Is he having an affair?
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I'm Female, married, 23 year old.
I've been think about this shit this few weeks, I know i might think too much about my husband, But i just can't stand it, sometimes he behave like he really hate me. The way he talk to me, see me, is just too damn cold. He give me feel that i'm a stranger, We are stranger.
It's already happened the first two months our marriage, but i keep calm, and tryin' to be patient, and think in the positive way. But he freak me out, he keep behave the same way, even worse.
Sometimes he make me feel that he just need me for cleaning he's room and ironing he's clothes, i dont know why, i just can't stand it when he talk to me in the way like he talk to the maid, he's so fierce, and looked at me like i owed he's money or whatever!
I'm so sure about my self, that i'm a good wife, I never cheated on him, always do wife's JOBS, serve for the meals, Ironing he's clothes, Clean the house. And i never asked for anything, including money. I just accept what he gave to me, i never ask for anything except he's honesty, patient, and faith.
it's been a week we never had sex, he mighted think and he said, sex is not everything. But my friends, all tell me he might have another "WIFE" there?
I keep try ev'rything to turn he's on, but it's seems doesn't work, i'm sure i never change anything from the way i'm doing it. But he seems not feel comfortable with it. I dont know what's going on with him? I know him, that he can't have he's day without masturbate(that's what he said before we married) But i dont know what happen with him, he seems so "OKAY" without sex, even in he's busy day of work.
I just scare that he found something else that can make him cettiesfied
Is he have an affair out there?
Please help me..
JL -
Please post in AA
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why don't u try to have a good chat with him first? before making any assumptions. Perhaps he has a huge problem.
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wah...u register and open a subforum just to post this thread...
pei fu pei fu -
Maybe he is taking you for granted?
Sometimes guys have the mentality that you won't be able to 'run away' now that you have married him and that you will never leave so they just bo chup and stop putting in the effort. -
1 week without sex is a concern?
he has a job, its natural. -
he see u not pretty.
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One of my friend complained that sex 3 times a month is too much.
Is it really too much?
and why do you let your friends poison your mind? have you no faith in your husband at all? -
Btw if his work is stressful expect no sex for a month
And this is normal hor for a lot of ppl -
Sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with him.
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Talking about your self issit?Originally posted by elindra:Btw if his work is stressful expect no sex for a month
And this is normal hor for a lot of ppl
Just let you know you can call me anytime
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Am not talking about myselfOriginally posted by euc:Talking about your self issit?
Just let you know you can call me anytime 
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Hey guys, thanks for the comments and all the positive suports.
but i just can't keep think about it, i just don't know what happen with me. I always have a feeling or thoughtful that someday he'll cheat on me, or hurt me. Everytime he yelled on me, or talk abit loud, i feel that that is the end of my life, i just can't stop crying, my heart beat so fast, i'm shaking i don't know why i get more and more affraid to talk to him.
busy? yeah maybe, but busy until home around 9:30 pm? that's freak me out buddy
He keep asking me to be more patient, and understanding. But what about him? i know he's the one who's workin' hell he is..
but why me? he ask me to be patient, but what about him? he yell on me like that, is he a patient husband? sometimes i don't know why and how, he can be so angry about little things that i asked. Like, "how come you're home so late?" is just a question right? if he really had nothing to hide why he yell at me like that? I am he's wife, not he's maid 
Well i guess is just so right, that GUYS are EGOISM -
the above phase is irritating... when u r home feeling so tired...Originally posted by juz4you:Like, "how come you're home so late?" is just a question right?
my mum often ask me tat and sum times i juz dun talk and get into my rm... -
sometimes we guys too busy n tired after work , stress and some happy hour with clients.. come back just wanna sleep la..
but then again , 1 whole week no sex.. maybe he just dont find u attractive and couldnt get it up lo. -
u guys been married for how long
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3 times a month! TOO MUCH ?Originally posted by euc:One of my friend complained that sex 3 times a month is too much.
Is it really too much?
and why do you let your friends poison your mind? have you no faith in your husband at all?
how old is ur friend.. 80 ar! maybe 13 times a day is too much la.. -
some pple consume too much soy maybeOriginally posted by BadzMaro:3 times a month! TOO MUCH ?
how old is ur friend.. 80 ar! maybe 13 times a day is too much la.. -
Originally posted by hisoka:some pple consume too much soy maybe
13 a bit too much a day... i know. Jiat lat i tell u. 3 times a month...pfft.. =X -
Don't care about the part whether he is having an affair or not. It is bad to imagine such things.Originally posted by juz4you:I'm Female, married, 23 year old.
I've been think about this shit this few weeks, I know i might think too much about my husband, But i just can't stand it, sometimes he behave like he really hate me. The way he talk to me, see me, is just too damn cold. He give me feel that i'm a stranger, We are stranger.
It's already happened the first two months our marriage, but i keep calm, and tryin' to be patient, and think in the positive way. But he freak me out, he keep behave the same way, even worse.
Sometimes he make me feel that he just need me for cleaning he's room and ironing he's clothes, i dont know why, i just can't stand it when he talk to me in the way like he talk to the maid, he's so fierce, and looked at me like i owed he's money or whatever!
