i am getting skeptical
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Take this time to reflect through.Originally posted by starblue:no thanks... i rather keep it in the confines of my heaven... it's nothing big really, i'm just quite sick and tired of hearing stories of how people grow to have no feelings for the one they loved deeply then... maybe good r/s are really only found in fairy tales.... *shrugs*
You've got your own life to experience, ain't going to break you down if you're strong.
Stay focused and know that hope is always in how you see things as.
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ah Starblue, u r #55
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of course.. there r relationships tt r beautiful... most of the time.. a long-lasting marriage is proof of a beautiful relationship.. but u gotta face it.. life is like that.. if everything is just like fairy tales.. it'll b so boring..Originally posted by starblue:thanks for the admonition.. now i really CAN get my hopes high on r/s... -_-""" -
Applauding in the sense of admiring your resolve in waiting.Originally posted by starblue:i dun get applauding part... basically, i'm losing hope even before having it... lolz...
There are tons of good relationships around. In my perception, a relationship only works with effort and honesty.
Ethics versus passion.
Fairytales can come true. Its just that its not through clicking little red shoes together or reaching the end of the book. At the end of the day, you still have to deal with reality cos thats where your partner will come from. And the sooner you come to terms with it the better.
Ignorance is not bliss. -
thanks alot croc. you just made my day. -_-"Originally posted by sgboy2004:ah Starblue, u r #55
rainee jie.. it's not really that i'm afraid of getting hurt.. it's just... when i see how r/s end like that, it just makes me wonder why start one in the first place??? -
Ethics Vs PassionOriginally posted by starblue:why start one in the first place???
Cognitive dissonance.
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you start one because you want to find the right one to spend your life with. If you don't ever start, when will you ever find him? Like everything, nothing will happen if you just sit around and wait...you need to go and experience it yourselfOriginally posted by starblue:thanks alot croc. you just made my day. -_-"
rainee jie.. it's not really that i'm afraid of getting hurt.. it's just... when i see how r/s end like that, it just makes me wonder why start one in the first place???
Even if it doesnt end happily, you will have the experience that will make you wiser, and of course you will have the sweet memories to cherish always -
i have always been resolved to go into a r/s with the aim of marriage in mind. if not, i don't even want to get into that r/s. what's the point if you know you will break up in the end right???Originally posted by panicTheory:Applauding in the sense of admiring your resolve in waiting.
There are tons of good relationships around. In my perception, a relationship only works with effort and honesty.
Ethics versus passion.
Fairytales can come true. Its just that its not through clicking little red shoes together or reaching the end of the book. At the end of the day, you still have to deal with reality cos thats where your partner will come from. And the sooner you come to terms with it the better.
Ignorance is not bliss. -
*sighz.. how would u know tt it'll end like tt? i'm sure nobody goes into a relationship with e mentality tt "hey! i'm gonna end it sooner or later!" ok.. except for those casanovas or just out to play..Originally posted by starblue:thanks alot croc. you just made my day. -_-"
rainee jie.. it's not really that i'm afraid of getting hurt.. it's just... when i see how r/s end like that, it just makes me wonder why start one in the first place??? -
you won't know for sure...so you go in with the hope it will work out fine, but only God knows when you will find the right one...Originally posted by starblue:i have always been resolved to go into a r/s with the aim of marriage in mind. if not, i don't even want to get into that r/s. what's the point if you know you will break up in the end right???
Breaking up is not such a big deal...you will get over it de...at first it will be hard, but then you will learn to move on... -
i dunno.. this getting together and breaking up routine thing i see in mpst r/s around me is making me lose my patience.. my friends come to me asking for advice on how to salvage the r/s and everything...Originally posted by rainee:you won't know for sure...so you go in with the hope it will work out fine, but only God knows when you will find the right one...
Breaking up is not such a big deal...you will get over it de...at first it will be hard, but then you will learn to move on...
sometimes i just wonder, if r/s are so hard, and you'll always risk losing you guy, why get into it in the first place??? sigh... maybe i'm going to die a virgin. lolz... -
You are assuming that the guy will have a change of heart?Originally posted by starblue:i have always been resolved to go into a r/s with the aim of marriage in mind. if not, i don't even want to get into that r/s. what's the point if you know you will break up in the end right???
What happens if you do?
What happens if after the 3rd year of marriage he becomes abusive after losing his job and falling into drink. And you decide you want out. Or maybe you have a difficulty concieving kids and both of you resent each other? ( Im not cursing you so pls dont take offense. This happened to 2 couples whom I know )
Was there a point getting into it in the first place?
