different language used between man&woman + interpretation
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Originally posted by 798:Girls' English
Yes = No
No = Yes
May-b = No
"It's your decision" = The correct decision should be obvious by now!
" Do what u want" = You'll pay 4 this later!
We need to talk" = I need to bi+ch.
"Sure......Go ahead" = I don't want you too.
" I'm not upset" = Of course I'm upset, u stupid moron!
" How much do u love me?" = I did something today your not goin' like me 4.
"Is my butt fat?" = Tell me i'm beautiful.
" You have to learn to communicate!" = Just agree with me.
" Are you listening to me?" = Too late, you're dead!
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VERY TRUEOriginally posted by 798:Guy's English
" I'm hungry" = I'm hungry
" I'm sleepy" = I'm sleepy
" I'm tired " - I'm tired
" Do you want to go to a movie?" = I'd eventaully like to have sex with you.
" Can I take you to dinner?" = I'd eventaully like to have sex with you.
" Can I call you sometime?" = I'd eventaully like to have sex with you.
" May I have this dance?" = I'd eventaully like to have sex with you.
"Nice dress" = Nice cleavage.
" You look tensed, let me give you a massage" = I want to fondle you.
" What's wrong? " = What meaningless self inflicted pshychological trauma are you going through now?
" What's wrong?" = I guess sex tonight is out of the question.
"I'm bored" = Do you want to have sex?
" I love you" = Let's have sex right now.
" I love you too" = Okay i said it we'd better have sex now!
" Let's talk" = I am tryin' to impress you by shown that I'm a deep person and maybe then you'd like to have sex with me!
" Will you marry me?" = I want to make it illegel 4 you to have sex with other guys.
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Originally posted by Fuqua:
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actually i find man after marriage should be the winners when argument.
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u know hor...
when the ger angry with boi she always say no wanna talk to him. but after tat will start calling him again...
or just a call from him, not saying sorry but just have u taken dinner or lunch hor. then the ger melt liao. and the boi got away without saying sorry
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ME THINK SO ALSOOriginally posted by 798:actually i find man after marriage should be the winners when argument.
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Depends. it works both ways lar... seen quite a few situations the boy have to grovel and beg ... then the girl will talk one... hmm~Originally posted by jusgal:u know hor...
when the ger angry with boi she always say no wanna talk to him. but after tat will start calling him again...
or just a call from him, not saying sorry but just have u taken dinner or lunch hor. then the ger melt liao. and the boi got away without saying sorry -
i figure, women have a weapon men have no defences against.. it's called "TEARS"
men have no weapons to use at all lest they be termed a "he-man woman-hater"...
so, a gentle plea to the ladies... don't abuse your advantage... -
hiazOriginally posted by the Bear:i figure, women have a weapon men have no defences against.. it's called "TEARS"
men have no weapons to use at all lest they be termed a "he-man woman-hater"...
so, a gentle plea to the ladies... don't abuse your advantage... -
why the sigh?
you know it's true...
in an argument, the woman loses her temper and slaps the man, the main thing thought by everyone: he deserves it.. he must have done something wrong..
if a man slaps a woman, the thought would be: "what a barbarian! how dare he slap the woman?"
it's a no-win situation which some men will walk away from... discretion is the better part of valour here...Originally posted by jusgal:hiaz -
jusgal:
I can't help it. But a small portion of my brain has been bugging me.
Telling me that you might be sub-conciously having some resentments(or distorted perspective view) and hence became bias against them.
My brain is not wrong. But i wonder if you think i'm right.
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i dun go round slapping people. it hurts to slap the one u love okieOriginally posted by the Bear:why the sigh?
you know it's true...
in an argument, the woman loses her temper and slaps the man, the main thing thought by everyone: he deserves it.. he must have done something wrong..
if a man slaps a woman, the thought would be: "what a barbarian! how dare he slap the woman?"
it's a no-win situation which some men will walk away from... discretion is the better part of valour here... -
nope lah....Originally posted by M©+square:jusgal:
I can't help it. But a small portion of my brain has been bugging me.
Telling me that you might be sub-conciously having some resentments(or distorted perspective view) and hence became bias against them.
