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sometimes the record keeps playing over and over again in our heads, and yup. if only it would end.
i'm not proud of certain things i did before also.
sry.
ahh. :)
Originally posted by sinweiy:Text:
The eight sufferings are: birth, old age, sickness, death, the suffering of being separated from objects of love, the suffering of encountering objects of hate, the suffering of not getting what one seeks, and the suffering of the raging blaze of the five skandhas.Commentary:
The eight sufferings are:
Birth: We are not aware of how painful the birth process is. Actually when a person is born, he feels as much pain as a cow being flayed alive, or as a live turtle getting its shell pulled off. When a baby is born, the first thing it does is cry, "Ku, ku, ku!" [In Chinese, the word ku for 'crying' ( ? ) sounds similar to the word ku for 'suffering' ( ? ).] So children experience suffering when they are first born. But after a few days, they forget about the suffering and mistake it to be happiness. So children will also smile and laugh. They think it's pretty nice, that there's no more suffering. But as they get older--passing from youth into the prime of life, and then onto old age--they experience suffering again. When they are old, they don't have the strength to chew their food or to walk, and everything becomes a hassle. That's the suffering of old age. Sickness is also a kind of suffering. When one is sick, everything one eats loses its flavor. But there is no suffering greater than that of death. The Buddha observed these four sufferings and it prompted him to leave the home-life and cultivate. There are four additional kinds of suffering: the suffering of being separated from objects of love. When you are separated from the person you love most dearly, that is this kind of suffering. When you lose your most treasured possession, you also experience this kind of suffering. If someone sets fire to your house, which you love to live in, you have this suffering. If someone steals your favorite outfit, you also have this suffering. In general, this suffering is experienced when something or someone that you are very attached to and cannot let go of is taken away from you. The suffering of encountering objects of hate. There may be someone you absolutely detest, so you decide to go somewhere else to get away from the person. But when you go to another place, you meet the same kind of person there. You hate him and loathe him, but as things turn out, you keep running into him. The suffering of not getting what one seeks. There is something you really wish to have, but you just can't obtain it. That's also a kind of suffering. The suffering of the raging blaze of the five skandhas. The five skandhas are form, feeling, thought, formations, and consciousness. They are like a roaring fire, and they also constitute a kind of suffering, although no one considers it to be suffering. Once you awaken to this kind of suffering, you'll know that it's worse than anything.http://www.kaiwu.com/Buddhism/profiledir/hsuanhuadir/pleasureissuffering.html
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I dun dislike anyone in particular. If really boh bian have to pick one person I dislike, I will choose that $#@#% who used to be a non Buddhist (or a half hearted Buddhist), a jerk, an asshole, a baffon, a very irritating guy: me. Too bad I have to get rid of him this late not earlier...
Originally posted by Zenist69:I dun dislike anyone in particular. If really boh bian have to pick one person I dislike, I will choose that $#@#% who used to be a non Buddhist (or a half hearted Buddhist), a jerk, an asshole, a baffon, a very irritating guy: me. Too bad I have to get rid of him this late not earlier...
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My observation:
People who are problematic, who like to cause troubles and find faults with others are usually people who have problems inside themselves that are bothering them, that is why they see the world as problematic. The world is just a reflection of what is already in them. Some demonic, bad energies, are already living inside these people. Very much like being controlled by some bad forces within them. Agree?
My way of handling these people is to let them ( memories of bad incidents) go and sit at the Feet of God. I tried to offer my bad thoughts to God and ask God to illumine these people. I try not to hold on to those bad memories for too long because I know it will affect my poise. My running helps a lot too. My running is like my vipasana because when I run, I have very few thoughts, only my breathing in and out and the awareness of the present place where I am running, very much like being aware of my present moment? I just imagine breathing in good cosmic energy and breathing out all my stresses. It helps a lot.
It seems that a lot of people, when they are unhappy, they would go out and run to feel better after that. Quite a few guys actually took up running when they broke up with their girlfriends. So next time you see a new guy running...hmmm...just maybe they just.... (just kidding. ) My own teacher Sri Chinmoy said that running is meditation for the body.
Originally posted by Urdhaytb:sharing a story
i just learn an interesting method on how bodhisattvas help teach people in this deluded present world. people now have greed, hatred and folly, so they use �事, and also follow people and have greed, hatred and folly, but they have more then these people. then they reap the karma in this life to show people that greed, hatred and folly is wrong. when i heard this method, i transform those i dislike into bodhisattvas, as they teach me Not to follow them.
