Can you control your emotions?
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I used to be a very very jealous person. Somehow donÂ’t know when, how, why, I stop feeling jealous that easily.
But now I get irritated very easily. People walking very slowing in front of me, irritate me.
Kana put on hold for a long time, irritate me.
People talking loudly in MRT, irritate me.
Becoming grumpy old man liao.
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‘He who reigns himself and rules his passions, desires and fears is more than a king.’ John Milton
‘He that ruleth his spirit is greater than he that taketh a city. Self-mastery is the greatest task to which man has ever set his hand.’ King Solomon
‘The first and best victory is to conquer self; to be conquered by self is, of all things, the most shameful and vile.' Plato
In order to attain worthwhile achievement, we must first exercise control of self. The reason that this has been such a difficult task for us is because we have failed miserably to hold a just appreciation of our capabilities. Our great potential for good has been limited by the narrowness of our thinking. Self-development can be achieved only after we resolve to control self through the operation and control of our thoughts.
Many want to succeed but are not willing to pay the price. To become an accomplished pianists, or skilled in anything, many hours, days, weeks, months, yes, even years, must be spent at study and practice. (DP: That includes your MathÂ’s formulas and ChemistryÂ’s equations)
Constant practice of self-control is an important price we must pay for all enduring success. By it we give value to time and money instead of idly wasting or squandering either of them. (DP: Okay, should I stop buying TOTO and 4D?) By it we develop manliness and character and enjoy new dimensions of living. (DP: DonÂ’t understanding this part)
To control self is to exercise the kingship of our being.
In the exercise of this birthright we are the controller of our passions, moods, emotions, and weakness, instead of one who is controlled by them.
Written by Sidney Newton Bremer, Ph.D., edited by Dead Poet R.I. P. -
had always been bad tempered. but being a cancer, i wont display my tempers.
feel tt i m quite emotional. good and bad lah... -
i've been called cold before...
what do you think?
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I guess i can control my emotions rather well...
but if i dislike someone, i will show it out. As in, i won't bother to please him or her. -
I can usually control my emotions rather well....under most situations.......
I dun usually cry in in farewells.....sometimes angry my frenz also dun detect....
But nowadays getting alittle more irritable...maybe cos the pressure is building up...
and sometimes it does show .......as long as pple dun keep rubbing it in when i m already very frustrated...then after awhile everything would be back to normal... -
so when u say u control ur emotions well, u r actually suppressing them, so much so tt the pressure is forcing cracks on the seams...Originally posted by Whistar:I can usually control my emotions rather well....under most situations.......
I dun usually cry in in farewells.....sometimes angry my frenz also dun detect....
But nowadays getting alittle more irritable...maybe cos the pressure is building up... and sometimes it does show .......as long as pple dun keep rubbing it in when i m already very frustrated...then after awhile everything would be back to normal...
mabbe u shud express ur emotions once in a while instead of trapping them. expressing emotions is ok - its jus the way u choose to do it. -
sometimes can, sometimes don...
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Control is more or less about suppression to a point....I do express my emotions (depending on which emotion you are talkign about)occasssionally....but in the case of anger.....I find that its just not too nice to show your frenz a black face for too long or too frequent.....it makes the atmosphere tense and your frenz uncomfortable......Originally posted by wuming78:so when u say u control ur emotions well, u r actually suppressing them, so much so tt the pressure is forcing cracks on the seams...
mabbe u shud express ur emotions once in a while instead of trapping them. expressing emotions is ok - its jus the way u choose to do it.
If I m really unhappy i will usually just keep quiet....
Happiness I will usually show one....cos I will die from internal injuries if i dun laugh if i see sth funnie etc........ -
Originally posted by the Bear:i've been called cold before...
what do you think?
Maybe you look cold?
Actually many people look cold from outside, but inside are warm.
Like me.
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yeah... pretty much...
my friends keep saying that they have never seen me in a temper before... -
Is jealousy a scorpio trait? I seem to have it as well.
I used to be a 'stone'. No emotions at all. Everything also, no response. Stone is slowly cracking but not good enough. Still bottling up a lot of emotions. -
Maybe. I used to get into fights just because he talks to my gal.Originally posted by AdAptAliS:Is jealousy a scorpio trait? I seem to have it as well.
I used to be a 'stone'. No emotions at all. Everything also, no response. Stone is slowly cracking but not good enough. Still bottling up a lot of emotions.
I was really the super jealous type. Now think about it, I was so childish. -
Lol. I think that way but i don't act that way. Control la, i too small to fight.Originally posted by DeadPoet:Maybe. I used to get into fights just because he talks to my gal.
I was really the super jealous type. Now think about it, I was so childish.
