I'm paranoid...
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i started getting paranoid ever since i got into a relationship again. i dunno why i feel like tat. but could be bcos of past experiences, n i'm paranoid tat things will go sour, or my partner will be unfaithful, or he will do things behind my back.
but so far, he has done nothing that should make me feel tis way. i tink the problem lies wth me, not him. how? if i keep getting insecure n paranoid abt things tat never happen, its gonna spoil the relationship sooner or later. i dun wanna feel like tat, but i cannot help getting paranoid or suspicious every now n then.
how?
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love is based on trust woh...
learn slowly lor... let him noe that u're learning oso.. then he wun be too shocked when u get paranoid in front of him..? -
when we were juz dating, i didn't give a damn as to where he is, what he is doing. but now in relationship liao, i got paranoid lor. its like when he says he is in his friend's house, i start to imagine all sorts of things.Originally posted by audlenelee:love is based on trust woh...
learn slowly lor... let him noe that u're learning oso.. then he wun be too shocked when u get paranoid in front of him..?
i'm learning, n we tok abt it a few times liao. so far, really nothing has happen, but i juz got imaginative. n he says i'm getting paranooid over nothing. -
your boy boy seems very nice ah... trust is something u have to learn... and to force on yourself. when i was with my ex, i was PANAROID!!! very very panaroid. but everytime i had doubts, i simply told myself everything was fine, and forced myself to stop thinking in negetive terms....
anyway, relax some ok? hes very nice and im sure u agree with me. give him some trust n tether, and im sure things will work out great. -
keisha
you've got to learn how to let go of the past and start learning to trust again
time will reveal a person's character.. don't be too anxious for him to prove himself.. -
shd be normal bah... when u were still dating maybe u had other choices? dat's y more fang de kai...? or did he do something b4 dat made u so paranoid now? or rather maybe it's ur past relationships?Originally posted by keisha:when we were juz dating, i didn't give a damn as to where he is, what he is doing. but now in relationship liao, i got paranoid lor. its like when he says he is in his friend's house, i start to imagine all sorts of things.
i'm learning, n we tok abt it a few times liao. so far, really nothing has happen, but i juz got imaginative. n he says i'm getting paranooid over nothing.
he shd be understanding and u musn't go overboard lor... but u shd be careful now when he is starting to show his frustration by saying dat... -
Sometimes I feel that some girls just think too much.
Nothing happen also think until it REALLY happens, if you get what I mean.
Just take it easy. -
trust is something you need to give, but there is no way to confirm if that person deserves that trust or not.
if you try to start finding out whether the person is deserving of this trust or not, then it's not really trust.
well, trust is really just a blind thing ....... unfortunately -
silly is always able to explain what i meant to say in clear simple terms...Originally posted by sillyme:keisha
you've got to learn how to let go of the past and start learning to trust again
time will reveal a person's character.. don't be too anxious for him to prove himself..
im so stupid...
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i'm a simple man, simplemeOriginally posted by HENG@:silly is always able to explain what i meant to say in clear simple terms...
im so stupid... 
at least you are good at conversations and making the surroundings come alive -
this is what ppl mean by experience ...... don't worry, you'll get thereOriginally posted by HENG@:silly is always able to explain what i meant to say in clear simple terms...
im so stupid... 
same for keisha, don't worry, you'll learn soon enough whether your bf is deserving of your trust
he could be feeling the very same things too ............. -
never ever be paranoid....it will always end up chasing the other party away.....ALWAYS!!
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i cannot deny tat he is nice to me. n so far, nothing he has done should make me feel tat way.......Originally posted by HENG@:your boy boy seems very nice ah... trust is something u have to learn... and to force on yourself. when i was with my ex, i was PANAROID!!! very very panaroid. but everytime i had doubts, i simply told myself everything was fine, and forced myself to stop thinking in negetive terms....
anyway, relax some ok? hes very nice and im sure u agree with me. give him some trust n tether, and im sure things will work out great.
i'm trying so hard. but i juz keep getting paranoid......
