Confused
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I known her since year 2000 when I was Secondary 1. I was always fond of her, but being the introvert type, I have difficulties talking to girls yet alone talking to the girl I like. I was in the same class as her and eventually joined the same CCA as her. We never talked much, unless its for work.
Quoted the above from the Dating forum.
I used to stalked her whenever I got the chance to, I would wait for her to leave school first before slowly following her behind to the busstop. I was always stealing glances at her. She would looked back but I would looked away. Somehow, I think she never looked away, unless I did first and somehow, I think she knew I had a crush on her.
I remembered that there was once, my friends, all girls including her and I were walking towards the staircase. I being the shy one towards girls walked quickly towards the staircase and realised that the gate was locked. I had no choice but to walked back. Then she asked me, whether the gate was locked and I nodded my head shyly.
During Racial Harmony Day, I was stalking her back to her class as usual. Then I passby a group of my ex-classmates taking class photo. They asked me to join in the photo taking but I refused until she asked me to, when I nodded my head shyly again. It was like somehow she knew I would do it if she asked.
There was this time, when I was walking home with my friend. She walked pass and talked to my friend, asking him why he liked that particular girl. I started laming with my friend but she was totally ignoring my presence.
I remembered during 1 of my O'Levels paper I overheard 2 of my friend's conversation, it was about her saying something about me.
Then we graduate from Secondary School. It was on the day we collect our O'Levels results. I told myself that it might be my last chance so I should at least ask for her handphone number but my friend had to call me back to ask about my results. I thought it was time to move on, there was nothing else I could do.
Somehow, a friend of my manage to tricked me into telling him who I had a crush on.
Then one fine day, my friend SMSed me to attend a school function. I thought she might be there, so I went. She went too and her facial reaction when she saw me was, "Oh! He came too?" That day, the teachers wanted to keep in contact with us, so the teacher passed a piece of paper around for us to write our contact number. The paper was passed to her and after she written her number I thought she might passed it to me because I was the only one that haven't wrote my number down, but no she passed it back to the other guy that passed her that paper.
I was then catching up with my friends when I saw her stealing a glance of me. After that she came and sat beside me and asked me about where I was schooling and stuff like that and I gave direct answers. The teacher was giving a long speech as usual and I commented to myself about how the teacher keeps repeating himself. She laughed. I was holding my handphone in my hands and she was holding hers in her hands. She then asked me, what model what my handphone. I gave a direct answer again.
After that my friends and I went home together. We hanged around for a while, she exclaimed to another friend of hers, a girl that she was hungry and wanted to eat bread. I always wondered if that meant anything. That day she went to a different busstop to take a bus home.
A few days later, that was another school function, I thought she wouldn't come, but she did and she gave me that "Oh! He came?" kind of facial expression again. Then I took a glance at her and this time when she looked back I didn't really looked away immediately and she didn't looked away too. We were staring at each other until I chicken out and looked away. That day, I went home with a bunch of friends and as usal I was walking alone at the back. She turned back and looked at me while I looked away.
3 months later, I got her handphone number from my friend. I finally got the courage to confront her. I asked her what she would like for Christmas but she never replied until after Christmas, told me she had a great time for Christmas. I wished her Merry Christmas on Christmas Day and she wished me back.
The following day, I wished her "Good Night" and she replied with one of those fun SMS messages friends always sent to one another. I wished her "Good Night" on the next day too but there was no reply. I was scared and decided to chicken out by telling her I won't bother her again but she replied, she asked me who I was. How could she not know who I was when she was SMSing me during those few days? I was confused.
Then the following day after that incident, I saw her shopping with her father. I really didn't noticed she was there until I felt someone looking at me and I looked back. There she was behind me, looking at me. I looked away in a hurry. That following Saturday, I tried to asked her out but there was no reply.
Since then, I SMSed her everyonce a week, same time, same day, everyweek to wished her "Good Night." She never replied to those SMSes. Then one day, the Wednesday before Chinese New Year she send me a Chinese New Year SMS message. I was surprised and when I wished her Happy Chinese New Year and she wished me back too. I wished her Happy Valentine's Day she wished me back too with one of those fun SMS messages, something about be filled with love.
The other, she came online. I didn't know until my friend told me because I never had the courage to Add her to my Contact List. My friend told me she mistook him for me. I guess thats because my friend Added her to his Contact List recently and never really chattted with her.
