Which is worse..???!!
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Which is worse..? saying something and wished u hadn't.... or.... saying nothing and wished u had??
I'm rather puzzled by this... what about u guys?? probably some who is on my msn list would haf read this in my nick... is actually a question... which i've been repeatingly asking myself...
personally, i think saying something and wished u hadn't is worse...
pals, tel mi ur views pls... -
you have to see the situations and the consequences of saying
then see whether you want to say a not -
Originally posted by carpe diem jur:
no say no worng, the more you say the more you make mistake.
[b]Which is worse..? saying something and wished u hadn't.... or.... saying nothing and wished u had??
I'm rather puzzled by this... what about u guys?? probably some who is on my msn list would haf read this in my nick... is actually a question... which i've been repeatingly asking myself...
personally, i think saying something and wished u hadn't is worse...
pals, tel mi ur views pls... [/b] -
considering that someone is of importance to u... u know lah. u'll tend to b more caution on ur words when u are saying something... sometimes even normal conversation, u 'accidentally' said something hurting but dat wasnt ur intention... u get what i mean?? so, which situation is wose??Originally posted by Diehard_89:you have to see the situations and the consequences of saying
then see whether you want to say a not
my dad always reminds mi "huo cong kou chu" (trouble comes from mouth)... and i think i believe le... its always better to say nothing dan to say something and wished u hadn't... right?? -
true... i like this...Originally posted by F.O.S:no say no worng, the more you say the more you make mistake. -
don't say anything, when ppl ask you question just reply with a smile.
no matter how nice your words is, if they don't like you your words can become a curse. -
wah lau !! u sure anot?? i dun wan to look like a freaking mute loh...Originally posted by F.O.S:don't say anything, when ppl ask you question just reply with a smile.
no matter how nice your words is, if they don't like you your words can become a curse.
i always believe "wat no beautician would ever tell a woman is that the secret to being beautiful is thinking the right thoughts"... dat doesnt mean u keep ur mouth shut at everything... but the question is "how to determine if u are saying the right words at the right time??".... and not a curse.... -
"Birds are entangled by their feet and humans by their tongues."
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yeap maybe you just have to apologise to the person lorOriginally posted by carpe diem jur:considering that someone is of importance to u... u know lah. u'll tend to b more caution on ur words when u are saying something... sometimes even normal conversation, u 'accidentally' said something hurting but dat wasnt ur intention... u get what i mean?? so, which situation is wose??
my dad always reminds mi "huo cong kou chu" (trouble comes from mouth)... and i think i believe le... its always better to say nothing dan to say something and wished u hadn't... right??
or explain to him
to clear the misunderstandings
that's the only way
yeap sometimes it is better to say nothing than to say something
but you just can't always keep quiet
for example if your friends have negative points or something
you may want to say them out
but maybe use indirect tones
say something like..."I think..."...or..."Maybe..."
avoid using forceful words -
there isnt a standard to follow, with a smile everybody knows is good thing and not a curse, they will imagine the good thing you actually wanted to say, speaks better than words.Originally posted by carpe diem jur:wah lau !! u sure anot?? i dun wan to look like a freaking mute loh...
i always believe "wat no beautician would ever tell a woman is that the secret to being beautiful is thinking the right thoughts"... dat doesnt mean u keep ur mouth shut at everything... but the question is "how to determine if u are saying the right words at the right time??".... and not a curse....
example :
Question : how many employee your company has?
reply : 3
question : huh!!! only 3?? (actually he pity the guy has to work double hard and very busy)
reply : wah lau ! you think your company very big ar? -
Saying nothin n wished u had. Ur mouth will probably be itching to say. Ur heart, probably overwhelmed with guilt or other emotions, will eat into u. Ur mind incessantly mocking u how much a wussy u r.
Saying sth n regreting later. U'll be cursing urself. Ur heart is probably on the brink of cardiac arrest. Ur brain is barking menacingly at u how stupid n insensitive u were.
So both ways, they suck. Since both suck, U'll have to look at the situation 1st n choose the lesser evil. Personally, I'll choose the option tt will minimise hurting someone else as much as possible. Of course, the consequence would be tt I'll be the one being burned.
The only thing getting in the way is tt I'm a rather desensitised n at times, brutally blunt person. So.. whatever..
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it juz hurts to be accused of saying something u 'shouldnt have'... what is wrong wid a comment?? if i am wrong in saying that, in a person's point of view, i apologized and explained it wasnt intentionally... is it so hard to FORGIVE??!! am i not pardonable for saying the wrong thing at the wrong tym??Originally posted by Gackt247:Saying nothin n wished u had. Ur mouth will probably be itching to say. Ur heart, probably overwhelmed with guilt or other emotions, will eat into u. Ur mind incessantly mocking u how much a wussy u r.
Saying sth n regreting later. U'll be cursing urself. Ur heart is probably on the brink of cardiac arrest. Ur brain is barking menacingly at u how stupid n insensitive u were.
So both ways, they suck. Since both suck, U'll have to look at the situation 1st n choose the lesser evil. Personally, I'll choose the option tt will minimise hurting someone else as much as possible. Of course, the consequence would be tt I'll be the one being burned.
The only thing getting in the way is tt I'm a rather desensitised n at times, brutally blunt person. So.. whatever..
I juz dun understand... I have tried my hardest to apologize sincerely and tek initiative to maintain the friendship... or probably this person have been wanting to freeze the friendship and this is simply a good cause for getting mi off that person's chest... mayb this is an accusation but i know that too well in my heart... its juz a one-sided friendship... sad to admit loh...
i'm feeling very pissed at myself... wanna know what have I said that pissed that person off??!! I saw that person's photos when he is young (coz he showed mi) and i merely mentioned "ooh, u looked skinny when u are young..."... that person is freaking angry and scolded mi for being so shallow to comment on people's looks... i'm reali not trying to critisize !! Its reali reali oni mean to be a passing remark.... i'm so freaking upset over this...
Have happened few weeks ago (when i started this thread) and to this very minute it stil stabs mi like hell... I've learnt my lesson and will never say anything abt people's looks anymore !! whether a praise or insult (which i have never insulted anyone on their looks before and i'm not a person to say this kinda thing !!), NEVER again will i say a single word on this !!! ooh God, what a sinner I am now... that person will never talk to mi again...
ARGHHH !!! feel like killing myself for saying it... such a shitty feeling....