四�法 (or 四�事) catuḥ-saṃgraha-vastu; four all-embracing (bodhisattva) virtues: (1) 布施 d�na, giving what others like, in order to lead them to love and receive the truth; (2) 愛語 priyavacana, affctionate, speech, with the same purpose; (3) 利行 arthakṛtya, conduct proftable to others, with the same purpose; (4) �事 sam�n�rthat�, co-operation with and adaptation of oneself to others, to lead them into the truth.
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Originally posted by sinweiy:i just learn an interesting method on how bodhisattvas help teach people in this deluded present world. people now have greed, hatred and folly, so they use �事, and also follow people and have greed, hatred and folly, but they have more then these people. then they reap the karma in this life to show people that greed, hatred and folly is wrong. when i heard this method, i transform those i dislike into bodhisattvas, as they teach me Not to follow them.
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Thats interesting.. do you know which bodhisattvas do that?
Originally posted by MiddleWay87:
Thats interesting.. do you know which bodhisattvas do that?
四�法 is for All bodhisattvas. perhaps depending on the stages of their cultivation.
forgot to add that sometimes after they reap the karma, they also start to turn over a new leaf, 180 degree transformation from their bad deeds and start doing good. in this way people see it will also learn and follow them.
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Originally posted by sinweiy:
四�法 is for All bodhisattvas. perhaps depending on the stages of their cultivation.forgot to add that sometimes after they reap the karma, they also start to turn over a new leaf, 180 degree transformation from their bad deeds and start doing good. in this way people see it will also learn and follow them.
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I see.. thanks :)
fyi, (4) �事 sam�n�rthat�, co-operation with and adaptation of oneself to others, to lead them into the truth, is the most difficult of the four all-embracing (bodhisattva) virtues though.
i heard it when MCK explain 梵行 in Infinity Life Sutra. He really into the very profound detail of the sutra. really into 大开圆解.
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Amitabah!
Well since so many have shared their problems , think i shall share some too . Ever since i was small , i was always rejected by pple no matter kids of my age or pple of my current age . So i tell myself why should i try so hard to make friends only to be laff or bullied upon , i tell myself i don't need friends anymore . And that has stayed until now that i have less then 5 friends that i am still in good terms .
Even when i work , i always encounter bad pple whom either bootlick superior at the expense of me , make a big hoo haa from a small mistake i make in my work , scolding me non stop for half an hour just prove that i am just another " log " or easy target to " kill off " , even tell their " minions " to be harsh with me , no need to give any respect , tell my boss that i don't know how to do anything and that i need and always rely on them to do the work just to kick me to another section of the same dept and etc.
Even when they do all these to me even until now , i either only smiled sarcasticly at them or just tell them off . Although i do wish that all that they have done to me will go back to them but i know its almost impossible unless their retribution arrives . And until now even who used to be my colleague whom has help me seek redress before has also turned against me a few times and even tried to make use of me for his own gain . But i always try to talk to him nicely cos i know he is not that bad to the core unlike some other colleague of the other race .
Bear with it ? Forgive and forget ? I'm sorry i find it hard to do so although i do wish to do that . But i know my bad karma has yet to finish and i still have to be wary of pple around me and ... still not to make friends even if they do help me a few times . Cause eventually they always turn against me .
Originally posted by TWE:Well since so many have shared their problems , think i shall share some too . Ever since i was small , i was always rejected by pple no matter kids of my age or pple of my current age . So i tell myself why should i try so hard to make friends only to be laff or bullied upon , i tell myself i don't need friends anymore . And that has stayed until now that i have less then 5 friends that i am still in good terms .
Even when i work , i always encounter bad pple whom either bootlick superior at the expense of me , make a big hoo haa from a small mistake i make in my work , scolding me non stop for half an hour just prove that i am just another " log " or easy target to " kill off " , even tell their " minions " to be harsh with me , no need to give any respect , tell my boss that i don't know how to do anything and that i need and always rely on them to do the work just to kick me to another section of the same dept and etc.
Even when they do all these to me even until now , i either only smiled sarcasticly at them or just tell them off . Although i do wish that all that they have done to me will go back to them but i know its almost impossible unless their retribution arrives . And until now even who used to be my colleague whom has help me seek redress before has also turned against me a few times and even tried to make use of me for his own gain . But i always try to talk to him nicely cos i know he is not that bad to the core unlike some other colleague of the other race .
Bear with it ? Forgive and forget ? I'm sorry i find it hard to do so although i do wish to do that . But i know my bad karma has yet to finish and i still have to be wary of pple around me and ... still not to make friends even if they do help me a few times . Cause eventually they always turn against me .
Hmm.. try look for another company? This office sounds too 'play politics' type.
