Who here can forgive....
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your ex BF/GF if they wanna patch things back......
To what extend will you say Yes or No to getting back together.... anyone got any bazzar experience pls share ....
I had a "few" GF ... but I never allowed myself to "go back' to them even if they wanna come back ..... but just recently, I gave in to my last ex..... but it never did last also ......
I felt that reconciliation is futile cus if there is already a crack in the vase, no super glue will mend tat crack... even if u drop the vase again, the other parts don crack, the fault line will surely give way again ! -
forgive but wun forget
in future still will fan jiu zhang........ -
x 2Originally posted by FireIce:forgive but wun forget
in future still will fan jiu zhang........
cancerians - we forgive, but we never forget.
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MEANing??? will you get back together ???? then wats the point if u two are back together .... but still having the "same' differences??? ie .. still having the same problem as you both had before the "first" breakup ??Originally posted by wuming78:x 2
cancerians - we forgive, but we never forget. -
can get back together - forgive lor. but wont forget the thing lor. but not forgetting does not mean the relation is affected.Originally posted by stoner:MEANing??? will you get back together ???? then wats the point if u two are back together .... but still having the "same' differences??? ie .. still having the same problem as you both had before the "first" breakup ?? -
Most of the times I dun agree in patching up after break up due to the fact that of previous shadows left behind in the r/s.
However, I actually patch up with my current bf after years later and everything is going fine now. I guess it's just that we have grown up and have diff thinking as before while we were young then. -
get back together liao is like time-bomb loh.......
that "thing" is always there.....one day when one party cannot tahan then will explode........ -
not all can.... put it this way...... most female cant..... anything happen they will act like nothing happen as thou they have forgiven, but they do remembers.... its like a time bomb as wat fireice had said..... scary.... but thats venus... of cos its only mostly and not all females are like that....
as for mars.... we tense to forgive more easily... but that doesnt mean we will forget too... just that we might choose to let go of the feelings as in no point dwelling on it and affects the r/ship in the future and in long run.... of cos its difficult to forget, but if u choose to forgives and accept.... alot of things are very unpredictable in the future~
thats my 2¢ of thots...
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Let me take things a step further..... ....
I was attached with X for 2 years .... then because I started working and got little time to meet her .. we slowly drifted and during her exams .. she say she wanna study and we never meet for a few weeks...
During this time, she studied very hard for exams and also at the same time had an several sex sessions with a guy classmate whom she studies with.
I found out about it after she confessed to me and we broke up ...... then I started realising that i cannot do without her and wanna patch things back so .... we decided that we should stayt aprt for 4 months and then get back later ... ...... so coincident that during these 4-6 months she was on exchange programme and when it finanlly ended, I realised that I still love her and wanted to patch things back.
Now tell me ..... do u thing that I am very stupid? or you think I did the right thing ..... .. what would have been your action ? -
adopted from men from mars, women from venus?Originally posted by anfuni:not all can.... put it this way...... most female cant..... anything happen they will act like nothing happen as thou they have forgiven, but they do remembers.... its like a time bomb as wat fireice had said..... scary.... but thats venus...
as for mars.... we tense to forgive more easily... but that doesnt mean we will forget too... just that we might choose to forget as in no point dwelling on it and affects the r/ship in the future and in long run.... of cos difficult to forget, but if u choose to forgives and accept.... alot of things are very unpredictable in the future~
thats my 2¢ of thots...
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nope... men are from mars and women are from venus....Originally posted by IamAngeline:adopted from men from mars, women from venus?
j. joking~
dont states it this way...
it states that when men hv trouble, most of them will choose to hide in their "caves" to straighten out their thots... and this is when venus get so worried and tried to "intrude" into his "cave" without knowing that mars actually juz need some personal time for them selves and they can be jumping and even singing after they had got outta their "caves"
as for venus... when they encounter problems... they will choose to speaks to men.... and the common mistake the men made are they tried to give solutions to venus' problems.... in actual fact, most venus only wanted a listen ear as they already have the solutions themselves and with their men trying to solve their problems might led to situations where by women thinks that men are not listening to them when they speaks....
so far this is wat i can remember.... i might get some facts wrong... nice book... by phd john gray.... -
Originally posted by anfuni:
I think the same, you think so or copy from books ?
not all can.... put it this way...... most female cant..... anything happen they will act like nothing happen as thou they have forgiven, but they do remembers.... its like a time bomb as wat fireice had said..... scary.... but thats venus... of cos its only mostly and not all females are like that....
as for mars.... we tense to forgive more easily... but that doesnt mean we will forget too... just that we might choose to let go of the feelings as in no point dwelling on it and affects the r/ship in the future and in long run.... of cos its difficult to forget, but if u choose to forgives and accept.... alot of things are very unpredictable in the future~
thats my 2¢ of thots... -
i guess many ppl c no point in a patch if there is a break up.. i never felt this way until recently.. i guess if break means break liao.. as long as the person know he/she has done his/her best in the relationship, there should be no regrets and ya.. if break then break lor.. just take the relationship as a learning experinece.. no point in break and patch break and patch
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hahha if i copy from book why dont i call them to refer to book... very long to type one leh...Originally posted by F.O.S:I think the same, you think so or copy from books ? 
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well, if you truly forgive.. then you won't bring up the past..
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silly, there is no true-fully forgiven in most gers mind... seriously trust me... even if "forgiven" already, its kept in one corner of their hearts.... like a time bomb.... of cos i used the word most... not all are like this..Originally posted by sillyme:well, if you truly forgive.. then you won't bring up the past..
not all ppl understand forgive and forget.... i dont deny i can be like this too... -
Even if I forgive I may not re-new a past relationship. Perhaps over time I don't have feelings for him anymore?
It also depends what was the cause of breakup . I am least likely to get over infidelity. -
me too....and i believe most ppl too.......Originally posted by choco B:I am least likely to get over infidelity.
eben the thought of it is sinful enough -
true.. ppl can forgive, but can NEVER forget...
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Originally posted by wuming78:x 2
cancerians - we forgive, but we never forget. we think too much lah. -
me knowsOriginally posted by anfuni:silly, there is no true-fully forgiven in most gers mind... seriously trust me... even if "forgiven" already, its kept in one corner of their hearts.... like a time bomb.... of cos i used the word most... not all are like this..
not all ppl understand forgive and forget.... i dont deny i can be like this too... 
forgiveness takes more than human effort.. it's not just girls that find it hard.. guys also mah
that's why i said, 'truly' because once we know we know what true forgiveness is.. then we won't say, "i forgive you" unnecessary..
if we really forgive, then we'll bear no grudge, nor use the past against them -
trueOriginally posted by choco B:Even if I forgive I may not re-new a past relationship. Perhaps over time I don't have feelings for him anymore?
It also depends what was the cause of breakup . I am least likely to get over infidelity.
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i think so too...Originally posted by sillyme:true
i think it's two separate issues -
Originally posted by choco B:
no one can..... those who can are juz subjecting themselves to face the same issue again.... if they have "faint hearts" its advisable not to try it again...
Even if I forgive I may not re-new a past relationship. Perhaps over time I don't have feelings for him anymore?
It also depends what was the cause of breakup .[b] I am least likely to get over infidelity.[/b] -
even the thought of it?Originally posted by FireIce:me too....and i believe most ppl too.......
eben the thought of it is sinful enough
of cos... if u ever think abt it.... it sure will happen....
no one can prove that if he/she ever think before but wont do it...
if can prove then why in the 1st place waste brain cell to even think abt it?