I got a problem..

• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 11:25

  how do u gals feel, if u realise a few guys tat u like is going after your close gal friend in stead?
  
  and how do the one who is being courted feel?
  
  will any friendship be spoil?
  
  i got this repeatting problem now wth tis certain gf of mine. i didn't do anything, and i oredi told the guy straight off tat i only look upon him as a brother, n we r colleagues, tats all. so all is cleared, and if he doesn't like my gf back, i can't really do anything rite?
  
  now another guy is courting me, and i juz found out from him tat, she actually confess to him tat she tot he was cute, but he was oredi courting me. so she kind of didn't do anything. but i dun feel good to find out from him tat, she confess to him and ask him not to tell me. cause she knows he's interested in me, and going after me liao.
  
  sh1t, i dun really like th situation i'm in. its not my doings, and not my fault. n i kind of like tis guy. but i'm so so so scared tat one day tis gf is gonna hate me, juz cos the guys she like happen to be interested in me instead. i didn't flirt, didn't do anything, didn't express any interest watsoever. i also make it quite well known to everyone around tat i'm not into any relationship now also. it juz happen tis way. she keep asking to intro guys to her, n i oredi tried my best liao. n it doesn't help tat she keep seeing guys around me, be it juz friends or suitors.
  
  how? i bet she secretly hates me
  
  damn...my story looks messy, can't even seem to explain properly
• sillyme

  20 Oct 03, 11:34

  so this guy your gf likes, likes you.. but you only treat him as a colleague..
  
  but you're afraid that your gf hates you becos he likes you instead of her?
• Inzaghi

  20 Oct 03, 11:38

  hmm..maybe ur galfren got the same taste as u??..
• X-men

  20 Oct 03, 11:39

  Trouble of being chio
  
  If you not interested in the guy then have to make know to him lor.
  
  I can't advise cos I treasure friendship to courtship. I sure choose friendship so my advice won't be a good one.
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 12:01

  Originally posted by sillyme:

  so this guy your gf likes, likes you.. but you only treat him as a colleague..
  
  but you're afraid that your gf hates you becos he likes you instead of her?

  its quite confusing, one guy she likes, told me he actaully wanna go after me. n i told him straight tat we r juz colleagues n friends.
  
  another one is my best guy friend. but he only treat her as a friend. n he's juz my best pal, nothing esle.
  
  then another one tat she says she likes (she confess to him) is going after me now, tats the date i'm toking abt lor. i'm considering about him, cos he's a ncie guy. as long as i'm ready for any relationship, i might accept him. noe wat i mean?
  
  then another one who used to be courting me, she say he's cute, but he courting me mah, even though i told him we can only be friends.
  
  sad to say, but she seem to like every of my guy friends, and some of the colleagues.
  
  
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 12:02

  Originally posted by Inzaghi:

  hmm..maybe ur galfren got the same taste as u??..

  no, dun tink so. i hardly say any guy is cute lor. but she seems to tink every guy is cute
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 12:04

  Originally posted by X-men:

  Trouble of being chio
  
  If you not interested in the guy then have to make know to him lor.
  
  I can't advise cos I treasure friendship to courtship. I sure choose friendship so my advice won't be a good one.

  i always always make it clear from day one. if i feel the guy is interested n i'm not, i will never lead anyone on.
  
  i tresure this colleague/friends relationship wth her. n so far, she didn't show tat she hate or or anything. in fact she quite close to me.
  
  but i feel so uncomfortable now tat i know she likes the guy who is currently goign after me. wonder how she feel when he fetch me to work n send me home, n she seeing us going on dates
• sillyme

  20 Oct 03, 12:46

  your girlfriend likes so many guys at the same time.. it's either she's eager to find a boyfriend.. or she's just making a remark on how good she think the guys are..
  
  actually, it's none of your fault that the guys like you.. you're just being yourself, which is a good thing..
  