Originally posted by TWE:Well since so many have shared their problems , think i shall share some too . Ever since i was small , i was always rejected by pple no matter kids of my age or pple of my current age . So i tell myself why should i try so hard to make friends only to be laff or bullied upon , i tell myself i don't need friends anymore . And that has stayed until now that i have less then 5 friends that i am still in good terms .
Even when i work , i always encounter bad pple whom either bootlick superior at the expense of me , make a big hoo haa from a small mistake i make in my work , scolding me non stop for half an hour just prove that i am just another " log " or easy target to " kill off " , even tell their " minions " to be harsh with me , no need to give any respect , tell my boss that i don't know how to do anything and that i need and always rely on them to do the work just to kick me to another section of the same dept and etc.
Even when they do all these to me even until now , i either only smiled sarcasticly at them or just tell them off . Although i do wish that all that they have done to me will go back to them but i know its almost impossible unless their retribution arrives . And until now even who used to be my colleague whom has help me seek redress before has also turned against me a few times and even tried to make use of me for his own gain . But i always try to talk to him nicely cos i know he is not that bad to the core unlike some other colleague of the other race .
Bear with it ? Forgive and forget ? I'm sorry i find it hard to do so although i do wish to do that . But i know my bad karma has yet to finish and i still have to be wary of pple around me and ... still not to make friends even if they do help me a few times . Cause eventually they always turn against me .
for me, if they don't "want" u, no point staying... then leaving is not ur fault.
Originally posted by TWE:Well since so many have shared their problems , think i shall share some too . Ever since i was small , i was always rejected by pple no matter kids of my age or pple of my current age . So i tell myself why should i try so hard to make friends only to be laff or bullied upon , i tell myself i don't need friends anymore . And that has stayed until now that i have less then 5 friends that i am still in good terms .
Even when i work , i always encounter bad pple whom either bootlick superior at the expense of me , make a big hoo haa from a small mistake i make in my work , scolding me non stop for half an hour just prove that i am just another " log " or easy target to " kill off " , even tell their " minions " to be harsh with me , no need to give any respect , tell my boss that i don't know how to do anything and that i need and always rely on them to do the work just to kick me to another section of the same dept and etc.
Even when they do all these to me even until now , i either only smiled sarcasticly at them or just tell them off . Although i do wish that all that they have done to me will go back to them but i know its almost impossible unless their retribution arrives . And until now even who used to be my colleague whom has help me seek redress before has also turned against me a few times and even tried to make use of me for his own gain . But i always try to talk to him nicely cos i know he is not that bad to the core unlike some other colleague of the other race .
Bear with it ? Forgive and forget ? I'm sorry i find it hard to do so although i do wish to do that . But i know my bad karma has yet to finish and i still have to be wary of pple around me and ... still not to make friends even if they do help me a few times . Cause eventually they always turn against me .
Don't take things too hard. The moment you walk out of your office, your colleagues and your superior are nobody to you. When it is time to speak up, speak up. Just remember everything is impermanent, you will feel better if you see the truth. Happy or sad is only temporary.
Originally posted by TWE: Well since so many have shared their problems , think i shall share some too . Ever since i was small , i was always rejected by pple no matter kids of my age or pple of my current age . So i tell myself why should i try so hard to make friends only to be laff or bullied upon , i tell myself i don't need friends anymore . And that has stayed until now that i have less then 5 friends that i am still in good terms .Even when i work , i always encounter bad pple whom either bootlick superior at the expense of me , make a big hoo haa from a small mistake i make in my work , scolding me non stop for half an hour just prove that i am just another " log " or easy target to " kill off " , even tell their " minions " to be harsh with me , no need to give any respect , tell my boss that i don't know how to do anything and that i need and always rely on them to do the work just to kick me to another section of the same dept and etc.
Even when they do all these to me even until now , i either only smiled sarcasticly at them or just tell them off . Although i do wish that all that they have done to me will go back to them but i know its almost impossible unless their retribution arrives . And until now even who used to be my colleague whom has help me seek redress before has also turned against me a few times and even tried to make use of me for his own gain . But i always try to talk to him nicely cos i know he is not that bad to the core unlike some other colleague of the other race .
Bear with it ? Forgive and forget ? I'm sorry i find it hard to do so although i do wish to do that . But i know my bad karma has yet to finish and i still have to be wary of pple around me and ... still not to make friends even if they do help me a few times . Cause eventually they always turn against me .
Deleted my original post. Think I sounded too presumptuous.
I feel this saying from Ch'an Master Sheng Yen is so apt for life's many issues.
山�转路转，路�转人转，人�转心转。
also think working environment should not be too stressful or pressurised or vexed. work for ur needs or support for family. got food to eat, got place to shelter, enough already. rest of free time can practice recite Buddha's name or sutra.