Do u trust ppl in the forum?
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Do you tells them about yourself?
Is it risky to share?
One day they can be nice , the next day they can stabbed u behind yr back
do u agree?
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I tink its time to stop this, isnt it lav dear?
Last time i also kena people who think people ard them backstab them without basis or evidence, and its just based on their gut feelings...
Forget abt it and move on...
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depends... even ur best friends also cannot trust... yes, maybe they are such trustworthy people that u have for years, yet people change~!! and u'll never know when they've changed...Originally posted by Lavendin:Do you tells them about yourself?
Is it risky to share?
One day they can be nice , the next day they can stabbed u behind yr back
do u agree?
personally, i trust no one, but everybody is my friend... see the reason?? -
Does it really jus apply to ppl in SGF ?
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not really , maybe everywhere , but especially in the NETOriginally posted by pipi & poot-poot:Does it really jus apply to ppl in SGF ?
especially we dont know who we r talking to -
Jus train urslf for the worst of the lot......Originally posted by Lavendin:not really , maybe everywhere , but especially in the NET
especially we dont know who we r talking to 
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well....i do, cos nothing to hide mah....of cos those detailed part have to know the person better first...everything also got risk...whether the person back stab or not is heng suay lor....eyes must put big big to see clearly lor...Originally posted by Lavendin:Do you tells them about yourself?
Is it risky to share?
One day they can be nice , the next day they can stabbed u behind yr back
do u agree? 
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why cares about what people say about you...just as long as you are happy here and you did nothing wrong,there is nothing to be afraid of...
why are we all here? its very simple...we are here to make more friends and have a comfy place to hang out~ if just a simple few words can kill a person reputation...then those who believe in the backstabbers must be naive and stupid lor~ -
*Applause*Originally posted by Danisdead101times:why cares about what people say about you...just as long as you are happy here and you did nothing wrong,there is nothing to be afraid of...
why are we all here? its very simple...we are here to make more friends and have a comfy place to hang out~ if just a simple few words can kill a person reputation...then those who believe in the backstabbers must be naive and stupid lor~
very well said ah dan
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maybe i have been hurt too much, that why i am feeling insecure and sensitive , when ppl talks to me , i imagine they have ulterior motive , especially when ppl is nice , i am very bad in relationship whatever kind it is , even with my family , am i hopeless?
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x3Originally posted by cindtan29:*Applause*
very well said ah dan
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*bows*
xie xie~
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hmmm....then have u even wonder its your own judgement that hinder ur trust or maybe u trust too easily and thus get hurt.......Originally posted by Lavendin:maybe i have been hurt too much, that why i am feeling insecure and sensitive , when ppl talks to me , i imagine they have ulterior motive , especially when ppl is nice , i am very bad in relationship whatever kind it is , even with my family , am i hopeless? -
i often judgement on the harsher part and i dont know why , always landed me in troubleOriginally posted by cindtan29:hmmm....then have u even wonder its your own judgement that hinder ur trust or maybe u trust too easily and thus het hurt....... 
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but u cant judge every single one is like tat..Originally posted by Lavendin:maybe i have been hurt too much, that why i am feeling insecure and sensitive , when ppl talks to me , i imagine they have ulterior motive , especially when ppl is nice , i am very bad in relationship whatever kind it is , even with my family , am i hopeless?
otherwise even pple tell u the truth u will tink pple is lying... n will hv all kind of doubts... then how to communicate on n u will only start acting paranoid..
releationships will only get destroyed...u gotta open up ur heart... -
pls dont think this wayOriginally posted by Lavendin:maybe i have been hurt too much, that why i am feeling insecure and sensitive , when ppl talks to me , i imagine they have ulterior motive , especially when ppl is nice , i am very bad in relationship whatever kind it is , even with my family , am i hopeless?
its bad for health, physical and mental..tink of ur family..
best, engage a hobby or something, will take ur mind off things..
trust me, i also kena from people who think people ard them or even far away from them try to have ulterior motive against them..