Same case here. Agree that its darn childish. Need to get it off me soon. -
I cry really easily. It is awful..
Tried so hard to appear professional at work. Went to the dumps when i cried at work about work!! URGH. -
yah lor.. so u prob haf been suppressing ur unhappiness and anger lor... not healthy lehOriginally posted by Whistar:but in the case of anger.....I find that its just not too nice to show your frenz a black face for too long or too frequent.....it makes the atmosphere tense and your frenz uncomfortable......
If I m really unhappy i will usually just keep quiet.... -
I was known as the "little LIVE volcano" in school... u say leh?
but now better lah.... dun erupt as often or as destructive... but still easily irritatable and quick tempered.
the only good thing I see is I angry fast fast, cool down fast fast also... and my gfs said me very easy to "hong" one....
I'm almost like an open book with my emotions. but I dun show the reasons behind those emotions (esp. neg. ones) easily.... those close to me, headache aaahhhh...........
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hahaha....okie...so next time i explode....Originally posted by wuming78:yah lor.. so u prob haf been suppressing ur unhappiness and anger lor... not healthy leh
*starts the timer*
Anyway....even if i m angry....after awhile it will be fine.....I dun like to show a black face to my frenz cos I dun like my frenz to show me a black face....
Therefore...do to others what u would like others do to u...
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seldom let my emotions show.....
but when u poke me at the wrong time i will flare up this moment then laff and act like nothing happened the next.........this usually freaks ppl out though..... -
wahahhaaa... what's more scary than a angry person? a sian and angry person....Originally posted by FireIce:seldom let my emotions show.....
but when u poke me at the wrong time i will flare up this moment then laff and act like nothing happened the next.........this usually freaks ppl out though..... -
i'm a possessive freak...but somehow...nobody seems to notice this wor... hmm...
i hav a very bad temper...but i try hard to calm myself down b4 i explode, hurting those close to me....
if ppl my age says i'm childish, n adults (those 30+) says i'm mature, wat am i? -
Originally posted by tare:
i think inherit for my mom one leh....
wahahhaaa... what's more scary than a angry person? a sian [b]and angry person.... [/b]
this minute she yell at me to tidy my room, threaten to throw all my things away if i dun clear them
then next minute bring soup for me to drink and forgot all about the tidying -
u're in a confused state?!Originally posted by shinta:if ppl my age says i'm childish, n adults (those 30+) says i'm mature, wat am i? -
r u a cancerian?Originally posted by Whistar:hahaha....okie...so next time i explode....
*starts the timer*
Anyway....even if i m angry....after awhile it will be fine.....I dun like to show a black face to my frenz cos I dun like my frenz to show me a black face....
Therefore...do to others what u would like others do to u...
anyway me oso like tt lor - but more to strangers. dun like to show black face. swallow the anger. and end up driving myself up the wall over the long run.
to my frens, i can feel comfortable enuff to let them noe i not feeling happy. -
Yes, emotions can be controlled. Controlling emotions doesn't mean hiding it. Negative emotions, no matter how good you hide it, will definately affects your judgement and also cause harm to your mental and physical health. The best way is to reduce all these negative emotions to the minimum.
If anyone of you is interested, there is a book written by Anthony Robbins, tittled "Awaken the Giant Within".
In this book, there is a certain section which teach us how to shift our emotions from negative to positive. I'm now trying one of the exercises in this book called the 'mental diet', which means that in 10 consecutive days, whenever anything happen which will cause aniety, anger, depression,etc., i have to immediately shift these negative mental states to positive ones. This exercise is really tough, i have been trying it for more than a month liao but still haven succeed yet.
Actually emotions is easily reinforced. If one repeatedly gets irritated, the mind will be so used to this emotion. So when little things happen, the mind will automatically searches for the most familiar emotion to match. -
You're ALIVE?Originally posted by Belle:Yes, emotions can be controlled. Controlling emotions doesn't mean hiding it. Negative emotions, no matter how good you hide it, will definately affects your judgement and also cause harm to your mental and physical health. The best way is to reduce all these negative emotions to the minimum.
If anyone of you is interested, there is a book written by Anthony Robbins, tittled "Awaken the Giant Within".
In this book, there is a certain section which teach us how to shift our emotions from negative to positive. I'm now trying one of the exercises in this book called the 'mental diet', which means that in 10 consecutive days, whenever anything happen which will cause aniety, anger, depression,etc., i have to immediately shift these negative mental states to positive ones. This exercise is really tough, i have been trying it for more than a month liao but still haven succeed yet.
Actually emotions is easily reinforced. If one repeatedly gets irritated, the mind will be so used to this emotion. So when little things happen, the mind will automatically searches for the most familiar emotion to match. "