how to be positve in life over death of kins.
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usually when people die prematurely, their family will grief over the fact that they die young and premature and keep thinking that they have lost their sons or parents and thus feel sad and cannot get out of it.
To advise people to be more optimistic, i would urge people to reconginse a few facts of life to make them more positive in life if their kins die.
1)acknowledge that life has dangers so it can kill your kins by accident, that is a reality, and there are many ways it can happen
2)when your kins die at let say 25 years old, think of the 25 yrs you have with him and appreciate, dun keep thinking of he still got a future if he has not die. that is desiring and that is not acknowledging reality.
3)if you have miscarraige after 9months, be appreciative that you have experienced motherhood for 9 months. it is bad that you could not see and grow the child , but because you know how to manage your desire and know that how reality is like, you to not keep on depressing yourself by comparing with others who have kids.
Its not easy, and griveing is expected, but i hope these advices can move people into positive and optimistic mode in life. -
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Hmm. Aren't those universal truths? Depends on the strength of mind of the person involved though.
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still must be reminded mah. easy to say, but not easy to be strong if really happens.Originally posted by SturmDerSchatten:Hmm. Aren't those universal truths? Depends on the strength of mind of the person involved though.