"If you don't propose me next year, i'll....
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..go find another guy."
my friend was telling this to her bf
and i went "huh ??? really ? and how's his reaction? and why u told him that"
my friend : "he said : yes, i will. and i'll be ** year-old next year (a lil younger than me), i want to settle down."
me : "then u really would leave him, if he doesn't propose u next year ?"
my friend : "yes, definitely."
well..what do you think, guys ?
what's ur reaction, when ur gf told u that ?
they've been together for almost 5 years. and the guy is older than her and finally he got some kinda steady job. i think her mum was already asking when they'll get married.
and i also think probably she's getting tired of the r/s or else
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how how are they??
i find the request valid -
Hahahahahaha, never congratulate her?
She's successful in making him conform to her ideas.
How sweet.
I think it's an empty threat. If she really break because the guy didn't marry her, then I think there's something wrong. -
so, he may be forced into marrying her before he's ready... even when he's really in love with her?
and she would force him to marry her too?
there's a song in there somewhere... where is the love? -
i tot where`s the love is for terrorists????Originally posted by the Bear:so, he may be forced into marrying her before he's ready... even when he's really in love with her?
and she would force him to marry her too?
there's a song in there somewhere... where is the love? -
well, i'll wait for that till next year. see what will happen.Originally posted by Nelstar:Hahahahahaha, never congratulate her?
She's successful in making him conform to her ideas.
How sweet.
I think it's an empty threat. If she really break because the guy didn't marry her, then I think there's something wrong.
yes, do hope they'll getting married, cos i must say that the guy is such a nice and sweet guy. he loves my friend soooooo much.
they broke-up once, but they're back together again.
and there's no difficulty for my friend to find another guy, many guys oredi wait in line for her...make me so envy..keke...
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it ain't the black-eyed peas' version...Originally posted by BaByBoY:i tot where`s the love is for terrorists????
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Good luck to your female friend. -
terrorist song is "london bridge is fallin down fallin down" lei
Originally posted by BaByBoY:i tot where`s the love is for terrorists???? -
uuumm.....so she is ready and he's not?
so she start to "threaten" him?
not very wise, IMO.....
and oni will give more pressure to the guy.....
guys naturally would want to have a comfortable amount of savings and a stable career first b4 wanting to talk about marriage....but if they had been together for 5 years, wats the hurry for it at this point in time?
if it's something like....ger dun wanna be gao ling chan fu (pregnant after 30), then she shd discuss with her man about this....
can ROM first.....all the formalities can come later... -
hmmm...i dunno. but her guy is some kind of type..must force a little bit to him, then he'll do. he's kinda slow slow one.. u know..how to say it in english properly, eh ?Originally posted by the Bear:so, he may be forced into marrying her before he's ready... even when he's really in love with her?
and she would force him to marry her too?
there's a song in there somewhere... where is the love?
yup, he's definitely terribly in love with her (i think). whether he's ready / not...well..he better be next year... -
hahahaOriginally posted by foga:terrorist song is "london bridge is fallin down fallin down" lei
i tot i could be ``hole in the world by the eagles` -
click here for "where is the love" by BEPsOriginally posted by BaByBoY:i tot where`s the love is for terrorists????
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=84997 -
(ack I lost my original post somewhere)
If the guy seems ready and able to get married , then it's not such an unreasonable request from her, issit?
I disagree that she is getting tired of the relationship. If so, she would leave now to cut losses.
I think your friend has an idea of how she wants her life to be down the road, with her future husband and family included... and she's just being honest about it.Originally posted by Maya061:..go find another guy."
my friend was telling this to her bf
and i went "huh ??? really ? and how's his reaction? and why u told him that"
my friend : "he said : yes, i will. and i'll be ** year-old next year (a lil younger than me), i want to settle down."
me : "then u really would leave him, if he doesn't propose u next year ?"
my friend : "yes, definitely."
well..what do you think, guys ?
what's ur reaction, when ur gf told u that ?
they've been together for almost 5 years. and the guy is older than her and finally he got some kinda steady job. i think her mum was already asking when they'll get married.
and i also think probably she's getting tired of the r/s or else -
well, some guys are slow (i know i am...) but they'll get there eventually...Originally posted by Maya061:hmmm...i dunno. but her guy is some kind of type..must force a little bit to him, then he'll do. he's kinda slow slow one.. u know..how to say it in english properly, eh ?
yup, he's definitely terribly in love with her (i think). whether he's ready / not...well..he better be next year... -
yo maya how u been!Originally posted by Maya061:..go find another guy."
my friend was telling this to her bf
and i went "huh ??? really ? and how's his reaction? and why u told him that"
my friend : "he said : yes, i will. and i'll be ** year-old next year (a lil younger than me), i want to settle down."
me : "then u really would leave him, if he doesn't propose u next year ?"
my friend : "yes, definitely."
well..what do you think, guys ?
what's ur reaction, when ur gf told u that ?
they've been together for almost 5 years. and the guy is older than her and finally he got some kinda steady job. i think her mum was already asking when they'll get married.
and i also think probably she's getting tired of the r/s or else
anyway, that line highlighted; better check if that's true, cos, marriage ain't gonna solve that. it'll prob make it worse, actually. -
Hahahha. Well then good on her to nudge him on abit.Originally posted by Maya061:hmmm...i dunno. but her guy is some kind of type..must force a little bit to him, then he'll do. he's kinda slow slow one.. u know..how to say it in english properly, eh ?