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Mutual trust is impt. So keisha u must slowly learn, and dun get paranoid over it. Dun let the same shadow pester u, keep going on to make life meaningful.Originally posted by keisha:i started getting paranoid ever since i got into a relationship again. i dunno why i feel like tat. but could be bcos of past experiences, n i'm paranoid tat things will go sour, or my partner will be unfaithful, or he will do things behind my back.
but so far, he has done nothing that should make me feel tis way. i tink the problem lies wth me, not him. how? if i keep getting insecure n paranoid abt things tat never happen, its gonna spoil the relationship sooner or later. i dun wanna feel like tat, but i cannot help getting paranoid or suspicious every now n then.
how? -
i tink tats it lor, must let go of my past. n maybe cos i have done so many things in the past, i'mn scared ppl will do it back to me. retributionOriginally posted by sillyme:keisha
you've got to learn how to let go of the past and start learning to trust again
time will reveal a person's character.. don't be too anxious for him to prove himself..
its also the reason why it took me so long to go into a relationship. cos i felt i cannot forget my past yet. now tat i have almost fully let go of my past, things r fine for us. but its juz me getting paranoid n suspicious over everything lor
somebody slap me awake pls
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Hmmm honey I really dunno how to help with this but do gib me a ring if u need a listening ear k ?
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yah lor, tat time got few suitors mah. so i dun really care what each of them r doing. i choose tis guy cos i feel more comfortable wth him, n also i feel he is not secretive abt things.Originally posted by audlenelee:shd be normal bah... when u were still dating maybe u had other choices? dat's y more fang de kai...? or did he do something b4 dat made u so paranoid now? or rather maybe it's ur past relationships?
he shd be understanding and u musn't go overboard lor... but u shd be careful now when he is starting to show his frustration by saying dat...
he never do anything to make me paranoid. n yah lor, cos if i keep toking abt negative issues tat never happen, he is getting irritated. n i dun blame him for feeling tat way man.
somemore, so far so good. he has been pretty good to me. n of cos he has brought me home to see his parents, attend his brother's wedding, n tat means all his relatives saw me liao.
but he also ha d acolurful past, like me. so many ex gfs. tats also one of the reason why i'm getting paranoid. n now hor, i'm not even crazy abt him yet. juz like him enough only, n i oredi feel like tat. if i were to fall madly in love then how? -
what i wanna say has been said..
slowly slowly yah? the best things come slowly.. relationships take a long time to develop... so slowly learn to trust him
and he'll do his part too -
i totally agree wth tis manOriginally posted by Parka: Sometimes I feel that some girls just think too much.
Nothing happen also think until it REALLY happens, if you get what I mean.
Just take it easy.
n yet i can't help making the mistake -
in life, we choose the path to walk.. there're only consequences we have to deal with, not retribution (if it exists)..Originally posted by keisha:i tink tats it lor, must let go of my past. n maybe cos i have done so many things in the past, i'mn scared ppl will do it back to me. retribution
its also the reason why it took me so long to go into a relationship. cos i felt i cannot forget my past yet. now tat i have almost fully let go of my past, things r fine for us. but its juz me getting paranoid n suspicious over everything lor
somebody slap me awake pls
turn your bad experiences to learning points..
meantime, i pray that you find peace -
i talk too much actually..........Originally posted by sillyme:i'm a simple man, simpleme
at least you are good at conversations and making the surroundings come alive -
man man laiOriginally posted by keisha:i cannot deny tat he is nice to me. n so far, nothing he has done should make me feel tat way.......
i'm trying so hard. but i juz keep getting paranoid......
chuan dao qiao tou zi ran zhi
take things as they come okies? -
If u will be awaken, I will definitely gif u a slap... but even if sumone did so, the fact is, deep inside ur hrt, you have not get rid of the past. Just believe in sumthing, what's urs will meant to be urs...Originally posted by keisha:i tink tats it lor, must let go of my past. n maybe cos i have done so many things in the past, i'mn scared ppl will do it back to me. retribution
its also the reason why it took me so long to go into a relationship. cos i felt i cannot forget my past yet. now tat i have almost fully let go of my past, things r fine for us. but its juz me getting paranoid n suspicious over everything lor
somebody slap me awake pls -
yah, i noe all tat. now i'm juz trying to stop being like tat, be it wth him or anyone esle in the future also.Originally posted by eutjin:trust is something you need to give, but there is no way to confirm if that person deserves that trust or not.
if you try to start finding out whether the person is deserving of this trust or not, then it's not really trust.
well, trust is really just a blind thing ....... unfortunately -
Girl.. i truly understand.....Originally posted by keisha:i started getting paranoid ever since i got into a relationship again. i dunno why i feel like tat. but could be bcos of past experiences, n i'm paranoid tat things will go sour, or my partner will be unfaithful, or he will do things behind my back.
but so far, he has done nothing that should make me feel tis way. i tink the problem lies wth me, not him. how? if i keep getting insecure n paranoid abt things tat never happen, its gonna spoil the relationship sooner or later. i dun wanna feel like tat, but i cannot help getting paranoid or suspicious every now n then.
how?
I am paranoid becoz of my family history