judge a man by.....
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do u judge a man by his questions or by his answers??
personally, i'd think of alot of things when someone asked mi a ques... i'll keep askin myself "why ask this ques" "what does it mean" "how am i going to answer" etc....
juz now, one of my guy friend told mi, should be judging him by his answers.... becoz answers can reveal what kinda guy he is....
hmmm... what bout u???
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both his questions and answers.
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piangz... i judge by one side already stressin up liao... u got tym think so much meh??Originally posted by dragg:both his questions and answers. -
When i converse with pple.. it comes naturally for me to analyse their tone, intent etc.. be it questions n answers.. tt way.. it come easier for me how to approach the topic n most importantly.. how to approach them..
Men ah.. dun take their words seriously all the time..
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lav will be wary of ppl with sarcastic remarks
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err yeah..
i think when talking to men
best not to analyse too much
cos analyse too much
will see meaning where there is none
judge men by his actions ba. -
takes a man to know a manOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:err yeah..
i think when talking to men
best not to analyse too much
cos analyse too much
will see meaning where there is none
judge men by his actions ba.
are u a man? -
err nope
but just my five cents worth
since.. uhh.. forums about contributing 5 cents worth right?
sometimes i write more
but still charge 5 cents. -
Originally posted by carpe diem jur:piangz... i judge by one side already stressin up liao... u got tym think so much meh??
what drag says have a point.. both are equally impt..
as friends, no need to think too much before u answer de. if u need to think tat long to answer everything, where is the trust? -
why 5cts, not 10cts, 15cts, 20cts ahOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:err nope
but just my five cents worth
since.. uhh.. forums about contributing 5 cents worth right?
sometimes i write more
but still charge 5 cents.
who charged u 5cts? -
cos mine oni worth 5 cents...
and then other people one.. more than 5 cents..
i too 'cat ngeow' to pay... hee -
u talking pmember ah?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:cos mine oni worth 5 cents...
and then other people one.. more than 5 cents..
i too 'cat ngeow' to pay... hee
many ppl also never pays
so all cat negeow lah -
X2 coz alot of my guy frds oni know how to tok..but nv actionOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:err yeah..
i think when talking to men
best not to analyse too much
cos analyse too much
will see meaning where there is none
judge men by his actions ba. -
ehh !! true leh... coz my guy friend told mi, Men always tel lies....Originally posted by Gackt247:When i converse with pple.. it comes naturally for me to analyse their tone, intent etc.. be it questions n answers.. tt way.. it come easier for me how to approach the topic n most importantly.. how to approach them..
Men ah.. dun take their words seriously all the time..
i try to throw in as little expectations as i can so that i dun feel disappointed or anger when i finds out ppl are lying... -
yeah lah... but some not sarcastic also can stab u with their words...Originally posted by Lavendin:lav will be wary of ppl with sarcastic remarks -
everyone do or say something sure got reason for doing it... for example, if tel u jokes, motive is to make u laugh... if help u do something, also sure got motive behind... juz like u replying this post, motive is to contribute some personal tots... saying this doesnt mean i dun trust... but never 100%... becoz u analyse, hence u know the reason behind... isnt it better??Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:err yeah..
i think when talking to men
best not to analyse too much
cos analyse too much
will see meaning where there is none
judge men by his actions ba. -
Hmm not really.. cos.. wellOriginally posted by carpe diem jur:everyone do or say something sure got reason for doing it... for example, if tel u jokes, motive is to make u laugh... if help u do something, also sure got motive behind... juz like u replying this post, motive is to contribute some personal tots... saying this doesnt mean i dun trust... but never 100%... becoz u analyse, hence u know the reason behind... isnt it better??
firstly, lot of guys I know do things on impulse
doesn't mean they got any real intentions (even if got motive heh)
secondly, a lot of guys do things without thinking
so if try too hard, may read a lot of 'reasons' into no reason
thirdly, they tell jokes maybe because they like to tell jokes
got nothing to do with the person they tell jokes to.
Actually women tend to be more 'deliberate' than men...
unless it is a very long-term observation of behaviour
I would be very careful about imposing my own ideas
on what a man say or do -
I feel that a person's true feeling or personality WILL always show during his/her weakest/least unexpected moments. Not just guys, ladies as well.
