Japanese preschool: 12 things that stun Chinese mom
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Japanese preschool: 12 things that stun Chinese mom
An expatriate Chinese mother in Kyoto, Japan, expressed her shock over the pre-school education system as well as the schooling habits of young children there. She shared her experience and observations on the Internet.
She wrote: "Before coming to Japan, Tiantian (her daughter) had already gone through a year of kindergarten in Beijing, so you could say that we are no strangers to kindergarten. But there are some things in Japanese kindergartens that have stunned me."
The following are 12 of her observations:
1. The ridiculous number of bags.
2. All these bags carried by children, while adults carry nothing.
3. Changing clothes over and over again
4. Wearing shorts in winter
5. 0-Year-Old infants competing in athletic events
6. Girls playing soccer
7. Mixed education
8. Education: All "Smiles" and "Thank you"
9. The number of activities
10. All the holidays Chinese people don't celebrate - Japanese kindergartens celebrate
11. Teachers' abilities
12. Buddhist Influences
1. The ridiculous number of bags.
"On the first day, they explained to us that we needed to prepare a certain number of bags of various sizes:
"A schoolbag, a blanket bag, a bag for eating utensils, a box for eating utensils, a bag for clothes, a bag for for changing clothes, a bag for clothes after they have been changed out of, and a bag for shoes. Then that bag A had to be of such-and-such a length, bag B had to be of such-and-such a width, bag C had to fit in bag D, and E in bag F. I just couldn't believe it.
Some kindergartens even ask mothers to make their own bags!
After two years, we're used to it, and the kids have become very good at putting things in their right place. I often think that the reason that the people of Kyoto don't mind sorting their rubbish might be because they've been taught this kind of thing from a young age."
2. All these bags carried by children, while adults carry nothing.
"This is a sight that really shocked me: when dropping kids off or picking them up, I noticed that the other Japanese adults, be they mother, father, or grandparent, were carrying absolutely nothing, while all those bags of different sizes (at the very least two or three) mentioned above were carried by those little cuties. What's more, they were running really fast!
But for us? Maybe it is out of habit, or maybe it is because it is a cultural thing, but I carried the bags, and Tiantian carried nothing.
A couple of days later the teacher came and had a chat with me: "Tiantian's mother, Tina does everything herself at school ..." Japanese people have a habit of saying only the beginning of a sentence, and letting you work out the rest yourself.
I immediately realized that she was asking about the situation at home, but seeing me thinking it over, the teacher continued, "... carrying her schoolbag for example ..." After this tactful reminder, I let Tiantian carry her own schoolbag.
When the time came for a parents' meeting, I told everyone that in China the custom was for parents to carry everything. It was the Japanese mothers' turn to be dumbfounded. As one, they asked: "Why?"
Why? Is it because we Chinese love our children a little more?"
3. Changing clothes over and over again
Tiantian's kindergarten has its own uniform; when she arrives she has to take it off, and change into overalls for playtime. She has to take off her shoes and put on white ballet shoes, when she goes into the exercise yard she has to change her shoes again. After their afternoon nap the kids have to change clothes again. A real pain.
When Tiantian was in Chrysanthemum Class she used to be so slow changing clothes, and I couldn't help but give her a hand. But I soon noticed that all of the Japanese mothers were standing to one side, not helping at all. I slowly saw that this business of changing clothes educated the children in living independently. Through things like their experiences at school, changing, sticking their daily sticker, and hanging their handkerchiefs, these kids start from when they are two or three years old to learn the habit of keeping things orderly.
4. Wearing shorts in winter
"Children in Japanese schools wear shorts in winter, no matter how cold it is. My daughter's grandparents in Beijing were very worried, and said that I had to talk to the teacher about it, because Chinese children can't stand the cold.
Wouldn't you know it, when we had just started kindergarten, practically every day she got sick. But when I talked to the Japanese mothers about it, their answer amazed me. "Of course! The reason we send our kids to kindergarten is to get sick."
Seeing the healthy energy of the children charging about like little rockets, greeting me, it occurred to me that we shouldn't spoil our kids too much."
5. 0-Year-Old infants competing in athletic events
"All classes are named after flowers. Tiantian was a chrysanthemum, then a lily, now she's one of the 'older sisters', a violet. But the little babies who haven't reached their first birthdays are all in the 'Peach Blossom' class.
These mo-mo (peaches), who haven't even reached their first birthday, have not only already started going to kindergarten, but take part in all of their major activities, like sports competitions and performances. Seeing these little mo-mocrying while crawling forward, I usually feel bad for them.
6. Girls playing soccer
"When children reach their middle year of kindergarten in Japan, they start taking weekly 'jumping' lessons, similar to our Physical Exercise lessons back home; when they get to their senior year, there is a soccer competition. When they're not practicing their drumming all day, they're practicing soccer. And they really play too, they even have competitions with other kindergartens. Tiantian has bruises from playing but her strength and bravery have been brought out.
To tell the truth, when we first came to Japan, Tiantian's performance was really shameful. Japanese kids usually start shooting up at about three or four years old, before that they are a lot shorter than Chinese kids. In Tiantian's class she was a giant, but was in actual fact quite weak.
The Japanese kids would run about outside, but Tiantian? She'd get a grain of sand in her shoe and would have to tiptoe to walk. Once there was an excursion where they went up a mountain, and she could only come down with two short Japanese kids supporting her. These uncomplaining three-year-olds, who didn't have the experience of allowing her to travel on foot up a mountain for an hour. She's better now, last year at Shangrila, in that low oxygen environment she walked for four hours without any problems.
7. Mixed education
When we were in China I saw Tiantian's kindergarten a few times. Each class would have its classes separately, but in Japan this isn't the case.