My brain is not wrong. But i wonder if you think i'm right.
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but.. think about it.. to those around, the woman is ALWAYS totally blameless.. no matter how evil, how wrong, how messed up, how wrongly suspicious, how manipulative... she is...
she is never wrong...
it is always the guy's fault...
i have noticed this myself.. big quarrel in public between a couple... the question asked by people around me is "wonder what he's done?"
frankly, some women have figured this out and have used this to their advantage...
combine it with tears, the hard-wired need for men to "look out for womenfolk" and the way people think of ladies as "the weaker sex"... it makes women formidable psychological weapons...
and it is not beneath some women to use that to their advantage...
p.s. it hurts? ever thought of the guy? you just hurt them physically, emotionally, physically and left on him a wound worse than the emotional scar you say you suffered...Originally posted by jusgal:i dun go round slapping people. it hurts to slap the one u love okie -
it depends on different situation. okie? not just like tat.
the guy can be the one really in fault mahOriginally posted by the Bear:but.. think about it.. to those around, the woman is ALWAYS totally blameless.. no matter how evil, how wrong, how messed up, how wrongly suspicious, how manipulative... she is...
she is never wrong...
it is always the guy's fault...
i have noticed this myself.. big quarrel in public between a couple... the question asked by people around me is "wonder what he's done?"
frankly, some women have figured this out and have used this to their advantage...
combine it with tears, the hard-wired need for men to "look out for womenfolk" and the way people think of ladies as "the weaker sex"... it makes women formidable psychological weapons...
and it is not beneath some women to use that to their advantage...
p.s. it hurts? ever thought of the guy? you just hurt them physically, emotionally, physically and left on him a wound worse than the emotional scar you say you suffered... -
yes.. but.. don't you see it... stop looking at "whose fault"... look at who the odds are stacked against...
a totally blameless dude could be lynched with the same reason...
the bottom line is: trust your guy... you chose him, you better learn to trust him..
don't use emotional blackmail against him.. don't tell him yes when you mean no.. don't tell him "it's all right" when it isn't...
because he trusts you totally, he's going to take those things face-value.. screw venus, screw mars.. this is planet earth...
when a guy says "nothing" he means it.. and if you cannot understand that, you cannot turn around and cry bitterly saying he does not understand you if you keep saying "it's all right" when you don't mean it..
after a while, he'll learn not to trust you... simply because you did not tell him simple truths...
and everything goes to hell after..
so, is it easier to be straightforward and call a spade a spade, or is it easier for a man to learn (and he will fail dismally) the "language" of women who do not say what they mean?
and back to "different situations", no matter what situations, the woman will prevail.. right or wrong... because, tragically men are hard-wired that way.. the battle may be won... but in the long run, the whole war may be lost...Originally posted by jusgal:it depends on different situation. okie? not just like tat.
the guy can be the one really in fault mah -
never mind lah....Originally posted by the Bear:yes.. but.. don't you see it... stop looking at "whose fault"... look at who the odds are stacked against...
a totally blameless dude could be lynched with the same reason...
the bottom line is: trust your guy... you chose him, you better learn to trust him..
don't use emotional blackmail against him.. don't tell him yes when you mean no.. don't tell him "it's all right" when it isn't...
because he trusts you totally, he's going to take those things face-value.. screw venus, screw mars.. this is planet earth...
when a guy says "nothing" he means it.. and if you cannot understand that, you cannot turn around and cry bitterly saying he does not understand you if you keep saying "it's all right" when you don't mean it..
after a while, he'll learn not to trust you... simply because you did not tell him simple truths...
and everything goes to hell after..
so, is it easier to be straightforward and call a spade a spade, or is it easier for a man to learn (and he will fail dismally) the "language" of women who do not say what they mean?
and back to "different situations", no matter what situations, the woman will prevail.. right or wrong... because, tragically men are hard-wired that way.. the battle may be won... but in the long run, the whole war may be lost...
