for the meals, Ironing he's clothes, Clean the house.
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Think about it this way
My husband works shift
And due to the weird hours he works
He is sleeping when I'm going to work and gone when I'm home
Or I just see him for a while like 1 or 2 hrs for dinner and he is off to work
We can only really spend time with each other is during his off day and if I'm not working late.
What do the both of you do during weekends?
Do you guys spend time together and do stuff together?
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So what should i do to bring my husband back ninja ?Originally posted by Short Ninja:Having one or not is not the problem.Your marriage is.Pick a good time to have a heart to heart talk with your husband cuz maybe he is under some kind of work stress or something.Give him some space if thats what he needs....although I must say one week without sex for a newly wed is pretty unusual.If space is what he needed you have already given him the size of Canada> In the meantime stay happy and positive about your partner. -
Well yes elin, we do spent weekends together, but in saturday he still have to work, and he'll get back around 2 pmOriginally posted by elindra:Think about it this way
My husband works shift
And due to the weird hours he works
He is sleeping when I'm going to work and gone when I'm home
Or I just see him for a while like 1 or 2 hrs for dinner and he is off to work
We can only really spend time with each other is during his off day and if I'm not working late.
What do the both of you do during weekends?
Do you guys spend time together and do stuff together?
How is he like during the weekends? but still i feel something's weird, something's change from him. i never see him laugh like when we're still dating, i just feel he's too serious -
I think he is troubled with somethingOriginally posted by juz4you:Well yes elin, we do spent weekends together, but in saturday he still have to work, and he'll get back around 2 pm but still i feel something's weird, something's change from him. i never see him laugh like when we're still dating, i just feel he's too serious
Sometimes when it is something big, they dun share with the wife -
maybe, he has not got used to married life?Originally posted by juz4you:Well yes elin, we do spent weekends together, but in saturday he still have to work, and he'll get back around 2 pm but still i feel something's weird, something's change from him. i never see him laugh like when we're still dating, i just feel he's too serious
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Not having sex for 1 week is not a big deal wad..... that alone should not make you feel that your hubby's getting it with someone else. Mebbe, he's just tired and stressed out which is pretty common at the office and stress is very potent in killing libido......
Since you do the laundry for your hubby, have you found anything incriminating like lipstick stain or an unfamiliar perfume, especially if it's a ladies one?
Has he any ladies' stuff with him like a photo, necklace, pendant?
Unless there is any real evidence, you are just probably paranoid.
Take the lead and try giving him a massage to increase physical intimacy gradually..... get him into the mood. Don't give him any pressure..... brfore you ahem!Good luck! -
this can really be awful like i said earlier....when guys dun talk its dangerous. so TS, find a nice quiet Saturday evening....go to somewhere nice for a stroll, hold his hand & find the right moment to have a nice talk.....thereafter, have a wonderful dinner/supper, go home & make love......wake up on Sunday morning & fix a nice breakfast for him.....bacon & eggsOriginally posted by elindra:I think he is troubled with something
Sometimes when it is something big, they dun share with the wife
nothing serious......dun worry to much k -
d truth is maybe d man u married is simply not the sensitive caring type but u didnt know tt b4 u married him. now he has went back to his true nature n u feel shortchanged.
it will not b easy to change him. -
he's crawling over your head.
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Just wondering, is this the first question you ask him when he goes home?Originally posted by juz4you:sometimes i don't know why and how, he can be so angry about little things that i asked. Like, "how come you're home so late?" is just a question right? if he really had nothing to hide why he yell at me like that?
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precious, hi..Originally posted by :Not having sex for 1 week is not a big deal wad..... that alone should not make you feel that your hubby's getting it with someone else. Mebbe, he's just tired and stressed out which is pretty common at the office and stress is very potent in killing libido......
Since you do the laundry for your hubby, have you found anything incriminating like lipstick stain or an unfamiliar perfume, especially if it's a ladies one?
Has he any ladies' stuff with him like a photo, necklace, pendant?
Unless there is any real evidence, you are just probably paranoid.
Take the lead and try giving him a massage to increase physical intimacy gradually..... get him into the mood. Don't give him any pressure..... brfore you ahem!Good luck!
Well yes, i smell some purfume, and i saw a pink STUFF, i dont know what is that, behind of he's cloth's back. But that time i still think of the positive way, i keep telling my self that's maybe the colour mixed from my pink shirt, (sounds stupid) but i just dont want to think too much