A Friendster chat with an ITE girl
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Once a gal chatted me up on Friendster, saying that she wanted to get to know me.
Flattered, I introduced myself with the normal stuff: name, age, where I'm studying, etc, etc.
Then she replied (these were her exact words):
'....i'm studying at ITE. i tink u won't bother bout me after gettin my msg cz im an ite student... tts wat normally happen wen da clever mit da stupid.....'
I replied to her, saying that I don't discriminate based on education level (or any other reason, for that matter), and that I have several good friends from ITE (and I really do). To quote my exact words:
'.....the fact that you're from ITE is not an issue to me. I have a number of close friends from ITE whom I can get along with well, and I do not see them as stupider than I am, or myself as smarter than they are.'
Even so, I never heard from her again. Ever.
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u shld reply..
"..... no la.. where gt smarter.. we sama sama la. i gt frens in ite oso, they very de good one. we can oso be good frens one." -
so pple do actually make friends on friendsters arh?
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You shld tell her, "I smoke too."
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she feels inferior
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wah u must be an yandao guy
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Originally posted by fudgester:
actually after thinking abit, i guess you were too formal and speaking in a way that might be out of her comfort zone. this is judging from the message she sent and not the fact that shes from ite
Once a gal chatted me up on Friendster, saying that she wanted to get to know me.
Flattered, I introduced myself with the normal stuff: name, age, where I'm studying, etc, etc.
Then she replied (these were her exact words):
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'....i'm studying at ITE. i tink u won't bother bout me after gettin my msg cz im an ite student... tts wat normally happen wen da clever mit da stupid.....'
I replied to her, saying that I don't discriminate based on education level (or any other reason, for that matter), and that I have several good friends from ITE (and I really do). To quote my exact words:
'.....the fact that you're from ITE is not an issue to me. I have a number of close friends from ITE whom I can get along with well, and I do not see them as stupider than I am, or myself as smarter than they are.'
Even so, I never heard from her again. Ever.
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Well, I never try to make anyone feel inferior.Originally posted by missqi:she feels inferior
For me to discriminate on the basis on education level is really dumb. I have friends from all types of education backgrounds, ranging from primary school dropouts to PhD holders. And that's not because of some forced affirmative action policies, but because they're genuinely nice people who happened to cross paths with me in the course of my life.
Oh well... I guess there's not much I can do if she wants to stick to this mindset of hers. -
Ditto. Because you answered her in perfect English.Originally posted by missqi:she feels inferior
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ya ... your english too power ... come ... learn from us and you will get to know more girls .. lol
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ya lor.. reply singlish with singlish ma.Originally posted by hisoka:actually after thinking abit, i guess you were too formal and speaking in a way that might be out of her comfort zone. this is judging from the message she sent and not the fact that shes from ite -
Yep, this is a rule of the mating game.Originally posted by Ito_^:ya lor.. reply singlish with singlish ma. -
Originally posted by fudgester:
mi tink the way u say it must have scare her off...
Once a gal chatted me up on Friendster, saying that she wanted to get to know me.
Flattered, I introduced myself with the normal stuff: name, age, where I'm studying, etc, etc.
Then she replied (these were her exact words):
[b]
'....i'm studying at ITE. i tink u won't bother bout me after gettin my msg cz im an ite student... tts wat normally happen wen da clever mit da stupid.....'
I replied to her, saying that I don't discriminate based on education level (or any other reason, for that matter), and that I have several good friends from ITE (and I really do). To quote my exact words:
'.....the fact that you're from ITE is not an issue to me. I have a number of close friends from ITE whom I can get along with well, and I do not see them as stupider than I am, or myself as smarter than they are.'
Even so, I never heard from her again. Ever.
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Hmm... I won't disagree with what you say. I guess I was pretty formal in my speech.Originally posted by hisoka:actually after thinking abit, i guess you were too formal and speaking in a way that might be out of her comfort zone. this is judging from the message she sent and not the fact that shes from ite
At the same time, though, it would also be pretty much out of my comfort zone to talk in a less-than-formal language while explaining to her that I don't practice discrimination of any sort.
I guess I need to brush up a little on being able to communicate effectively. -
Originally posted by fudgester:
Once a gal chatted me up on Friendster, saying that she wanted to get to know me.
Flattered, I introduced myself with the normal stuff: name, age, where I'm studying, etc, etc.
Then she replied (these were her exact words):
[b]
'....i'm studying at ITE. i tink u won't bother bout me after gettin my msg cz im an ite student... tts wat normally happen wen da clever mit da stupid.....'
>>> you shld reply:"so wat?"
I replied to her, saying that I don't discriminate based on education level (or any other reason, for that matter), and that I have several good friends from ITE (and I really do). To quote my exact words:
'.....the fact that you're from ITE is not an issue to me. I have a number of close friends from ITE whom I can get along with well, and I do not see them as stupider than I am, or myself as smarter than they are.'
