different language used between man&woman + interpretation
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oredi thinking the NEXT one ....Originally posted by jusgal:my next one i ask him to tell me. i hate guessing
i salute ur ability to move on. -
i got one ex. play lan games at home, at work.Originally posted by kopiosatu:couch potato?
switch on the tv... he wun know gf exists anymore.
simple solutions for simple people
i go his house end up watch him play the games nia.
then he hor...can ask me clean his room while he play
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play lan games at work? i want that job...Originally posted by jusgal:i got one ex. play lan games at home, at work.
i go his house end up watch him play the games nia.
then he hor...can ask me clean his room while he play -
But it seems that a guy is very important to a gal... A gal needs to be hugged, touched by the guy
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he work in fedex helpdesk. night shift. so they all whole team play lan gamesOriginally posted by kopiosatu:play lan games at work? i want that job... -
helpdesk? ehm, nvm...Originally posted by jusgal:he work in fedex helpdesk. night shift. so they all whole team play lan games
i still love my current job, but gaming on a pc is far off the list. -
this is bo bian.Originally posted by Fuqua:oredi thinking the NEXT one ....
i salute ur ability to move on.
if got someone nice to me. sincere. i will -
Yeah... they make you feel important sometimes, don't they hahahah
Originally posted by sbst275:But it seems that a guy is very important to a gal... A gal needs to be hugged, touched by the guy -
it maybe good if both parties can open up more and reveal more to the other.
by telling the person of their view tactfully -
yea, my bday is coming in a week time...i really hope he will remember it, if not I will have to start another cold war leOriginally posted by Fuqua:depends what the bf/gf want out of the r/s i suppose.
hints no good.
I can figure out most things, remember important dates and do some lovey-dovey stuffs but it wud be nice too if u can talk to me and tell me straight how u wud want me display my love for u.
p.s. pls dont call me super dense
I really hope I won't have to resort to dat lor, last time I did it was very very painful on me, and he said it was painful on him as well...
but he already gave me his bday present like quite long ago le, mebbe he thinks he already gave the present so dun need to wish anymore when i expect him to at least send me a card to wish me happy birthday...
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card...i just wanna spend my bday with the one i love...Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, my bday is coming in a week time...i really hope he will remember it, if not I will have to start another cold war le I really hope I won't have to resort to dat lor, last time I did it was very very painful on me, and he said it was painful on him as well...
but he already gave me his bday present like quite long ago le, mebbe he thinks he already gave the present so dun need to wish anymore when i expect him to at least send me a card to wish me happy birthday...
i.c.y
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Yeap. That's the way it should be, especially when hinting doesn't work.Originally posted by jusgal:it maybe good if both parties can open up more and reveal more to the other.
by telling the person of their view tactfully
Icy Jie, don't start a cold war for little things... its not worth it de. Esp when you hint him, then he's dense and doesn't get it.
He'll be like "What..? I never do anything wrong she also mad at me? Am i supposed to apologise? No way!"
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Originally posted by _Aaron_:
i never start cold war. when he is cold. i tried to warm him up....
Yeap. That's the way it should be, especially when hinting doesn't work.
Icy Jie, don't start a cold war for little things... its not worth it de. Esp when you hint him, then he's dense and doesn't get it.
[b]He'll be like "What..? I never do anything wrong she also mad at me? Am i supposed to apologise? No way!"
Now, does this sound familiar?[/b]
but it still dun work out mah -
ask her go watch her bf play football lah. den can give him towel and water. so ti tie ...Originally posted by kopiosatu:guys : i just wanna play football <<<< hard to understand ah?
apparently my friend's gf has problems understanding. 