  there's really nothing you can do.. but if you want to keep this friendhsip, honesty is the best policy.. be truthful to her between your relationship with her, and your friendship with the guys.. and as you rightly put it, don't lead anyone on.. be truthful also on who you really are interested and who you are not..
  
  ya, it's hard to juggle all these BGR problems
• Maya061

  20 Oct 03, 13:01

  Originally posted by sillyme:

  your girlfriend likes so many guys at the same time.. it's either she's eager to find a boyfriend.. or she's just making a remark on how good she think the guys are..
  
  actually, it's none of your fault that the guys like you.. you're just being yourself, which is a good thing..
  
  there's really nothing you can do.. but if you want to keep this friendhsip, honesty is the best policy.. be truthful to her between your relationship with her, and your friendship with the guys.. and as you rightly put it, don't lead anyone on.. be truthful also on who you really are interested and who you are not..
  ya, it's hard to juggle all these BGR problems

  i agree with sillyme. anyway, so far none of u are attached, so for me as long as i like the guy and he also seems to interested in me, i'll go for him. and your galfriend seems to have many stocks. i mean..she's not that kind that hard to like someone or wadever. so far from yr story, 4 guys already that she's interested to. but...then again, u must be honest to her that u're goin with him. it's fair enough i think.
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 14:49

  Originally posted by sillyme:

  your girlfriend likes so many guys at the same time.. it's either she's eager to find a boyfriend.. or she's just making a remark on how good she think the guys are..
  
  actually, it's none of your fault that the guys like you.. you're just being yourself, which is a good thing..
  
  there's really nothing you can do.. but if you want to keep this friendhsip, honesty is the best policy.. be truthful to her between your relationship with her, and your friendship with the guys.. and as you rightly put it, don't lead anyone on.. be truthful also on who you really are interested and who you are not..
  
  ya, it's hard to juggle all these BGR problems

  i have told her everything. like who i treat only as a friend, who i might consider, who's going after me. been frank n truthful to her. she's the one who's hiding stuff. n she really tink if she said it earlier than me, she might be able to get this guy her ego lah.
  
  there's nothing much i can do, u r rite. after all, i didn't do anything. juz feeling uncomfortable and lousy.
  
  i have no problem juggling all these guys, like means like, if i dun like i'll say so. its gals thats troublesome
• Inzaghi

  20 Oct 03, 14:51

  Originally posted by keisha:

  no, dun tink so. i hardly say any guy is cute lor. but she seems to tink every guy is cute

  maybe she got something wrong inside her brain..she believes tat guys who are after u r very good guy....some gals will think of tat..cos they esp like attached or even married guys..
• HENG@

  20 Oct 03, 14:54

  haha
  kitten is lidat one...
  go where also got guys latch onto her...
  
• sillyme

  20 Oct 03, 14:54

  Originally posted by keisha:

  i have told her everything. like who i treat only as a friend, who i might consider, who's going after me. been frank n truthful to her. she's the one who's hiding stuff. n she really tink if she said it earlier than me, she might be able to get this guy her ego lah.
  
  there's nothing much i can do, u r rite. after all, i didn't do anything. juz feeling uncomfortable and lousy.
  
  i have no problem juggling all these guys, like means like, if i dun like i'll say so. its gals thats troublesome

  but really if she turns out to scheming, petty and a jealous-pot.. then maybe you may not want to be too bothered with her.. right?
• rovguy

  20 Oct 03, 14:55

  Keisha,maybe she like the guy you like too.how come so many times,the guy u like,she like too.not fair to u.i feel that it is unfair.u do not have to worry anything.If the guy like you,he will chase after you and wont like ur friend one if he is sincere about u.what i feel that if my best friend like a girl,i will not go between them.not even talk to the girl,in case cause any misunderstanding.if my friend got stead,i happy for him.i will find other target.better..
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 14:55