Time will reveal everything....and lasting trust usually isn't built overnight.
yes, of course you can have the benefit of doubts on what people wrote here, as people can 'enjoy' the freedom of being conscious over what they presented here; the benefits of doubt are even more of what u may get in the real world...
but what you think about others might not be what some might be. You have to give due benefit of doubt on that as well...the reason why i say that, Shrodingerscat has already made the point.
I still doubt people's intentions and ironically, it's this that makes me SURVIVE till today, also to see things clearer, therefore putting trust on the right person and gain genuine trust, instead of seeing everyone as untrustable.
trust is like playing ping pong...what is the point of playing if my opponent is half asleep most of the time? -
i've been accepting ppl as they are... and dan i start to doubt alot of things as i slowly find out truth... and thinkin too much past few days... hmm... i do not haf the right t judge anyone, i can oni accept... all i can say is everyone is my friend, but i trust no one...Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:I feel that a person's true feeling or personality WILL always show during his/her weakest/least unexpected moments. Not just guys, ladies as well.
Time will reveal everything....and lasting trust usually isn't built overnight.
yes, of course you can have the benefit of doubts on what people wrote here, as people can 'enjoy' the freedom of being conscious over what they presented here; the benefits of doubt are even more of what u may get in the real world...
but what you think about others might not be what some might be. You have to give due benefit of doubt on that as well...the reason why i say that, Shrodingerscat has already made the point.
I still doubt people's intentions and ironically, it's this that makes me SURVIVE till today, also to see things clearer, therefore putting trust on the right person and gain genuine trust, instead of seeing everyone as untrustable.
trust is like playing ping pong...what is the point of playing if my opponent is half asleep most of the time? -
truth really hurts, especially if that person matters a lot to you.Originally posted by carpe diem jur:i've been accepting ppl as they are... and dan i start to doubt alot of things as i slowly find out truth... and thinkin too much past few days... hmm... i do not haf the right t judge anyone, i can oni accept... all i can say is everyone is my friend, but i trust no one...
doubting people is like a double edge sword...how you perceive/handle it over the time determines whether u judge him/her accurately and having to put your trust in the right person.
u are a very sincere and nice person so in fact i can say u will find one which u truly deserves...
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You really know an intellectual guy when he answers your questions with questions that makes u stop to think.[/quote]
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yeah, and i hate mind games... i'd rather that person come straight to the point dan beat around the bush... right??Originally posted by stellazio:You really know an intellectual guy when he answers your questions with questions that makes u stop to think.[/quote] -
hahar !! yeah i agree with u... i always like to remind myself, 'hold no expectations' and 'go with the flow'... in order not to get hurt or disappointed easily when i expects nothing... even if it turns out that everything is a lie, i wouldnt tek it too hard...but sincerely i think u'r rather sensitive to all these things... wat made u into who u are today??Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:truth really hurts, especially if that person matters a lot to you.
doubting people is like a double edge sword...how you perceive/handle it over the time determines whether u judge him/her accurately and having to put your trust in the right person.
u are a very sincere and nice person so in fact i can say u will find one which u truly deserves... -
through bad/good experiences and passing the wrong/right judgements...too many of them to list...they mean to me a lot...Originally posted by carpe diem jur:hahar !! yeah i agree with u... i always like to remind myself, 'hold no expectations' and 'go with the flow'... in order not to get hurt or disappointed easily when i expects nothing... even if it turns out that everything is a lie, i wouldnt tek it too hard...but sincerely i think u'r rather sensitive to all these things... wat made u into who u are today??
it really really a great soothing feeling when after so many years, deep down, u know u are able to trust that person... -
Yep yep.. I second that. Through the years... i've learned to take things easier. This way.. u would find urself too bog down with emotional matters unnecessarily.Originally posted by carpe diem jur:hahar !! yeah i agree with u... i always like to remind myself, 'hold no expectations' and 'go with the flow'... in order not to get hurt or disappointed easily when i expects nothing... even if it turns out that everything is a lie, i wouldnt tek it too hard...but sincerely i think u'r rather sensitive to all these things... wat made u into who u are today??
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