Are We too quick to judge ppl

• StarPuppy

  25 Jun 05, 10:26

  I had a talk with my friend yesterday...We were talking about this guy(lets name him B)
  
  Friend:I hate B
  
  Me:Why?
  
  Friend: He thinks i am flithy rich and he always talks behind my back, saying that i am stupid enough to treat him and if i dun...he says i am stingy...We all know hes poor and still he go get himself a g/f....Shouldn't he use that money that he have to spend it on himself instead
  
  Me:Hmmm......
  
  Friend: He spends his whole holidays at home...if he is so free, why can't he go out and find work and instead ask us friends for money
  
  Me: hmm...i understand what u mean....You done with what u wanted to say yet?
  
  Friend:Ya...i guess so
  
  Me:You see.....If i were in your shoes....i will also be angry at him for doing that...Next time,just don't treat him...just treat him when u feel like it,dun treat him because u feel like it.
  How do we know that the money is being splurged on his g/f? we are not his g/f,we do not have any proof either
  And before u start saying his lazy...i would like to tell you that his parents refuse to let him go out.....u not knowing that...cannot be too quick to judge on whats going on.
  
  Are we too quick to judge ppl at times, we are not them and thus cannot judge a person.....
  
  example: If that guy always answers before he thinks, we should not call him stupid. We should say that he is too quick in answering,maybe he wants to let everyone he knows or he thinks he knows and wants to give it a try?
  
  We cannot presume that we know him....we are not him...we are just viewing from the outside...
  
  The only person who knows him well enough would be:
  
  1) himself
  2) His family (some parents dun even know their children)
  
  
  (Moral of the convo is: Don't presume to know the person inner-out but instead look at a person at all views even so don't CLAIM that he such-such a person)
  
  Just wanted to share this with everyone!
• ^spidee^

  25 Jun 05, 10:37

  Thanks for sharing, I'm guilty of doing that sometimes. So I guess it's true to never judge a book by its cover..
• OldAhPek

  25 Jun 05, 10:52

  U cant talk sense into someone who is fuming at that moment
  
  Some 'friends' just want to 'eat' you,
  and take advantage of your kindness
  serious, such people do exist
  
  People who are quick to judge tend to be 'self protecting'
  okie its a nicer word for 'selfish'
  
  They often view things in one narrow perspective
  such that outsiders are always in the wrong
  Thats not good.
  
  But then again there wldnt be smoke without fire
  unless its pure backstabbing
  
  There's a chinese saying:
  Hai ren zi xin bu ke you
  Fang ren zi xin bu ke wu
• Patrik

  25 Jun 05, 10:58

  You think you know me?
  Think again.
  
• Gackt247

  26 Jun 05, 13:20

  Humans r judgemental coz we have analytical brains. Unless u r retarded, a person will always be judgemental in varying degrees. Judgemental is not necessarily a bad thing either.
• sgboy2004

  26 Jun 05, 13:25

  now stop calling croco topid ok, mi is dumb, not topid
• Gackt247

  26 Jun 05, 13:27

  Originally posted by sgboy2004:

  now stop calling croco topid ok, mi is dumb, not topid

  +1
  
  *3 cheers n 3 cheers for dumb Croco, hip hip hooray.. hip hip hooray..*
  
  
• pisces8

  3 Jul 05, 18:24

  Yes, we have to learn to be slow in judging ppl.