~ When A Man Falls In Love...~
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OMG..what's happening here ???
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Nothing.Originally posted by Maya061:OMG..what's happening here ??? 
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Princess is Not a fragile damsel-in-distress
When I see somethg wrong or forms of injustice, then I'll point it out That's the whole long & short of it Originally posted by laurence82:Princess flaming the Bear?
In anyway, relationship rather murky for me, and I got love-phobia, like a girl, but never got into relationship coz of commitment. I know people say passion drives one to commitment, when you really love a person, at the least you would woo (or the passion to woo) and then establish and tries to maintain harmonious relationship.
I am pretty lazy. When both parties engage in a relationship, there must be al least some form of show of love and commitment, whether its everynight SMS for some people here, or smiles at each other everyday, or even going down to Jalan Kayu have supper , then go home, and hardly speak a word during the meal. I may like or love a girl, but what drives me back is because I am lazy to keep a commitment.
Unlike friends and families, I find BGRs rather foggy. I am the type of person who is like Yes/No, 1 to 10, A to Z type of person. Nothing foggy, murky or shady. I am not good in stuff relating to emotions, except my own. Engaging in a relationship is also like playing around with sensitivity, emotions and feelings. For me, I would say Bah! and plunged into my books. I find books on politics, business, military stuff more appealing than relationships, psychology, emotions..doesnt mean I am not emotional or not sensitive to others. Just find that I am scared of relationships. Reading the Bear's posts and countless thread in Aunt Agony actually put me more and more off from BGRs. Unlike what I dwelved in, like those MLM issues in Kopitiam, feelings of the heart was never for people like me.
Even dealing with people in sgforums a chore. We find people flaming, disgusting nitwits, misunderstanding (well, internet interaction is quite limited) , even supporting and maintaining harmonious relationships with others is a bit of a chore too. Yikes, hope Neontetra is not reading this.
To end it off, I cannot blame the Bear for maybe what appears to be a contadictory personality, or this 'appear to be noble, and playing victim' gooble gook. This is posting over internet, we donch know how he feel or thinks really, by not interacting with him personally. Another point, dont base someone personality over what he post.
Ending off
PS: You guys can put it down on your diary, after three months since joining sgforums, laurence82 actually start to post on this type of topic. And a long post too.
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*smilez* Yeah, & u wrote her a whole lotta mushy thgs, how can u blame her for thinking u haven't moved on?
Stop pointing the finger @ ev. body else, Bear, the truth is, there's No smoke without a fire. AND, if there wasn't any wood to fuel the fire, there wldn't be any smoke.
U never wld see, wld u? And u never will.
She hasn't moved on? Told u tt u'd never see U dun see thgs u dowan to see, & u wun listen to thgs u dowan to hear anywayz
And tt's the last u'll hear from me too. No pt tokking to a selectively blind & deaf person.
RPOriginally posted by the Bear:i don't... i remember in detail what made me make the hardest and simplest decision of my life..
walk away from a bad situation when there is no way of solving it... this time, she was not mine anymore... and i know the pain of trying to tell her things when she made up her mind.. even when they were dead wrong... the pain, both physical and emotional..
she did rant on and on about my not moving on.. insisting on seeing things as she saw them yonks ago.. things that have changed.. when i had changed.. when i had let go, when i had moved... and it was with a strange serenity i told her everything.. but she never accepted that...
face value i guess..
sometimes, reason fails when the heart speaks...
her ranting meant one thing to me there and then... she seemed to be still hurting.. and my being around, didn't serve any purpose other than to make her angry, make her confused? maybe? because she couldn't seem to accept that i had changed...
it would be better for her to not see me again if it was going to be like that... it hurt to lose a friend like that.. to not see a friend again, but if it was to spare her confusion and further sorrow... why not?
i still remember her "we're still be best of pals and hang out" but.. maybe it was too awkward? who knows? no one will now...
there are other things... things that are best left buried... looking at scars, which scabs have fallen off long ago.. serves no purpose to pick at scars...
i'll leave it here.. for a man, when he falls, reason, logic, good sense, everything, fails him.. for he is just, a man... the only thing a man knows when he is in love, is that he loves her...
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Hi Maya,Originally posted by Maya061:
Do you know who i am? Hehehe! Its been a long time since we chatted whether through here or MSN. Anyway, here is the answer to your question... sometimes, even if you love the girl... doesn't mean that the girl will love you back. There was once, i really really like this girl but in the end... she went steady with my best buddy. Hahaha... imagine that! -
Hi Marmalade Boy !!! Sure I remember you !Originally posted by Marmalade Boy:Hi Maya,
Do you know who i am? Hehehe! Its been a long time since we chatted whether through here or MSN. Anyway, here is the answer to your question... sometimes, even if you love the girl... doesn't mean that the girl will love you back. There was once, i really really like this girl but in the end... she went steady with my best buddy. Hahaha... imagine that!
I know....Love cannot be forced. Although I'm not going to say as long as he's happy i'm happy, but still.. we couldn't force someone to love us.
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That is nice to know, Maya... Thanks!Originally posted by Maya061:Hi Marmalade Boy !!! Sure I remember you !
I know....Love cannot be forced. Although I'm not going to say as long as he's happy i'm happy, but still.. we couldn't force someone to love us. 
So true... what to do... this is life!