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yup. that one i agree (red light).Originally posted by FireIce:uuumm.....so she is ready and he's not?
so she start to "threaten" him?
not very wise, IMO.....
and oni will give more pressure to the guy.....
guys naturally would want to have a comfortable amount of savings and a stable career first b4 wanting to talk about marriage....but if they had been together for 5 years, wats the hurry for it at this point in time?
if it's something like....ger dun wanna be gao ling chan fu (pregnant after 30), then she shd discuss with her man about this....
can ROM first.....all the formalities can come later...
bcos..they have been together for 5 years oredi and probably she sees only lil progress fm him, then..now she must re-consider the r/s maybe ?
yah..think pregnant before 30 thingy also bothers her (well..me too actually..keke.. but i haven't really thought abt. it rite now).
think marriage isn't as simple as getting ROM only. the life after ROM, where'll u live (whether it's with his/ur parents/ur own apt), cost of living, and blah blah blah..
wahlau..so complicated. better not getting married if not so ready. think make u stress even more.. -
Most guys are slow, or rejoice in being slow except for some things.Originally posted by Maya061:hmmm...i dunno. but her guy is some kind of type..must force a little bit to him, then he'll do. he's kinda slow slow one.. u know..how to say it in english properly, eh ?
yup, he's definitely terribly in love with her (i think). whether he's ready / not...well..he better be next year...
The male hormones are by nature active only when driven/forced. They tend to be sloppy, lazy and able to tackle problems immediately.
The female hormones are dominant by nature to keep things in order and make for the future.
Nature's call. No one's at wrong. -
too true...
kinda reminds me of that idiotic woman Victoria Beckham who wanted a baby "to save their marriage"... if she's getting tired of him, almost nothing in the world will stop that slippery slide...
that being said, a nudge along the way may be necessary for some guys coz guys being guys, will just fall into a rut and stay there as long as that rut is comfortable...
if they really are in love and such, i do hope they get themselves ready for the GIANT step that is matrimony... and remember that it is a sacrament.. a sacred institution!
i dunno.. i asked a while ago, where is the love? mayhap it is her way of showing it.. to move him along.. out of that rut... sometimes, love shows in mysterious ways
(or am i a hopeless and hopeful romantic + the eternal optimist? )Originally posted by jOhO:yo maya how u been!
anyway, that line highlighted; better check if that's true, cos, marriage ain't gonna solve that. it'll prob make it worse, actually. -
hmm..yeah..i think so too. think by this time, he's (should be) ready.Originally posted by choco B:(ack I lost my original post somewhere)
If the guy seems ready and able to get married , then it's not such an unreasonable request from her, issit?
I disagree that she is getting tired of the relationship. If so, she would leave now to cut losses.
I think your friend has an idea of how she wants her life to be down the road, with her future husband and family included... and she's just being honest about it.
well..i just wait for their invitation then -
Totally agree with this.
The approach taken by a girl to "nudge him on" makes all the difference. Reward-incentives vs threats and punishment.Originally posted by Nelstar:Most guys are slow, or rejoice in being slow except for some things.
The male hormones are by nature active only when driven/forced. They tend to be sloppy, lazy and able to tackle problems immediately.
The female hormones are dominant by nature to keep things in order and make for the future.
Nature's call. No one's at wrong. -
yo bear, good to see hope in any reln. that's rare these days, keep it alive!
on the contrary tho, i wouldn't go so far as using marriage as an ultimatum no matter how much love there is?!?
every couple is different i guess. and us males, prob won't ever fully understand how a woman feels when she's getting older and not knowing if she'll be married.
u should see how happy a bride is on her day. it's not about the groom at all, trust me. -
hmm lemme try to recall... HUMAN RESOURCE MANAGEMENT?Originally posted by choco B:Totally agree with this.
The approach taken by a girl to "nudge him on" makes all the difference. Reward-incentives vs threats and punishment.
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hi jojo (can i call u jojo now..haha..Originally posted by jOhO:yo maya how u been!
anyway, that line highlighted; better check if that's true, cos, marriage ain't gonna solve that. it'll prob make it worse, actually.
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me is doing just fine. it's u that i'm worried about..too much work, eh ?
okie..will go talk to my friend abt this matter
but think they both will be just fine (i hope).