The keystone of this whole concept is that you never know what reality is going to come up with.
So rather be prepared for it than unprepared right?
Experience cannot be substituted with theorizing. -
*sighz.. the future is unpredictable la..
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One who's in love jumps.
Another ask...why are you so stupid? Why in the world did you jump?
People jump and fall....
Because that's what people do.
They leap and hope to God they can fly because otherwise.
You just drop like a rock, wondering the whole way down,
why in the hell did I jump?
But here I am, falling and the only one that makes me feel like I can fly is you.
Hypothetically strange, but true. -
I have already told you the reason many times. You get into it for the hope it will work out well. If you keep thinking it wun work, it will not work in the end. This is another example of self fulfilling prophecy at work.Originally posted by starblue:i dunno.. this getting together and breaking up routine thing i see in mpst r/s around me is making me lose my patience.. my friends come to me asking for advice on how to salvage the r/s and everything...
sometimes i just wonder, if r/s are so hard, and you'll always risk losing you guy, why get into it in the first place??? sigh... maybe i'm going to die a virgin. lolz...
You get into it because it is worth it to get hurt just to find the right someone for you, because even when you have to go thru a lot of hurt and painful experiences, once you have found him, you will be glad you have tried and not just do nothing...because if you didn't try in the first place, wud you have met him in the end? -
great.. now you're delved into another district i have been trying to avoid... marriage.
everybody knows people change. they can't possibly stay the same through the years... you get married, being the happiest, prettiest bride ever. and then, 5, 10, 15 years down the road, you find that hey, marriage isn't happily ever after. he begins to drink and get violent. she rejects your advances for intimacy. he is not working consistently. she is always harping about money. the kids are getting difficult. the house's getting cramped up with sht.
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I highly doubt this. The ratio of men to women between the ages of 15 - 65 is 1:1.Originally posted by starblue:sigh... maybe i'm going to die a virgin. lolz...
Ok scratch that. Its a silly nonsense argument.
If, on your death bed, you are still a virgin, find the strength to pm me. I will make my way there to applaud you yet again. ( thats if Im not dead ) -
lolz.. what's with this applauding thing again???Originally posted by panicTheory:I highly doubt this. The ratio of men to women between the ages of 15 - 65 is 1:1.
Ok scratch that. Its a silly nonsense argument.
If, on your death bed, you are still a virgin, find the strength to pm me. I will make my way there to applaud you yet again. ( thats if Im not dead )
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ahahha since we are in this. Lets bring on more reality. What happens when you find your sexual orientation isnt restricted to the opposite sex?Originally posted by starblue:great.. now you're delved into another district i have been trying to avoid... marriage.
everybody knows people change. they can't possibly stay the same through the years... you get married, being the happiest, prettiest bride ever. and then, 5, 10, 15 years down the road, you find that hey, marriage isn't happily ever after. he begins to drink and get violent. she rejects your advances for intimacy. he is not working consistently. she is always harping about money. the kids are getting difficult. the house's getting cramped up with sht.
how? if perfect r/s can end up with marriage, what happens if the marriage isn't perfect?
Bisexuality isnt a big a social stigma as it once was. And finding happiness where you can get it is way better than suffering in silence.
An ex gf of mine is now a lesbian. It wasnt because our relationship wasnt working out, rather she felt her inclination was towards her own sex more than it is with the opposite. This is perfectly acceptable to me as I often question my own sexuality.
Im not a raging gay, neither am I a homophobe. Religious connotations aside, as long as you are comfortable. -
A hard job done always deserves witnessing and recognition.Originally posted by starblue:lolz.. what's with this applauding thing again??? -
Originally posted by M©+square:One who's in love jumps.
Another ask...why are you so stupid? Why in the world did you jump?
People jump and fall....
Because that's what people do.
They leap and hope to God they can fly because otherwise.
You just drop like a rock, wondering the whole way down,
why in the hell did I jump?
But here I am, falling and the only one that makes me feel like I can fly is you.
Hypothetically strange, but true. -
Originally posted by rainee:
It is all up to her now. -
so....might you be available, hmm?
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hard job?? lolz.. being a virgin is hard work??? haha... i'm sorry.. couldn't help it... muahahahahahaha......Originally posted by panicTheory:A hard job done always deserves witnessing and recognition.
anyways, sexuality isn't a problem for me. i do not have conflicts wadsoever with that, cos i only oogle at guys.
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me?? you askinng me?? available for wad?Originally posted by the.raven:so....might you be available, hmm?