Combatting The Impulse To Nag
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If something doesn't get done, or done to your standards, you comment. Again. And again. And again. The continual and wearing nagging only stops when your partner obeys.
Why? It's a vicious circle. The person being nagged feels pressured so digs his heels in and refuses to do what the nagger wants. The person nagging gets more and more frustrated but doesn't know how to either back off or negotiate.
How to fix it? Nagging can signify a power struggle, and a good relationship means both of you work together to meet each others' needs. Long-term nagging can destroy relationships, so it's important to work together to find out what is a reasonable request from each other. Work to improve communication and learn to ask for something clearly. Most importantly, learn to accept 'no' when your partner can't or won't oblige.
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buy a muzzle or ear plug.
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but hippo.....i dun nag more than once ....the most is twice unless i veru ...e.xtremely upset or angry lor....so how.....i normal bo??
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... oh dear... i'm a nag!
how ar??
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and the music will go on and onOriginally posted by dragg:buy a muzzle or ear plug. -
ha ha ..... some things take a long time to change ....Originally posted by cindtan29:but hippo.....i dun nag more than once ....the most is twice unless i veru ...e.xtremely upset or angry lor....so how.....i normal bo??
nagging twice only might not be enough -
try to recall how u feel when ur mum nags at u .......Originally posted by shinta:... oh dear... i'm a nag!
how ar??
hope this helps
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my fren got power to nag 24hours a day... 6 days a week... only one off day... pei fu pei fu...
she nags at her bf.... hee hee.... -
i dont nag. but i whine.
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can stop nagging one day per week ..... pei fu pei fuOriginally posted by carpe diem jur:my fren got power to nag 24hours a day... 6 days a week... only one off day... pei fu pei fu...
she nags at her bf.... hee hee.... -
the boyfriend can stand the nagging. na4cai2pei4fu2Originally posted by InnoHippo:can stop nagging one day per week ..... pei fu pei fu -
Originally posted by InnoHippo:try to recall how u feel when ur mum nags at u .......
hope this helps
he was saying... i'm becoming more n more like his mother -
I'm saying he is becoming more n more like my motherOriginally posted by shinta:
he was saying... i'm becoming more n more like his mother
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Originally posted by dragg:the boyfriend can stand the nagging. na4cai2pei4fu2
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eh... in a way.. he's the one takin care of me instead of my familyOriginally posted by elindra:I'm saying he is becoming more n more like my mother 
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how he take care of u har?Originally posted by shinta:eh... in a way.. he's the one takin care of me instead of my family -
eh.. when i'm sick? he's teh one takin care of me not my family wor...Originally posted by InnoHippo:how he take care of u har?
they couldn be bothered.. -
So sweet of him arOriginally posted by shinta:eh.. when i'm sick? he's teh one takin care of me not my family wor...
they couldn be bothered.. -
yeahOriginally posted by elindra:So sweet of him ar
imagine this scenario...
nellie: eat med..
shinta: dun wan!
den i proceed to sulk n grumble n all that until he threatens me with... i'm gettin angry..
den..i start eatin med -
Aiyo!!! shinta like kid like thatOriginally posted by shinta:yeah
imagine this scenario...
nellie: eat med..
shinta: dun wan!
den i proceed to sulk n grumble n all that until he threatens me with... i'm gettin angry..
den..i start eatin med
Med only ma. -
Originally posted by shinta:yeah
imagine this scenario...
nellie: eat med..
shinta: dun wan!
den i proceed to sulk n grumble n all that until he threatens me with... i'm gettin angry..
den..i start eatin med
nellie should become a full-time nanny -
there was a period of time... when i was eatin med regularly for mths...Originally posted by elindra:Aiyo!!! shinta like kid like that
Med only ma.
since then.. if i can avoid med... i avoid them at all cost..
use to be ok with meds tho -
Originally posted by InnoHippo:
nellie should become a full-time nanny -
Ah k. Just be glad you don't have TM jaw problem or you will be on pain-killers everydayOriginally posted by shinta:there was a period of time... when i was eatin med regularly for mths...
since then.. if i can avoid med... i avoid them at all cost..
use to be ok with meds tho -
wats tat?Originally posted by elindra:Ah k. Just be glad you don't have TM jaw problem or you will be on pain-killers everyday