I'm so sure about my self, that i'm a good wife, I never cheated on him, always do wife's JOBS, serve for the meals, Ironing he's clothes, Clean the house. And i never asked for anything, including money. I just accept what he gave to me, i never ask for anything except he's honesty, patient, and faith.
it's been a week we never had sex, he mighted think and he said, sex is not everything. But my friends, all tell me he might have another "WIFE" there?
I keep try ev'rything to turn he's on, but it's seems doesn't work, i'm sure i never change anything from the way i'm doing it. But he seems not feel comfortable with it. I dont know what's going on with him? I know him, that he can't have he's day without masturbate(that's what he said before we married) But i dont know what happen with him, he seems so "OKAY" without sex, even in he's busy day of work.
I just scare that he found something else that can make him cettiesfied
Is he have an affair out there?
Please help me..
JL
What you should worry about is his attitude towards you. Why does he treat you like that? -
i would think at least once a week should be idealOriginally posted by euc:One of my friend complained that sex 3 times a month is too much.
Is it really too much?
and why do you let your friends poison your mind? have you no faith in your husband at all? -
What is your husband working as?Originally posted by juz4you:Hey guys, thanks for the comments and all the positive suports.
but i just can't keep think about it, i just don't know what happen with me. I always have a feeling or thoughtful that someday he'll cheat on me, or hurt me. Everytime he yelled on me, or talk abit loud, i feel that that is the end of my life, i just can't stop crying, my heart beat so fast, i'm shaking i don't know why i get more and more affraid to talk to him.
busy? yeah maybe, but busy until home around 9:30 pm? that's freak me out buddy
He keep asking me to be more patient, and understanding. But what about him? i know he's the one who's workin' hell he is.. but why me? he ask me to be patient, but what about him? he yell on me like that, is he a patient husband? sometimes i don't know why and how, he can be so angry about little things that i asked. Like, "how come you're home so late?" is just a question right? if he really had nothing to hide why he yell at me like that? I am he's wife, not he's maid Well i guess is just so right, that GUYS are EGOISM
If he is an executive, it is common and normal to work late till 9.30pm at times.
From what you wrote, can I safely say that you are a housewife?
Maybe you should start taking classes etc so that you won't be so lonely at home because the mind does wander if you have nothing to do -
exactly.. the mind wanders off.Originally posted by elindra:What is your husband working as?
If he is an executive, it is common and normal to work late till 9.30pm at times.
From what you wrote, can I safely say that you are a housewife?
Maybe you should start taking classes etc so that you won't be so lonely at home because the mind does wander if you have nothing to do
While the man busy work , thinking about money , jobs , toys...
i think TS stays home n thinks too much ? -
Hey middle, thanks for the comments.Originally posted by de_middle:u guys been married for how long
well we've been married for most 1 year, and yes it's getting sucks -
Hello juz4you,Originally posted by juz4you:I'm Female, married, 23 year old.
I've been think about this shit this few weeks, I know i might think too much about my husband, But i just can't stand it, sometimes he behave like he really hate me. The way he talk to me, see me, is just too damn cold. He give me feel that i'm a stranger, We are stranger.
It's already happened the first two months our marriage, but i keep calm, and tryin' to be patient, and think in the positive way. But he freak me out, he keep behave the same way, even worse.
Sometimes he make me feel that he just need me for cleaning he's room and ironing he's clothes, i dont know why, i just can't stand it when he talk to me in the way like he talk to the maid, he's so fierce, and looked at me like i owed he's money or whatever!
I'm so sure about my self, that i'm a good wife, I never cheated on him, always do wife's JOBS, serve for the meals, Ironing he's clothes, Clean the house. And i never asked for anything, including money. I just accept what he gave to me, i never ask for anything except he's honesty, patient, and faith.
it's been a week we never had sex, he mighted think and he said, sex is not everything. But my friends, all tell me he might have another "WIFE" there?
I keep try ev'rything to turn he's on, but it's seems doesn't work, i'm sure i never change anything from the way i'm doing it. But he seems not feel comfortable with it. I dont know what's going on with him? I know him, that he can't have he's day without masturbate(that's what he said before we married) But i dont know what happen with him, he seems so "OKAY" without sex, even in he's busy day of work.
I just scare that he found something else that can make him cettiesfied
Is he have an affair out there?
Please help me..
JL
Think you think too much and the advice from your friend are nuts !!! It will make things worst !!!
Think woman !!! If he want sex - he does not need to marry you, he can go geylang everynight have a few round every night !!! he marry you is not for sex ! You listen to your friends keep thinking of sex in your mind - no wonder - your husband see you also run !!! Put yourself in his shoe work so tired and stress come back - still have to face and fight off a sex hungry and desperate wife ..... think !!!
Sometime jobs can be very stressful... what he may really want is from a wife is to just do the basic , let him have a simple meal, bath and sleep ... if you keep thinking and trying more ... gal you just making things worst .
Why don't you just cool down and stop listen to friends ... just give him want he need for a while and see ... maybe that what he needs at the moment ...