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here's what i think.Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, my bday is coming in a week time...i really hope he will remember it, if not I will have to start another cold war le I really hope I won't have to resort to dat lor, last time I did it was very very painful on me, and he said it was painful on him as well...
but he already gave me his bday present like quite long ago le, mebbe he thinks he already gave the present so dun need to wish anymore when i expect him to at least send me a card to wish me happy birthday...
i.c.y
a person who forget his gf b'day is NOT worth knowing.
happy advance b'day btw. -
How far apart are you guys stayin apart?Originally posted by icyprincess:okie...i admit I am also one of those girls who expect the guys to sort of know what is going on my head. Like whenever we went out together, I would sort of expect him to come pick me up and send me home after that, so if he doesn't I would still smile at him of cos so dat he wun think I am petty but mebbe deep down I am being petty cos I would get irritated like the whole night after dat. but think he sensed dat after a while, so he pretty much followed me home evtime now after our date
another thing is when he is away for a long time(like now) and he doesn't know dat I expect him to call or at least let me know how he is doing back home. I am trying to keep calm now, I dun wan to come across as too demanding or anything but i have a feeling if he doesn't do that soon, I might start another spat of cold war *sigh*
do you think I am wrong to think that way??
i.c.y
distance matters but yet not matter at the same time.
Sometimes When bf is really tired, even walking across the road to send you home is a heavy chore.
Many times,
He may try to please you, deep down it's a chore.
But i believe it's all worth it when he sees you happy.
Cold war is very bad esp for bf who does in your bid most times.
One mistake destorys all his good deeds. Unfair right?
You're not wrong to think that way. Just that you need to approach your thoughts to him in ways that won't pressure him. Speak honestly but without demand. REMEMBER - He must realise that his gf is not petty but infact very mature and understanding in executing your message to him.
In near future, he'll do things automatically.
Haiyah....this one difficult to explain. Must teech hands on de.
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there is a point in the r/s when u need to ask urself IF he wants the same thing out of the r/s like urself. Maybe it's time to move on and admit u two not right for each other. Plenty more fish in the sea.Originally posted by jusgal:i never start cold war. when he is cold. i tried to warm him up....
but it still dun work out mah -
all the time??Originally posted by gal gal:ask her go watch her bf play football lah. den can give him towel and water. so ti tie ... -
Then i think there's some flaw in your methodology.Originally posted by jusgal:i never start cold war. when he is cold. i tried to warm him up....
but it still dun work out mah
It should work out, unless the problem is not with your approach, rather it's the problem itself is too difficult to overcome. -
*smirks
Train people's behavior use rewards method more effective than punishmentOriginally posted by M©+square:You're not wrong to think that way. Just that you need to approach your thoughts to him in ways that won't pressure him. Speak honestly but without demand. REMEMBER - He must realise that his gf is not petty but infact very mature and understanding in executing your message to him.
In near future, he'll do things automatically.
Haiyah....this one difficult to explain. Must teech hands on de. -
then sometimes he go shopping with her lor... can carry her shopping bags. if can pay for her shopping, lagi good.Originally posted by Estee:all the time?? -
hahahaha...... yeah.... all about give and take yah??Originally posted by gal gal:then sometimes he go shopping with her lor... can carry her shopping bags. if can pay for her shopping, lagi good. -
If he really didn't wish you on that day,Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, my bday is coming in a week time...i really hope he will remember it, if not I will have to start another cold war le I really hope I won't have to resort to dat lor, last time I did it was very very painful on me, and he said it was painful on him as well...
but he already gave me his bday present like quite long ago le, mebbe he thinks he already gave the present so dun need to wish anymore when i expect him to at least send me a card to wish me happy birthday...
i.c.y
try 'XXX(how you call him), you don't want to wish me happy brithday ah?' (give that big smile)
I believe he'll melt and like you even more. And i think for the rest of the day...you'll enjoy yourself.
Sometimes, your first step will reap much more returns. -
i also dunnoOriginally posted by M©+square:Then i think there's some flaw in your methodology.
It should work out, unless the problem is not with your approach, rather it's the problem itself is too difficult to overcome. -
Wad's the smirk for?Originally posted by choco B:*smirks
Train people's behavior use rewards method more effective than punishment
To gain Win win r/s, first both parties will have to understand the approach ma....communication is a paramount role in successful r/s.