Secret and lies in a r/s...
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Originally posted by laurence82:Not just credibility.
Sometimes you tell white lies to shoo off people.
If they found out, well its your credibilty.
But is it relevant?
Some people are just gong tao or too urm 'stupid' to undertsand your intentions. So I put them aside. No point saying any further
Investment in time and effort without foreseeable returns
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Originally posted by xiao_shin:
but if guys always think that white lies are always a "bo bian" thing ah, how do u expect ur partner to have the trust in u???
sometimes white lies are bo bian ones. cause some kinds of girls ([b]on the general) likes to make a mountain out of the mole. so no offence all the ladies forumites.
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Do you think only guys tell white lies?Originally posted by claud:but if guys always think that white lies are always a "bo bian" thing ah, how do u expect ur partner to have the trust in u??? -
[quote]Originally posted by FireIce:
[b]sometimes it's not relli secret or lies
jus censoring of information.............hehehehehe
agree w tt; most of the time u can only tell a version of the truth like harry does...
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truth dun have versions.......like wat erica said......Originally posted by sam0310:[quote]Originally posted by FireIce:
[b]sometimes it's not relli secret or lies
jus censoring of information.............hehehehehe
agree w tt; most of the time u can only tell a version of the truth like harry does... -
Originally posted by F.O.S:
ya true i agree with u...
Do you think [b]only guys tell white lies?[/b] -
i believe tat ppl always use a lie to cover another lie.. so its always nv ending lieOriginally posted by xiao_shin:ya true i agree with u... -
Originally posted by claud:i believe tat ppl always use a lie to cover another lie.. so its always nv ending lie
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Originally posted by claud:
i believe tat ppl always use a lie to cover another lie.. so its always nv ending lie--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
In the first place, don't start lie from the begining of the relationship. Just be what you are.
we should accept whatever him/her before we start the r/s, whatever is in the past is past. most of the quarrel starts from digging from the past, this mean that you can forgive but not forget.
Worst if you become suspecious bcos of the past?
to me Secret and lies is :
Secret:
1. something I not suppose to know (so why bother to know)
2. If others think that I not suppose to know (they must have thier reason for my own good not to know.
3. if after I know I will be sad I rather choose not to know
4. the person who love me will know the best way to handle me, she
will know whether to let me know
5. If this secret I suppose to know, 1 day I will know.
Lies :
1. I don't see it myself I don't believe my love one will tell me lie
2. if I see it, I will feel it by the following :
a. does it affect my life
b. does it affect my r/s with her
c. does it affect my career
Let her know and give her chance if affected the above, if she can't change then you decided to leave or to contiune.
3. If does not affect any of the above why angry and sad? waste time, waste efford quarrel prove nothing. save up the time loving each other, isn't it better?
If you can forgive and can't forget you don't love him or her anymore.
If you can forgive, then go on with the relationship and try forget
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way to go f.o.sOriginally posted by F.O.S:quote:
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Originally posted by claud:
i believe tat ppl always use a lie to cover another lie.. so its always nv ending lie--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
In the first place, don't start lie from the begining of the relationship. Just be what you are.
we should accept whatever him/her before we start the r/s, whatever is in the past is past. most of the quarrel starts from digging from the past, this mean that you can forgive but not forget.
Worst if you become suspecious bcos of the past?
to me Secret and lies is :
Secret:
1. something I not suppose to know (so why bother to know)
2. If others think that I not suppose to know (they must have thier reason for my own good not to know.
3. if after I know I will be sad I rather choose not to know
4. the person who love me will know the best way to handle me, she
will know whether to let me know
5. If this secret I suppose to know, 1 day I will know.
Lies :
1. I don't see it myself I don't believe my love one will tell me lie
2. if I see it, I will feel it by the following :
a. does it affect my life
b. does it affect my r/s with her
c. does it affect my career
Let her know and give her chance if affected the above, if she can't change then you decided to leave or to contiune.
3. If does not affect any of the above why angry and sad? waste time, waste efford quarrel prove nothing. save up the time loving each other, isn't it better?
If you can forgive and can't forget you don't love him or her anymore.
If you can forgive, then go on with the relationship and try forget (as in don't mention about the past) any more forumites agree with him???