~ to the bear : i wish to know you better ...~
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ya.. even if one party gives in and 'reconciles'.. don't think it'll last.. it's just a temporary relief..Originally posted by KittynMeow:i agree..... and usually it works in the opposite manner... whatever the threat is... the more you threaten, the more the other party wants to get away from you out of fear etc....
but then again.. a person in rejection can't see the obvious.. -
congrats to bear and maya!!! hope all goes well..........
as for guys who cry easily..... 2 words: BUAY TAHAN! wat is tis mah... once a guy cry infrnt of me cos I "reject" him.... keep sobbing until I fed up, so I pressed my cigi into my arm right in fnt of his face.... he so shocked and stopped crying... and I went "stop liao? good.. I go liao..." and walk off.........
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yeah...Brother Bear is a nice guy.
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a person who cannot accept rejection can resort to very drastic measures... some guys who cannot contain themselves will start kicking a fuss like go to the gal's house and break the flowerpots, harrass the family members, create a racket hoping to humiliate the gal etc. some gals resort to stalking the guy and their new gf etc...Originally posted by sillyme:ya.. even if one party gives in and 'reconciles'.. don't think it'll last.. it's just a temporary relief..
but then again.. a person in rejection can't see the obvious..
really wonder if they stop to think... because if they do, I'm sure they'll realise that the more they do that, the more antangonistic their ex-es will feel towards them.. not love. -
wah din know got such ppl exist in this world....i thought only in movies!! mayb the family got history of mental sicknessOriginally posted by Seacucumber:i dont know.
at first he was chasing my good friend. but i think after several rejections from her, he change "target" to me!!!
i wasnt very firm then, so i dont really dare to say hurting stuff to him, unlike my good friend....
but i remembered he took his parang with him after he found out that my good friend found a bf!~!!!! he followed them everywhere they go....
he wanted to "chop" her bf dead!! that was very scary!!!
i think his wire very looooose! -
i'm guilty of doing irrational things too lah.. but at least my i didn't do very silly (yeah, i'm not silly afterall) stuff..Originally posted by KittynMeow:a person who cannot accept rejection can resort to very drastic measures... some guys who cannot contain themselves will start kicking a fuss like go to the gal's house and break the flowerpots, harrass the family members, create a racket hoping to humiliate the gal etc. some gals resort to stalking the guy and their new gf etc...
really wonder if they stop to think... because if they do, I'm sure they'll realise that the more they do that, the more antangonistic their ex-es will feel towards them.. not love.
actually.. it's hard to think clearly when emotions cloud you.. so unless you are void of feelings.. then it's easier.. so can't blame them sometimes.. -
whaa....Kak Maya mau kenalkan Abang Beruang ah?? Biak sekali ya!!
Dia tinggi dan gagah....haha -
true... its hard to think clearly when emotional... so all the more shouldn't act when emotional... should allow some breathing time to be alone to calm down a bit first, think through then act.Originally posted by sillyme:i'm guilty of doing irrational things too lah.. but at least my i didn't do very silly (yeah, i'm not silly afterall) stuff..
actually.. it's hard to think clearly when emotions cloud you.. so unless you are void of feelings.. then it's easier.. so can't blame them sometimes..
Not saying that the person is void of feelings lah... just that there is a need for rationality too.... because when a person is emotional, he or she will often do or say things that they don't mean and regret after that. -
Bear is a gentleman. He will if u come over. thats wat i think.Originally posted by Maya061:i will !!! but then when i come, he won't see me, how ???
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yup... temperance is a good virtue... most importantly when the cruch time comes we must act accordingly lor.. but sometimes it's just too hard..Originally posted by KittynMeow:true... its hard to think clearly when emotional... so all the more shouldn't act when emotional... should allow some breathing time to be alone to calm down a bit first, think through then act.
Not saying that the person is void of feelings lah... just that there is a need for rationality too.... because when a person is emotional, he or she will often do or say things that they don't mean and regret after that. -
Just a comment. Do you think that when a person is able to have some control over his emotions, or at least is able to stop and breathe before he takes any action.... then he doesn't really have extremely deep feelings invested?
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hmm....wat answer do u expect??....i think he's more rational lor..Originally posted by choco B:Just a comment. Do you think that when a person is able to have some control over his emotions, or at least is able to stop and breathe before he takes any action.... then he doesn't really have extremely deep feelings invested? -
depends?Originally posted by choco B:Just a comment. Do you think that when a person is able to have some control over his emotions, or at least is able to stop and breathe before he takes any action.... then he doesn't really have extremely deep feelings invested?
depends on whether how must one has been thru.. his/her maturity? -
Oh er, not targeting at Sillyme lah. Just want to hear everybody's views.Originally posted by Inzaghi:hmm....wat answer do u expect??....i think he's more rational lor..
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i'm sillyme leh.. how can i be rational??
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u r silly not stupid right? silly is intentional ignorant when one is smart. hahaOriginally posted by sillyme:i'm sillyme leh.. how can i be rational?? -
i also know lar.....but wat u recogn?..Originally posted by choco B:Oh er, not targeting at Sillyme lah. Just want to hear everybody's views. -
no lah... I tend to believe that that person is equally committed and has deep feelings, just that he has a more rational way of approaching problems....Originally posted by choco B:Just a comment. Do you think that when a person is able to have some control over his emotions, or at least is able to stop and breathe before he takes any action.... then he doesn't really have extremely deep feelings invested? -
wat to say? I married such a man.... very controlled, rational and matured... but yes just cos he doesn't show it, doesn't mean he doesn't feel... sometimes such ppl feels even more cos they keep it deep inside and doesn't release it....Originally posted by choco B:Just a comment. Do you think that when a person is able to have some control over his emotions, or at least is able to stop and breathe before he takes any action.... then he doesn't really have extremely deep feelings invested? -
wah.. i didn't know this definition..Originally posted by NeonTetra:u r silly not stupid right? silly is intentional ignorant when one is smart. haha -
would someone see such indifference feel that he/she isn't loved? that he/she would expect some form of reaction? if not, would it imply that the relationship didn't matter?
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the mind commands the body, the body listens
the mind commands itself and meets resistance
the mind commands the heart and meets rebellion
but sometimes... in the short run, the mind must take control...
then in the privacy of solitude, one has no one but himself to answer to
what needs to be done, will be done -
wei wei wei, this is bear's thread leh..
how come we are discussing about other things?
haha.....
should go start a "psycho" thread? -
put a rational person and an emotional person together and this is a likely situation or misperception that will result... that's where communication between parties is all the more vital to the relationship....Originally posted by sillyme:would someone see such indifference feel that he/she isn't loved? that he/she would expect some form of reaction? if not, would it imply that the relationship didn't matter? -
agree wif QQOriginally posted by Seacucumber:wei wei wei, this is bear's thread leh..
how come we are discussing about other things?
haha.....
should go start a "psycho" thread?