social phobia and NS

• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 01:48

  Bah...
  
  i think i regret hinting i have social phobia during the questionarres in the PC at CMPB...the one where they ask u alot of Qs.. like do u smoke and what nots..
  
  i wonder how they all will treat ppl with such condition..
  
  Maybe downgrade?
  
  ermm...rite now im anxious..
  
  
• MasterCrap

  10 Feb 05, 02:18

  
• Patrik

  10 Feb 05, 02:28

  
• phobic

  10 Feb 05, 10:19

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  Bah...
  
  i think i regret hinting i have social phobia during the questionarres in the PC at CMPB...the one where they ask u alot of Qs.. like do u smoke and what nots..
  
  i wonder how they all will treat ppl with such condition..
  
  Maybe downgrade?
  
  ermm...rite now im anxious..
  
  

  Depends on how bad your condition is. You will need to see a specialist in this case a psychiatrist to access your condition to see whether you are fit to serve.
  
  If you condition is one that you dread to meet or interact with new people but is able to do so if you really need to then NS may not be such a bad thing because it force you to reach out and interact with other people.
  
  
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 19:08

  ai seh..
  
  wad i mean is...y in the blue moon does the army want us to indicate we have this social anxiety?
  
  i mean for what?
  
  if we have it, so what?
  
  what will they do to us?
  
  i can bet my life for some one who has extreme social phobia may not even cope with the daily life there, interacting etc..and confirm he will be depressed and jump down building..
• Parka

  10 Feb 05, 19:12

  Then you should make an effort to talk to people.
  
  Doesn't hurt.
• the Bear

  10 Feb 05, 19:14

  you seem to be afraid of lots of things...
  
  you gotta get out more, do more stuff... after a while, things become commonplace and you lose your fear of them and wonder why you were afraid in the first place...
  
  be well yah?
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 19:16

  HAiya!
  
  its not about effort dude..
  
  u think we dont want to do that? its just that we cant..
  
  u see those ppl having phobia of spiders..lifts..they all run away from them..
  
  do u think these phobics wanna run away from such things? i dont think so dude..
  
  u see ppl with eating disorders like anoerexia, bulimia, they all need help dude..
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 19:18

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  you seem to be afraid of lots of things...
  
  you gotta get out more, do more stuff... after a while, things become commonplace and you lose your fear of them and wonder why you were afraid in the first place...
  
  be well yah?

  exactly dude..
  
  but for us phobics..it all seem too damn hard..
  
  but what u say is extremely true..
  
  the more u do it, the more immuned to it ull be..
• wuming78

  10 Feb 05, 19:20

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  u think we dont want to do that? its just that we cant..
  

  i am sure it is rather frustrating for you and others like you, not to be able to do something that seem so natural to us.
  
  could you elaborate what you mean by you cant?
  
  and seriously have you sought medical assistance?
  
• the Bear

  10 Feb 05, 19:48

  some things that are very hard, are the things that are worth doing...
  
  it is exhausting at first... but it'll get better
  
  a wise friend of mine said this: a short pain better than a long pain...
  
  work at it, and you'll get over it.. beats being exhausted all your life from actively avoiding people all the time...
  
  good luck!
  
  you'll be able to once you put your mind to it
  
  

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  exactly dude..
  
  but for us phobics..it all seem too damn hard..
  
  but what u say is extremely true..
  
  the more u do it, the more immuned to it ull be..

• phobic

  10 Feb 05, 20:57

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  ai seh..
  
  wad i mean is...y in the blue moon does the army want us to indicate we have this social anxiety?
  
  i mean for what?
  
  if we have it, so what?
  
  what will they do to us?
  
  i can bet my life for some one who has extreme social phobia may not even cope with the daily life there, interacting etc..and confirm he will be depressed and jump down building..

  Its for psychological profiling and assignment of suitable vocations. Dont worry too much about it.
  
  
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 21:10

  Originally posted by wuming78:

  i am sure it is rather frustrating for you and others like you, not to be able to do something that seem so natural to us.
  
  could you elaborate what you mean by you cant?
  
  and seriously have you sought medical assistance?
  

  HI!
  
  yeah..socialising, interacting, joking with people, with classmates etc..and all these should be very natural to almost everyone..
  
  but not us social phobics..thats what i meant by cant..
  
  i give u an example..
  
  anoerexics..
  
  they believe they are fat when they are not..its a disorder..
  
  for social phobics..we believe we are a boring, we are foolish, people look down on us..that makes us anxious when talking to people..its a disorder..
  
  for anoerexics..
  
  no matter how persuasive u are in saying "u r thin" they just cant stop it..
  
  ok i give u another example..
  
  there are some people who have phobias of cats..
  
  cats to us are lovely, tamed, cute creatures..
  but for those who have cat phobia..it is just an uncontrollable urge to move away from them..they are scared of them, they panic when they see cats..
  
  its the same for social phobics..
  
  the small difference is just that we get anxious of how ppl think of us..are we gd enuff for them..etc..we panic, we run away..all these kinda things may cause depresion..
  
  it affects our lives greatly..it chokes..
  
  
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 21:14

  Originally posted by phobic:

  Its for psychological profiling and assignment of suitable vocations. Dont worry too much about it.
  
  

  Arrgghh!!!
  
  that means i cant be joing those prestigious OCS or SISPEC!!
  
