Help me...i am so pressured
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I dunno how to say it,i thinking reading my post will give u a brief idea...i just dun know how to let it go.....its not so easy...i am anti-social and ppl dun like me,its not that i am irriating or what,i am just too quiet(I everyday home and back,no life)
1st thread
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=115819
2nd thread
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=115972
3rd thread
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=126907
I still have feelings for her but i know very clearly that she dun like me and somemore she treats me like paper,need help in english den talk to me,no need den leave me alone....Sorry if its long
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Dear StarPuppy,
From the 3 threads that you have provided, it seems that you fell out with your crush over some personal matters.
Chronology:
1. You declared your undying love for her during Christmas. However, she did not reciprocate although she did receive the sms. However, you did not clarify with her.
2. You still have feelings for her.
3. You no longer have feelings for her, but you are afraid that the feelings may rekindle due to you giving her tuition in English.
Presently, you realised that you do have feelings for her, but think that she treats you like dirt.
In addition, you mentioned that you do not understand girls, and that you are anti-social.
Have you ever ask yourself whether do you really like this girl, or is it just puppy-love. What do you really like about her. Before you declare your undying love to anybody, you will have to ask yourself these question and more. It is easy to say "I Love You". But, do you really mean it? Do not say for the sake of saying it. (Uncle just realised this recently
) Only when you have really answered all these question truthfully, then will you realised how much you really love that person.
As for understanding girls, Uncle is not able to help you on that. This is because Uncle do not have the answer himself.
Try to mix around with your friends more. If you dont make the first move, don't expect others to come and mix around with you.
Good luck in your studies and relationship -
I know how u feel.. maybe more abt teenagehood then u do right now.. i've gotten out of tt phase not too long ago.
Learn to take things easily. At ur age, dun commit to readily. Dun emphasise too much on bgr n stuff. Trust me.. once u get out of tt phase in a few yrs time, u'll kick urself for wasting time n effort on such stuff.
I went thru r/s n sch life etc.. everyone would have tasted the bitter taste of crushes n sch hardships n sch b|tching. Telling u now to free ur mind.. to take things less seriously.. to go with the flow.. is not sth tt is easy to achieve. It took me a very long period of time b4 i finally wisen up. Sometimes life can be a b|tch.. so one have to learn not to take sh|t thrown at u too seriously. Move on..
Abt ur crush.. i cant do much to help u change the girl's feelings towards u.
Regarding for ur introverted character.. it's up to u to change urself. It's also not an easy thing to do.. but it can be done.
U cant physically change how pple feel towards u.. but u definitely can change urself for the better.. which in turn will probably change the way others treat, approach n feel towards u.
But of course.. do not change for the sake of others.. it's not wise.. coz u wont be urself.. all fake. Change for ur own sake for the better.
So stop despairing n self-pitying n do sth constructive for urself.. -
Dear Puppy,
Do update us on your progress
We do hope to hear good news from you 
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I am only worried on what to say if she asks if i still like her,i am so confused now...... i like her and care for her but not as much in the begaining
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Update:
6:00pm: I was surfing through sgforums,seeing ppl tok crap when.......
*pling* hmm...must be my god-sistalking about her stead again.. when i looked at my h/p "you got new message from ******" I was thinking "hello,why she sms me?" nevertheless it was about something that happen during PE.
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(M=Me) (H=Her)
H=I worried...just now i help my friend cheat a few round...i scared i get punished
M=no need to worry,just say that u didn't see ur friend running the last few rounds
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H=But my poor friend....i drag her down
M=Is she angry,if she is not angry,its ok la ^,^
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H=I feel so guilty,i cannot do bad things or i will feel guilty
M=If u know it is bad but u want to help the person,its ok la...don't worry so much,ok? ^.^
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(after 30 mins)
M=Tomorrow MTL test,u must get A1 or A2.u very good in chinese ^^
H=I never study de,i very lazy,i always sleep....I hope i want to get A1 also....
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M:U neva study meh? how come ur result so good?
H:I really never study,I sleep more than i study
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M=So u got study but its a bit only....so u eat already? ^_^
H=I very lazy.....I haven eat yet
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M=Dinner haven cook yet izit?
H=My mother and brother go out thats why i haven eat
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M=Then u go downstairs buy something to eat la....u cannot skip meal,if skip too many times will get stomach pain de ^-^
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Hi there,
again, i've only this phrase for you, " Don't be a Gu Niang"....
Anti-social's not an excuse. There's no way one can understand the other well..even twins don't understand so well...anyway..out of point liaoz...
The point's that you're assuming that she doesn't like you based on the impressions n feedbacks she has given to you...well...you need an answer, boi...an answer to another opening to your life...don't just stand there...
Be it the answer you get from is positive or negative, all you need is just an answer for yourself....
If positive, well...good for you.
If negative, what to do..move on n make more friends...from there, you'll get to gain your confidence... -
Dear StarPuppy,
She has already made the 1st move by contacting you first. So what is stopping you? Go on and get to know her better. Only then will you be able to make a decision as to whether the 2 of you shld just remain as frens, or should you pluck up your courage to woo her.
No use speculating whether she is interested in you ornot right? All of us here do not know her at all to make such an accurate speculation.
Get to know her better. See if whether the 2 of u are suited for each other.
Uncle pig -
Maybe she is contacting me as i am her english tution teacher and somemore i know the details about the PE thingy besides i cannot woo her...because if i fail,then very paiseh to both of us (rather me)Originally posted by bratpig:Dear StarPuppy,
She has already made the 1st move by contacting you first. So what is stopping you? Go on and get to know her better. Only then will you be able to make a decision as to whether the 2 of you shld just remain as frens, or should you pluck up your courage to woo her.
No use speculating whether she is interested in you ornot right? All of us here do not know her at all to make such an accurate speculation.
Get to know her better. See if whether the 2 of u are suited for each other.
Uncle pig
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hmm...up to you ba...but the greatest failure in one's life is failing to do anything....can't tell u what to do...but just make sure you wont have any regrets in life....living with regrets is the most painful thing that can happen to anyoneOriginally posted by StarPuppy:Maybe she is contacting me as i am her english tution teacher and somemore i know the details about the PE thingy besides i cannot woo her...because if i fail,then very paiseh to both of us (rather me)