Even so, I never heard from her again. Ever.
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Originally posted by fudgester:
Your reply is a little too "correctly spelt and grammatically correct" if you know what I mean... the wording used must be a little more "singlish" like one of the other replies used by ito.. This is just my opinion but I believe she got intimidated by your background and hence felt she cannot match up to you, this is further reinforced by your reply back to her..
Once a gal chatted me up on Friendster, saying that she wanted to get to know me.
Flattered, I introduced myself with the normal stuff: name, age, where I'm studying, etc, etc.
Then she replied (these were her exact words):
[b]
'....i'm studying at ITE. i tink u won't bother bout me after gettin my msg cz im an ite student... tts wat normally happen wen da clever mit da stupid.....'
I replied to her, saying that I don't discriminate based on education level (or any other reason, for that matter), and that I have several good friends from ITE (and I really do). To quote my exact words:
'.....the fact that you're from ITE is not an issue to me. I have a number of close friends from ITE whom I can get along with well, and I do not see them as stupider than I am, or myself as smarter than they are.'
Even so, I never heard from her again. Ever.
Comments? [/b]
Else there can be 101 other reasons? Move on bro. -
x2...Originally posted by hisoka:actually after thinking abit, i guess you were too formal and speaking in a way that might be out of her comfort zone. this is judging from the message she sent and not the fact that shes from ite -
its not just the no singlish or singlish, its like the way you phrase it, the no typo flawless spelling and punctuation, etc. and hof course the trun of phrase the tone, hard to actually pin it downOriginally posted by fudgester:Hmm... I won't disagree with what you say. I guess I was pretty formal in my speech.
At the same time, though, it would also be pretty much out of my comfort zone to talk in a less-than-formal language while explaining to her that I don't practice discrimination of any sort.
I guess I need to brush up a little on being able to communicate effectively.
but no prob i can communicate fine with you it seems too bad neither of us are female -
Yeah I know.... I've moved on a long time ago. This thing happened weeks ago, and it sure as heck didn't bother me at all.Originally posted by DriftingGuy:Your reply is a little too "correctly spelt and grammatically correct" if you know what I mean... the wording used must be a little more "singlish" like one of the other replies used by ito.. This is just my opinion but I believe she got intimidated by your background and hence felt she cannot match up to you, this is further reinforced by your reply back to her..
Else there can be 101 other reasons? Move on bro.
I'm just asking you guys for comments on this little incident, that's all. -
You could try wearing a skirt.Originally posted by hisoka:its not just the no singlish or singlish, its like the way you phrase it, the no typo flawless spelling and punctuation, etc. and hof course the trun of phrase the tone, hard to actually pin it down
but no prob i can communicate fine with you it seems too bad neither of us are female
Then we can test out our communication skills. -
Well there is a reason why matchmaking in the past favors people from the same level in society. Partly also because they can get along better and have more things to talk about and relate too?
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Hmm... I won't disagree with that....Originally posted by DriftingGuy:Well there is a reason why matchmaking in the past favors people from the same level in society. Partly also because they can get along better and have more things to talk about and relate too?
But surely there have to be more areas of commonality than just education level. -
Yup!Originally posted by CoolMyth:Ditto. Because you answered her in perfect English.
Fudge, I think with such girls, you must do a sitrep, then organise your psyops to slowly adapt from native situation until there is a successful and comfortable transition.
But that's if you are interested to get to know her better..if not, just leave it as it is. -
Yeah, but I don't sadly see utopia around either.. at most, the gulf isn't very far in reality, despite how we'd like to think the world should be, all fair in love and war.Originally posted by fudgester:Hmm... I won't disagree with that....
But surely there have to be more areas of commonality than just education level.
Oh well, you'll find someone man! Don't be disheartened.
(Bro, you might want to leave education/intelligence related remarks out of the initial conversation, no matter how well-intentioned you are)
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Yeah I know... like I said, it's just a little incident that happened a few weeks ago.Originally posted by LazerLordz:Yup!
Fudge, I think with such girls, you must do a sitrep, then organise your psyops to slowly adapt from native situation until there is a successful and comfortable transition.
But that's if you are interested to get to know her better..if not, just leave it as it is.
If she's got it firmly in her mind that I look down on her, then no amount of modifications in my communications skills is gonna change things.
She shut me out before I even got the chance to get to know her better. No big loss to me, I say. If anything, I think I've gained something from this little incident - namely, how to better communicate with others. I suppose I sometimes forget that not everyone is tuned in to the same frequency.
In addition, my years of being a debater have imparted a strong sense of formality in my speech which may be misconstrued as aloofness by some.
Anyway, time to go. Early night tonight, followed by a whole day of mugging tomorrow.