its not being fair to these people esp when they seriously have done nothing wrong.... -
good to be protective.... but over protective doesnt mean that u wont get hurt... u are afraid of back stabbing, mistreat, deceiving, fake, lies, disagreements, misunderstanding, etc...come to think of it, its becoz of all these people around that makes u stronger isnt it??Originally posted by Lavendin:maybe i have been hurt too much, that why i am feeling insecure and sensitive , when ppl talks to me , i imagine they have ulterior motive , especially when ppl is nice , i am very bad in relationship whatever kind it is , even with my family , am i hopeless?
no need to be afraid of gossips or whatsoever.... unless u are also a gossip-er thats why u need to be afraid of gossips... its a mirror image ger...
everyone sees things in a different perspective, u choose how u what u want to be... if u choose to feel insecure, then u are insecure~!! dont hold expectations for anything... if u want to tell a person a secret, be prepared that one day this person will disclose it... dont expect people to keep secrets, otherwise, dont say loh.... thats why i said when u dont hold expectations, u'll not feel so much disappointment and anger~!! thus, if u dont hold expectations, u will not assume also loh.... right??
juz stay simple lah... choose what u want to be... ur life is like a movie, u choose which part u want to edit, and u choose which part u want to participate in.... for good or bad, its ur movie, u decide for urself if editing a certain part will affect the ending of ur movie anot....
dont think so much lah.... -
i know it is true not everyone is bad , and i have misjudge them , i think i need healing for my hurts , my heart got holes in them , thats why i cannot trust , do i need a shrink? My heart is bleeding, -
thanks for all of the advise, i try not to be negative, it is inbuild in me , but i try not to think so much lorOriginally posted by carpe diem jur:good to be protective.... but over protective doesnt mean that u wont get hurt... u are afraid of back stabbing, mistreat, deceiving, fake, lies, disagreements, misunderstanding, etc...come to think of it, its becoz of all these people around that makes u stronger isnt it??
no need to be afraid of gossips or whatsoever.... unless u are also a gossip-er thats why u need to be afraid of gossips... its a mirror image ger...
everyone sees things in a different perspective, u choose how u what u want to be... if u choose to feel insecure, then u are insecure~!! dont hold expectations for anything... if u want to tell a person a secret, be prepared that one day this person will disclose it... dont expect people to keep secrets, otherwise, dont say loh.... thats why i said when u dont hold expectations, u'll not feel so much disappointment and anger~!! thus, if u dont hold expectations, u will not assume also loh.... right??
juz stay simple lah... choose what u want to be... ur life is like a movie, u choose which part u want to edit, and u choose which part u want to participate in.... for good or bad, its ur movie, u decide for urself if editing a certain part will affect the ending of ur movie anot....
dont think so much lah.... 
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i trust easily... if there are things that i would not wanna let ppl noe... i tell only 1 person... at most 3... so if anything leaks out... i noe who to look forOriginally posted by cindtan29:hmmm....then have u even wonder its your own judgement that hinder ur trust or maybe u trust too easily and thus get hurt.......
nah.. i'm not the kind to keep things to myself... so i'd tell frenz... i trust them..very much...
if they back stab or betray me.. den too bad lo.. life goes on. -
i wonder where this distrust and insecurities etc comes from?Originally posted by shinta:i trust easily... if there are things that i would not wanna let ppl noe... i tell only 1 person... at most 3... so if anything leaks out... i noe who to look for
nah.. i'm not the kind to keep things to myself... so i'd tell frenz... i trust them..very much...
if they back stab or betray me.. den too bad lo.. life goes on. -
thanks everybody, gtg, nature call -
You want to trust people on the net?
Simple.
Don't meet them. -
I tink Lav dun trust me tt's why..
Hey lav.. u have xin1 shi4 izit.. speak to someone whom u trust.. will feel better.. i'll be available as the last resort need be..
Lav.. dun think so much be suspicious all the time.. it's too tiring.. learn on me..
1. always look on the bright side of life..
2. bo chap
3. learn to move on
though i haven mastered all 3 of them..
there's some progress la.. -
i used to until last sunday
but then...after a thought....forget n forgive after ½ a sec