  Damn it, i regret revealing them..sjnsfslfvnsv..bleahz..
  
  basically rite now i am improving fast..thats alll i can say..
• wuming78

  10 Feb 05, 21:17

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  HI!
  
  yeah..socialising, interacting, joking with people, with classmates etc..and all these should be very natural to almost everyone..
  
  but not us social phobics..thats what i meant by cant..
  
  i give u an example..
  
  anoerexics..
  
  they believe they are fat when they are not..its a disorder..
  
  for social phobics..we believe we are a boring, we are foolish, people look down on us..that makes us anxious when talking to people..its a disorder..
  
  for anoerexics..
  
  no matter how persuasive u are in saying "u r thin" they just cant stop it..
  
  ok i give u another example..
  
  there are some people who have phobias of cats..
  
  cats to us are lovely, tamed, cute creatures..
  but for those who have cat phobia..it is just an uncontrollable urge to move away from them..they are scared of them, they panic when they see cats..
  
  its the same for social phobics..
  
  the small difference is just that we get anxious of how ppl think of us..are we gd enuff for them..etc..we panic, we run away..all these kinda things may cause depresion..
  
  it affects our lives greatly..it chokes..
  
  

  hm.. ok
  
  im sure u haf frens beyond your immediate relatives, frens who were once strangers too. how did u do it then, making frens with them? im sure it was as difficult, and it took time, but u managed to overcome it before, right?
  
  
• phobic

  10 Feb 05, 21:22

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  Arrgghh!!!
  
  that means i cant be joing those prestigious OCS or SISPEC!!
  
  Damn it, i regret revealing them..sjnsfslfvnsv..bleahz..
  
  basically rite now i am improving fast..thats alll i can say..

  Your performance at BMT is more important. You can still make it if you do well.
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 21:25

  ok wuming..
  
  i tell ya something..
  
  its degree of seriousness is to the extend that u have none or 1 or maybe 2 friends...
  
  2 yrs ago, u guess, how many friends did i have?
  
  1..
  
  hard to believe? believe it..
  
  others are aquantances who are "c u, bye bye" kinda friends"
  
  people feel EXTREMELY uneasy with us that they seldom get near us..
  
  due that, social phobics think that they despise us...
  
  and all these become a snowball effect..
• phobic

  10 Feb 05, 21:28

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  ok wuming..
  
  i tell ya something..
  
  its degree of seriousness is to the extend that u have none or 1 or maybe 2 friends...
  
  2 yrs ago, u guess, how many friends did i have?
  
  1..
  
  hard to believe? believe it..
  
  others are aquantances who are "c u, bye bye" kinda friends"
  
  people feel EXTREMELY uneasy with us that they seldom get near us..
  
  due that, social phobics think that they despise us...
  
  and all these become a snowball effect..

  You will make plenty of friends in NS.
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 21:38

  hahah, phobic, not as easy for those suffering from it..its easy for others to say..
  
  when i graduated from sec 4..i thought i had a new lease of life, new friends..
  
  little did i thought that it was the beginning of hell..
  
  
• wuming78

  10 Feb 05, 21:43

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  ok wuming..
  
  i tell ya something..
  
  its degree of seriousness is to the extend that u have none or 1 or maybe 2 friends...
  
  2 yrs ago, u guess, how many friends did i have?
  
  1..
  
  hard to believe? believe it..
  
  others are aquantances who are "c u, bye bye" kinda friends"
  
  people feel EXTREMELY uneasy with us that they seldom get near us..
  
  due that, social phobics think that they despise us...
  
  and all these become a snowball effect..

  hm.. ppl feel uneasy with u, and hence this affirms your belief, or inferiority complex, and perpetuates the vicious cycle.
  
  y do ppl feel uneasy with u?
  
  i think if the condition is serious u shud consider seeking medical assistance.
  
  
• somepersonlah

  10 Feb 05, 21:50

  DUDE!!
  
  hahah..
  
  ok i give u this..
  
  have u ever seen how a deer looks like when he looks at a car's flashlight?
  
  the eyes get big..frighten..arrgh, u noe how they look, dont u?
  
  thats exactly what we do..
  
  ppl feel uneasy..
  
  but for us, we interpret their uneasiness as not liking us, then it starts the snow ball effect..
  
  we go back home, thinking, how come he doesnt like me ah? hw come this, hw come that..
  
  hw come i was such a fool, hw come i was such a failure etc..it brings us down..
  
  btw, meds ah, tried herbs b4..but i wouldnt try meds, the side effects are bad, from what i have heard..
  
  for meds also, we would be dependant to that drug for a long long time..
• phobic

  10 Feb 05, 21:59

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  hahah, phobic, not as easy for those suffering from it..its easy for others to say..
  
  when i graduated from sec 4..i thought i had a new lease of life, new friends..
  
  little did i thought that it was the beginning of hell..
  
  

  Making friends in NS is easier than in school because everybody is going through the same sh*t.
• phobic

  10 Feb 05, 22:05

  Originally posted by somepersonlah:

  btw, meds ah, tried herbs b4..but i wouldnt try meds, the side effects are bad, from what i have heard..
  
  for meds also, we would be dependant to that drug for a long long time..

  Its better to take med than to go insane.
• somepersonlah

  19 Feb 05, 01:42

  yeah, for some patients without meds they will just go lost..
  
  so its better to take it..
  
  eh, phobic..how come u so strict one..loosen up a bit lar..heheh