Last Saturday, I did my usual sending of "Good Night" SMS message to her but this time I decided to sent it a little later, about an hour or so later. She replied with one of those fun SMS messages. I don't know if it means anything but the message she send says that someday I would forget about her and it was a gift knowing me or something like that.
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So I continued with sending her "Good Night" messages. One fine night, after I send her, she replied, she send me back a "Good Night" message. It was the first time, she bidded me good night. The week after she didn't send me anything but the week after that, she send me a "Good Night" message at 1:00+ AM, even though I send her at 11:00+ PM.
I saw her online last week, it was the second time I saw her online ever since I Added her to my Contacts. It was a known fact by all of my friends that she seldom came online. I didn't dare to chat with her, I didn't know what to say to her anyway.
Yesterday, I decided to try something different. Instead of bidding her good night, I send her an SMS asking her whether she has slept already? Although not immediately, she replied no and asked me why. I replied nothing, I had nothing to do. Then at 12:00+ AM, I send her another message asking her what she is doing, but she never replied. My online pal said that she was probably sleeping.
I haven't met her since February or March when I bumped into her at a shopping centre, I ran away. I wondered if she saw me.
She's the kind that smiles at everyone that passes by her, my friend told me he wondered if her face ever cramps from smiling but I don't remember seeing her smile at me. I overheard once, my friend telling another friend that she said I was handsome but how could that be? I suffer from acne, not that serious but not that not serious too.
What I should do now?
Can anyone help me analyse the situation?
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Becuz she was trying to push you away to someone else.
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I overheard it from a male.Originally posted by Ito_^:Becuz she was trying to push you away to someone else. 
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long storyy.
you got to gather all your courage and start making friends with her; as in start chatting instead of just messaging "good night" only. you can also try chatting with her in msn.
this needs some initiative dude.
i wish you all the best!
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U need 2 hav courage.....u miss out on a lot of chances liao...
If u still dun chrish...soon, it will be impossible liao!!
So my advise to u is to let her noe, who u r?
her classmate, den from ther bcum frans.... take a step slowly by a time...u 're not gettin anywhere if u still stay e same! -
Ai jiu yao gan gan ai~!
Declare your feelings to her lor.
Like that keep guessing also getting you nowhere. -
before declaring must make friends first actually.Originally posted by browniebaobao:Ai jiu yao gan gan ai~!
Declare your feelings to her lor.
Like that keep guessing also getting you nowhere.
cannot go straight to her and say "i love you"
like tt sure get slapped or kicked.
jiayou mann. -
Dear Guilmon1987,
My advice for your first step is to get to know her more.
From your post, seems like you have only begun the small step of friendship, but why not take it a step forward and know her better? Who knows? She might be the one for you
Instead of going up to her now and say "I Like You", maybe it's time to make steps to get to know her better
Regards,
Ah Death
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I know but how should I go about doing it. I don't even see her regularly anymore, I might not even get to see her again.
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my godd.Originally posted by Guilmon1987:I know but how should I go about doing it. I don't even see her regularly anymore, I might not even get to see her again.
chat in msn or through handphone messages!
you don't need to chat with her face-to-face.
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Dear Guilmon1987,
Your story may be long, but the solution is actually very simple.
When you like this girl and you do not know whether the love is reciprocated, you tend to speculate a lot. You would think of the different scenarios and start to ponder whether those little actions mean anything at all. In reality, most, if not all people do these kind of things. Unless you ask the girl, you will be in confusion for a long long time. This is because you may not really know how she really feels just by trying to dissect those little things that happened. Besides, you do not even know her well enough to analyse her actions.
You mentioned that you are very shy towards girls. This is just your excuse of fear towards failures in relationship. Talking and making friends with girls is nothing hard to do. Just treat them as normal friends and do not try to view every girl you meet as a potential hook-up or sex partner. It is really easy talking to a friend isn't it?
In conclusion, get to know the girl better and talk to her more. No use speculating over this kind of things. It's really pointless to do so. -
How to start?Originally posted by vIn.Warrior:my godd.
chat in msn or through handphone messages!
you don't need to chat with her face-to-face.
again, it's all initiative.
Chat about what?
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you may wish to:Originally posted by Guilmon1987:How to start?
Chat about what?
