PLS HELP ME HERE...
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A colleague of mine is going to ROM at the end of this month, since theyÂ’ve got their new apartment. They have met 1.5yrs ago n have decided to get hitched. By right, we are suppose to be happy for her, but one of our colleague told us that on many occasions, he saw her bf with another gal, smooching n behaving intimately.
We didnÂ’t want to or know how to break this news to herÂ…
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a very difficult situasi.
ur friend doesn't know yet.
if u close to the female friend, tell her.
cheating in a relationship is a big NONO.Originally posted by claud:A colleague of mine is going to ROM at the end of this month, since theyÂ’ve got their new apartment. They have met 1.5yrs ago n have decided to get hitched. By right, we are suppose to be happy for her, but one of our colleague told us that on many occasions, he saw her bf with another gal, smooching n behaving intimately.
We didnÂ’t want to or know how to break this news to herÂ…
Pls adviseÂ… -
through their this 1.5yr together, they've only watched one movie together, seldom hold hands too...
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i think really need to get her to seriously consider it...
what is it that she really want to go ROM with him... the flat??? then better back off... that is not a reason to go ROM... -
wat if just alright working r/s nia lehOriginally posted by foga:a very difficult situasi.
ur friend doesn't know yet.
if u close to the female friend, tell her.
cheating in a relationship is a big NONO. -
claud~!!
okay la.. this matter u really should let her know.. your not destroying their marriage, your just doing what you need to do as a friend
the guy's destroying his own marriage though, dn't feel guilty. just tell her if your confirmed that the guy's really having other party.
your helping her not to fall deeper.
or if your uncertain of this matter, discuss with her.. try to sort things out with her or hinting her? ask her to reconsider as they only been together for 1.5 yr and not behaving like couple.. just new couple right?
only holding hands can definite the marriage is wrong~ big wrong wrong~ -
and they decide to get married? boy, that's funni...
but before u let ur galfriend knows, make sure u confirm the rumours r true.
aklthough it's gonna be hard on u, but i'm sure if she's ur good friend, it's only right u let her know the truth. -
i agree totally with sylviaOriginally posted by ^sylvia^:claud~!!
okay la.. this matter u really should let her know.. your not destroying their marriage, your just doing what you need to do as a friend
the guy's destroying his own marriage though, dn't feel guilty. just tell her if your confirmed that the guy's really having other party.
your helping her not to fall deeper.
or if your uncertain of this matter, discuss with her.. try to sort things out with her or hinting her? ask her to reconsider as they only been together for 1.5 yr and not behaving like couple.. just new couple right?
only holding hands can definite the marriage is wrong~ big wrong wrong~
that is if you have gotten all the facts abt the guy right -
no no. kissing? that's strange.Originally posted by claud:wat if just alright working r/s nia leh
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claud>if it is the truth, the news still got to be broken to her... but need to get the evidence yourself lor... dont just depend on that colleague's say so...
pics of them were taken by hp camera -
I think you should protect your friend.
Tell her and let her decide. -
becoz they itchy hand went to apply for flat.. den now have to ROM within 3mths...Originally posted by Imperfect:i think really need to get her to seriously consider it...
what is it that she really want to go ROM with him... the flat??? then better back off... that is not a reason to go ROM... -
Just tell her straight and show her the pics taken...
its only the right thing to do...
u are helping her not destroying her...
even if the guys say he will change or what ask him to go and die... what u see now is what u will get... he can do such a thing now so can he in the future... -
^5Originally posted by Imperfect:i agree totally with sylvia
that is if you have gotten all the facts abt the guy right
anyway claud.. its tough cos u know she will be hurt, but hurt her now than she's being hurt by the guy deeply.. now just new step for her..
so i guess the damage will not be that strong and hard~ jia you claud! -
All you can do is hint, hint, hint to her, if you intrude, it wouldn't make you look good at all.
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double post sori
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before we knew abt his flings, he was such a gd guy.. so swweet n sensitive towards her...
bought her flowers mthly n on every occassions, gv her mthly allowance to spend, open joint acc n put in 600 bucks mthly, which she didnt have to fork out every cent..
forgo every dating pleasure.. no holding hands.. sit in mrt with both arms folded like total stranger...
gving her all these materials might be covering all his misdeeds.. -
whether have kissing anot is too personal for me to ask wat...Originally posted by foga:no no. kissing? that's strange.
but i can tell u tat, this colleague n her bf are like total strangers.. -
this is really fishy...Originally posted by claud:before we knew abt his flings, he was such a gd guy.. so swweet n sensitive towards her...
bought her flowers mthly n on every occassions, gv her mthly allowance to spend, open joint acc n put in 600 bucks mthly, which she didnt have to fork out every cent..
forgo every dating pleasure.. no holding hands.. sit in mrt with both arms folded like total stranger...
gving her all these materials might be covering all his misdeeds..
1.5 years and he didnt hold her hand at all...then ROM for flat...
which man will not want to hold the hand of his loved one??? -
i dunno whether her bf is havins split personality anot, when that colleague tat saw him with another gal, he can actually say hi..Originally posted by Imperfect:Just tell her straight and show her the pics taken...
its only the right thing to do...
u are helping her not destroying her...
even if the guys say he will change or what ask him to go and die... what u see now is what u will get... he can do such a thing now so can he in the future...
i was like"huh", jaws dropped open -
definitely she dont know him well i guess...Originally posted by claud:whether have kissing anot is too personal for me to ask wat...
but i can tell u tat, this colleague n her bf are like total strangers.. -
she wldn't let him held at all.. this is so serious, tat when he sat beside her for dinner on one occassion tat we saw, she was like moving n moving the chair tat she was on.. shunning him.. wldn;t she wan to sit close to him as they are a couple, this got us all puzzled...Originally posted by Imperfect:this is really fishy...
1.5 years and he didnt hold her hand at all...then ROM for flat...
which man will not want to hold the hand of his loved one???
n the news of marriage exploded us -
Kissing or no kissing has nothing to do with this!!!!Originally posted by foga:no no. kissing? that's strange. -
there was one occassion before we knew that they were going to ROm, she was on the line with her beau n ive over heard her saying.."better not do it again" in a very harsh tone.. this happen sometime in jan...
pic of bf with another lady was taken many times from last yr dec to apr.. -
think she was hurt last time already n might have forgiven him, this might be a recurring incident for himOriginally posted by ^sylvia^:^5
anyway claud.. its tough cos u know she will be hurt, but hurt her now than she's being hurt by the guy deeply.. now just new step for her..
so i guess the damage will not be that strong and hard~ jia you claud!