Dealing with Difficult Coworkers

• InnoHippo

  23 Nov 05, 10:09

  
  
  
• DeadPoet

  4 Dec 05, 00:33

  
• poon cho tang

  4 Dec 05, 00:39

  wot m i doing here?
• InnoHippo

  5 Dec 05, 10:18

  Originally posted by poon cho tang:

  wot m i doing here?

  start drawing cartoons
• InnoHippo

  2 Jan 06, 16:48

  http://www.work911.com/articles/difcol.htm
  
  In any relationship, both people influence the other's behaviour. In almost every conflict situation, both parties bear some responsibility for where "things are at".
  
  Focusing on blame will just drive you crazy. The key to these situations is to focus on what YOU can do to make things better. It doesn't matter who is at fault, if your concern is to make things better.
  
  You have little control over the personality, and even behaviour of another person. Your best bet is to focus on your own behaviour change. Ask yourself: What am I doing that contributes to this unpleasant situation, and What can I do to change what I am doing. It sounds like what you are doing now isn't working so you have to look for another approach.
  
  
  
  Your responsibilities include:
  
  - approaching the other person in a polite, problem-solving way to work things out.
  - avoiding actions (like gossip) that make the situation worse.
  - a willingness to recognize that you have probably contributed to the problem.
  - listening to the other person rather than trying to convince or bully them.
  - seeking help from others in a dignified, open and constructive way.
  
  
  
• dragg

  2 Jan 06, 17:01

  i tried the above on my former subordinate.
  
  some people are just plain hopeless.
  
  in the end i quitted my job.
  
  
• Manager433

  2 Jan 06, 17:05

  Originally posted by dragg:

  i tried the above on my former subordinate.
  
  some people are just plain hopeless.
  
  in the end i quitted my job.
  
  

  so jobless till now?
  
  
• dragg

  2 Jan 06, 17:08

  Originally posted by Manager433:

  so jobless till now?
  
  

  yes
• SoulFire21

  2 Jan 06, 17:13

  hmm..
• InnoHippo

  2 Jan 06, 17:30

  Originally posted by dragg:

  i tried the above on my former subordinate.
  
  some people are just plain hopeless.
  
  in the end i quitted my job.
  
  

  thought the subordinate should go instead of u?
  
  
• dragg

  2 Jan 06, 22:51

  Originally posted by InnoHippo:

  thought the subordinate should go instead of u?
  
  

  lousy management accepted her complaint against me.
  
  
• skeujin

  2 Jan 06, 22:52

  Originally posted by InnoHippo:

  
  
  

  i wld seriously like to hear parka's comment on this...
• InnoHippo

  3 Jan 06, 13:08

  Originally posted by dragg:

  lousy management accepted her complaint against me.
  
  

  well ..... politics are always ugly
• InnoHippo

  3 Jan 06, 13:09

  Originally posted by skeujin:

  i wld seriously like to hear parka's comment on this...

  long time no see parka