What if get ignored?
start by saying "hi" or some greeting.
you can chat by saying "how's life" etc.
maybe chat bout where she's studying or chat bout her exams, cca or others.
try chatting bout things that are lively and relaxing.
you can ask her bout her family; if she have any siblings or not, wad's her favourite past-time etc.
in the meantime, you'll get to know her better too!
i suggest you trying msn.
the subject of conversation depends on you actually.
maybe add in some jokes in the conversation at times?
you must show that you're enthusiastic in chatting with her.
well, in this way she will feel comfortable to chat with you and might even wish to chat with you in future too!
if the reply is not immediate so means she's busy or something.
pple don't ignore others without any vaild reason; so don't think otherwise.
think positive dude.
just relax and start a conversation with her.
you got to be yourself.
remember, use your initiative!
all the BEST. -
either do something or lose her thats all.
You are not the only guy on this planet and there are guys who are more better then you.
From what i see and your sms, I can only feel what the girl will say.
" Super sian this guy always sms for what ? "
"Ask me sleep liao or not, so bo liao"
Either start going up to her to chat or ask her out.
Girls do not like guys who are weak and your ability to rely only on sms is just not good enough.
I was once like you, playing the sms game and I lost to a guy who is more active in asking her out.
Is your life, all I can do is only advice. If you wish to countinue the sms game by all means go ahead. -
Dear Guilmon1987,
It depends on the gal's attitude towards you when you sms/msn her...really...some who are interested in talking to you would definitely spend time answering your questions, while there are others who would just ignore...so...all the best
Regards,
Ah Death -
Huh? But from the SMS can see she is half-half.Originally posted by deathscythe99:Dear Guilmon1987,
It depends on the gal's attitude towards you when you sms/msn her...really...some who are interested in talking to you would definitely spend time answering your questions, while there are others who would just ignore...so...all the best
Regards,
Ah Death
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Dear Guilmon1987,Originally posted by Guilmon1987:Huh? But from the SMS can see she is half-half.
I see, well, you've to ride it out and see how it goes. Present yourself as someone engaging, yet not one to pry on her secrets or being a nuisance to her. It's a matter of being lucky too
So good luck!
Regards,
Ah Death -
Dear Guilmon1987,Originally posted by Guilmon1987:Huh? But from the SMS can see she is half-half.
She may be half-half. But who are u to complain? You are also half-half what. You said that you are unsure of your feeling towards her. Why not seize this chance and assess your true feelings towards her. Why not be friends with her first? Ask yourself whether you truely love her or not. -
Junior Colleage having examination/study break, what should I do not to disturb her?
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Originally posted by Guilmon1987:Junior Colleage having examination/study break, what should I do not to disturb her?
dont contact her...
silly lah...maybe take note when she got papers...then wish her good morning / offers to give her morning call / buy her breakfast on her exams or what -
So wad e outcome liao??
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David Tao-Regular Friends
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Originally posted by Patrik:David Tao-Regular Friends
evil leh u -
Can somebody teach me an SMS opening line? I really don't know how to start an SMS chat.
Last Saturday night, while it was raining heavily, I SMSed her "Raining?" She replied "ya.." Then I replied back "Hai... Here also raining..." Then she didn't replied.
Yesterday afternoon, I SMSed her "Wei..." But she didn't replied.
I also realised that most of my friends tend to ignore my SMSes, besides those few close friends that know me inside out. I guess this isn't about her but my character? -
Dear Guilmon,Originally posted by Guilmon1987:Can somebody teach me an SMS opening line? I really don't know how to start an SMS chat.
Last Saturday night, while it was raining heavily, I SMSed her "Raining?" She replied "ya.." Then I replied back "Hai... Here also raining..." Then she didn't replied.
Yesterday afternoon, I SMSed her "Wei..." But she didn't replied.
I also realised that most of my friends tend to ignore my SMSes, besides those few close friends that know me inside out. I guess this isn't about her but my character?
When u sms ppl....u have to have a question and answer opening for tat someone to reply to....for example....u msg her 'here also raining'....this statement serves as a information rather than a question so how u expect her to ans u leh....
try the following bah:-
'Raining?.....weather cold? eaten?..........short and short and u can await for her reply....
or
Hey, its a hot afternoon, what r u doing? want to meet-up for ice-cream??
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hi, u at home now? just watch chan 5 news, there is smthing interesting to share with u.......or watch chan 8 now.....the show very funny leh!
this are just some examples my frd sms me thru out the day.....hope its of use to you....hope i have answered ur initial question.....all the best....
Ah Cind
UA