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Alamak....walk away from discussion like that. Tsk tsk
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u kenna from it badlyOriginally posted by the Bear:but.. think about it.. to those around, the woman is ALWAYS totally blameless.. no matter how evil, how wrong, how messed up, how wrongly suspicious, how manipulative... she is...
she is never wrong...
it is always the guy's fault...
i have noticed this myself.. big quarrel in public between a couple... the question asked by people around me is "wonder what he's done?"
frankly, some women have figured this out and have used this to their advantage...
combine it with tears, the hard-wired need for men to "look out for womenfolk" and the way people think of ladies as "the weaker sex"... it makes women formidable psychological weapons...
and it is not beneath some women to use that to their advantage...
p.s. it hurts? ever thought of the guy? you just hurt them physically, emotionally, physically and left on him a wound worse than the emotional scar you say you suffered... -
most of the times, when a ger cry is cos she really sad abt it. not cos she wanna use it as a weapon. if u dun care abt the guy u won't cry. u won't even care. tears come naturally .....not like you wanna cry immediately u get the tears one. okie?Originally posted by the Bear:yes.. but.. don't you see it... stop looking at "whose fault"... look at who the odds are stacked against...
a totally blameless dude could be lynched with the same reason...
the bottom line is: trust your guy... you chose him, you better learn to trust him..
don't use emotional blackmail against him.. don't tell him yes when you mean no.. don't tell him "it's all right" when it isn't...
because he trusts you totally, he's going to take those things face-value.. screw venus, screw mars.. this is planet earth...
when a guy says "nothing" he means it.. and if you cannot understand that, you cannot turn around and cry bitterly saying he does not understand you if you keep saying "it's all right" when you don't mean it..
after a while, he'll learn not to trust you... simply because you did not tell him simple truths...
and everything goes to hell after..
so, is it easier to be straightforward and call a spade a spade, or is it easier for a man to learn (and he will fail dismally) the "language" of women who do not say what they mean?
and back to "different situations", no matter what situations, the woman will prevail.. right or wrong... because, tragically men are hard-wired that way.. the battle may be won... but in the long run, the whole war may be lost... -
wat u expect?Originally posted by M©+square:Alamak....walk away from discussion like that. Tsk tsk
hurt has been done not just to one party but to both. both can be hurt -
how a guy will treat the gal before and after:
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I understand what you mean....but do you understand wad we mean???Originally posted by jusgal:wat u expect?
hurt has been done not just to one party but to both. both can be hurt
It also has become evident that you're not really opening yourself to understand men's perspective and difficulties. How could guys share their views and be appreciated? Knowing that at least there are people who understood their position...
If every girls are to only look upon themselves as the only one suffering, victims, crying, emotionally hurt, sacrificing etc. (Thank God not all females are disillusioned)
I think there's no point in discussing the different language and interpretation both gender uses.
Why? Reason due to, you'll do selective reading and post reply in defense of female gender.
From your reply posts to bear's comments.
I don't think it's you understood his view. It was defensive from every reply i see from you(to stand by the female POV).
I would stand by bear's comments because those were very sound and neutral.
My comments about you being bias about guys was simply brushed off by - 'Nope lah'. My little portion at the back of my mind is right.
I suggest that you approach this topic with open mind.
Cheers -
i trying to let him know tat not all gers uses the tears as weapons.Originally posted by M©+square:I understand what you mean....but do you understand wad we mean???
It also has become evident that you're not really opening yourself to understand men's perspective and difficulties. How could guys share their views and be appreciated? Knowing that at least there are people who understood their position...
If every girls are to only look upon themselves as the only one suffering, victims, crying, emotionally hurt, sacrificing etc. (Thank God not all females are disillusioned)
I think there's no point in discussing the different language and interpretation both gender uses.
Why? Reason due to, you'll do selective reading and post reply in defense of female gender.
From your reply posts to bear's comments.
I don't think it's you understood his view. It was defensive from every reply i see from you(to stand by the female POV).
I would stand by bear's comments because those were very sound and neutral.
My comments about you being bias about guys was simply brushed off by - 'Nope lah'. My little portion at the back of my mind is right.
I suggest that you approach this topic with open mind.
Cheers
come on....wat he say is only protecting guys right also.
i not saying the gers is really weaker ones. but tears is not a weapon. is just a form of expressions tat flows naturally