  Originally posted by Maya061:

  i agree with sillyme. anyway, so far none of u are attached, so for me as long as i like the guy and he also seems to interested in me, i'll go for him. and your galfriend seems to have many stocks. i mean..she's not that kind that hard to like someone or wadever. so far from yr story, 4 guys already that she's interested to. but...then again, u must be honest to her that u're goin with him. it's fair enough i think.

  i'm the most straight forward person, everyone noes i'm not attached. everyone can see there's something going on between me n tis guy. i told her everything. i said he's nice, but i'm not ready. so i'll take my time n consider. she even tell me to take my time!
  
  all i can say its, she's a ncie gal, but too 'lan hong' oredi. tat means she's like desperate for a man. she says she like all these guys, all tats around me lah. i dunno how to explain lah, but she juz keep asking me to intro guys to her, say my tis friend cute, tat friend cute, ask me to give her their number
  
  n anyway, tis guy i'm dating now will never be interested in her, be it i'm in the picture or not, cos she's not his type.
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 15:38

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  haha
  kitten is lidat one...
  go where also got guys latch onto her...
  

  seriously i dunno if tats good or bad...
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 15:40

  Originally posted by sillyme:

  but really if she turns out to scheming, petty and a jealous-pot.. then maybe you may not want to be too bothered with her.. right?

  u r rite
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 15:43

  Originally posted by rovguy:

  Keisha,maybe she like the guy you like too.how come so many times,the guy u like,she like too.not fair to u.i feel that it is unfair.u do not have to worry anything.If the guy like you,he will chase after you and wont like ur friend one if he is sincere about u.what i feel that if my best friend like a girl,i will not go between them.not even talk to the girl,in case cause any misunderstanding.if my friend got stead,i happy for him.i will find other target.better..

  i noe wat u r saying. same here, if i noe my gf like tis guy, i will stay away lor.
  
  n i'm not in the least bit worried about the guy part. if he likes me, dun tink he will like her, we r so different. she's not his type.
  
  n anyway, i never say i will comfirm accoet him wat. so tat means i'm not like absolutely crazy about him, cos i'm not. juz find him nice tats all.
• NeonTetra

  20 Oct 03, 17:06

  I want, she dunno want or dont want. SHE want but He dunno whether he want or not. HE dun want, I want!!!! So now who wants who? Can those who want have the person he or she WANTS or those who dun want get it while those who WANT never????
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 17:12

  Originally posted by NeonTetra:

  I want, she dunno want or dont want. SHE want but He dunno whether he want or not. HE dun want, I want!!!! So now who wants who? Can those who want have the person he or she WANTS or those who dun want get it while those who WANT never????

  simi sai??????
• the Bear

  20 Oct 03, 17:17

  i think tetra just wants a girlfriend
  
  as for you, you're going to be a target for many guys and i think you gotta get used to your lady friends liking some of the men who are attracted to you..
  
  i do hope that they are good enough friends to understand that attraction can never be forced and not be angry with you...
  
  i hope you'll be well
  
  

  Originally posted by keisha:

  simi sai??????

• NeonTetra

  20 Oct 03, 17:20

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  i think tetra just wants a girlfriend
  
  as for you, you're going to be a target for many guys and i think you gotta get used to your lady friends liking some of the men who are attracted to you..
  
  i do hope that they are good enough friends to understand that attraction can never be forced and not be angry with you...
  
  i hope you'll be well
  
  

  see...Bear understands me..but not u
• the Bear

  20 Oct 03, 17:28

  but she ain't gonna come to you all gift-wrapped..
  
  go get her!
  
  

  Originally posted by NeonTetra:

  see...Bear understands me..but not u

• NeonTetra

  20 Oct 03, 17:29

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  but she ain't gonna come to you all gift-wrapped..
  
  go get her!
  
  

  ........ya gift-wrapped...hhaa....
• keisha

  20 Oct 03, 17:43

  Originally posted by NeonTetra:

  see...Bear understands me..but not u

  we r on different frequency level, so obviously i wun understand u.
  i tok nicely unless provoked, but some ppl dun even have basic manners.