Before 9.30am, and after 3.30pm, the entire school plays together. And in the yard big kids hold little kids, little kids chase big kids, they carry on like crazy. They get to really experience having 'siblings'.
For example, in Tiantian's and the other senior year's last assembly a few days ago, after performing their piece, they said something that made all the parents cry.
"In today's assembly we're very happy, because the children from lower years performed so successfully. This is our last assembly, and when we start junior school we'll be sure to remember our friends and our kindergarten."
8. Education: All "Smiles" and "Thank you"
In this kindergarten, it seems like they don't care at all about the children's intellectual education. They don't have textbooks, just a new sketchbook every month. In the school's education plan, there aren't any subjects like mathematics, kana, art, or music. Don't even ask about English or the International Math Olympiad. They don't learn roller skating or swimming.
When you ask what they teach, you'd never guess what the answer is: "We teach the children to be all smiles!"
In Japan, no matter where you are, or to who you're talking to, "being all smiles" is most important. A girl who is "all smiles" is most beautiful.
What else do they teach? - They teach children to "say thank you".
In everything there are things that they stress here that they don't in China. But after three years I can see that Tiantian has improved in things like music, art and reading, and these improvements are from a comprehensive education.
9. The number of activities
Looking at my calendar I can see the days when I need to make lunch for Tiantian to take to school. These are the days when she has excursions. I can't count how many times she climbs mountains, how many lakes she's seen, or how many animals or plants she's gone and looked at.
Apart from that, she's also gathered acorns, made cakes, been to sports carnivals, performed for community events, had sleepovers, celebrated festivals, been at assemblies, attended temples, exhibitions ... let's just say that there have been a lot.
10. All the holidays Chinese people don't celebrate - Japanese kindergartens celebrate
"This really floored me too. Like I mentioned above, Japanese kindergartens celebrate their own traditional holidays, Girls' Day, Boys' Day, Hungry Ghost Festival ... Not only this, they also celebrate Renri (held on the 7th night of the lunar new year), and Qixi.
Today she came back, and said "Today, teacher asked how we celebrated these holidays in China, I said I didn't know". What a disgrace! Mommy doesn't know either."
11. Teachers' abilities
"In one Japanese class there are ten to thirty students, but only one teacher. In the beginning I had my doubts, if she was able to keep her eye on all of them she'd be pretty good. Then I found out that I had underestimated these Japanese kindergarten teachers. With just this one teacher, thirty children's artworks, the lead for their drumming pieces (so professional), thirty children's art, music, reading, thirty children's birthdays, their major assemblies and sports carnivals are all organised methodically and thoroughly.
Look at the teacher, she's always cool and relaxed. And she's about 50-years-old! I salute her!"
12. Buddhist Influences
"Kyoto has probably more temples than any other city in Japan, it has a kind of monastic ambiance. Tiantian has to go to temple every week for instruction. In the most important festivals she has to bow to Buddha, and there are activities on every Buddha's Birthday and Nirvana day.
Tiantian is graduating soon, yesterday she went to Nishi Honganji temple to make a wish. Tiantian was the class representative and gave Buddha some flowers. I asked her what she wished, and she said "To always trust in Buddha, to always treat others with a thankful heart, and to always heed others' words."
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All these arguments are crap and biased. Lazy to say all of them....
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Originally posted by TTFU:
All these arguments are crap and biased. Lazy to say all of them....
did u read the article properly 
this is a subjective observation from the point-of-view of a Chinese mother. there is no argument at all
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Originally posted by TTFU:
Hello... Hello...
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Interesting...
I am a person who almost never read any articles in my life before, but this is really interesting... ^^
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I find it nothing wrong.
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8. Education: All "Smiles" and "Thank you"
This explains why the japanese are polite as compare to the chinese. -
Originally posted by gunner77:
8. Education: All "Smiles" and "Thank you"
This explains why the japanese are polite as compare to the chinese.Yeah..
Anywayz...if you guys find Singapore repressive...think about how it'll be like to live there.... *shudders*
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Yeah..
Anywayz...if you guys find Singapore repressive...think about how it'll be like to live there.... *shudders*
Hmm... I don't think this is considered as repressive... Many believe that the first 3 years of a child will affect his entire life.. It's good that the parents and preschools are inculcating into the young kids the importance of responsibility/independence and accepted norms and social etiquette in the country... -
No wonder their birth rate is record low.
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Originally posted by ah_boon89:
Hmm... I don't think this is considered as repressive... Many believe that the first 3 years of a child will affect his entire life.. It's good that the parents and preschools are inculcating into the young kids the importance of responsibility/independence and accepted norms and social etiquette in the country...It's repressive in the sense that people will expect you to be polite and tactful all the time...you probably cannot even voice out contridicting thoughts or opinion...
I think I'll go crazy living there
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hmmm
this one
got good got bad la.
i quite like the all smiles and thank you
ahaha
"A girl who is "all smiles" is most beautiful."
so cute sia
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
hmmm
this one
got good got bad la.
i quite like the all smiles and thank you
ahaha
"A girl who is "all smiles" is most beautiful."
so cute sia
Ya ya...never heard of xiao li chang dao ah?
She might be thinking of ways to kill you while smiling sweetly at you
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Ya ya...never heard of xiao li chang dao ah?
She might be thinking of ways to kill you while smiling sweetly at you
牡丹花下æ»
�鬼也风�
u know u know
especially japanese 牡丹花
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
牡丹花下æ»
�鬼也风�
u know u know
especially japanese 牡丹花
-_-"
�鬼也风� this part is definitely true tho...
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but aiya
�会有日本美眉wan to kill me de la
我都酱�了
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
but aiya
�会有日本美眉wan to kill me de la
我都酱�了
lao ah pek