what went wrong?
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Basically I would like to point out the FACT remain that when a relationship turns sour is that whos is to blame? U, me, him, her, whoever?
The thing is that time to move on. Guess most of you received the sms regarding this puppy asking his mom what is happiness and what his mom reply was its at the tip of ur tail. So the puppy went around chasing its tail hoping to catch/get happiness. But after several attempts he still could not get hold of his tail/happiness. So he went to ask his mom, how come he cannot catch/get his tail. Then mom replies, walk on and the tail/happiness will follow you.
The above simply shows what is best when a relationship turns sour.
There is a reason behind each and every action/reaction. Fact is what goes round comes round which is why this world we live in is round.
Disclaimer : This post is not directed to anyone, its just my 2 cents worth of thoughts. Feel free to comment. -
i'm trying to tell dino the same story... at first he couldnt get it.
finally, he tried to make himself into a sitting position, wif his tail stretched all the way to the side. becoz he's a jack russell terrier, which is known for his very flexible body, he managed to perform some kinda yoga by bending his body very slowly, very gently, stretching to the extreme, and caught his tail wif his teeth and gave me a "see? i did it!" look.
so at other times when his tail is out of his sight, he wud forget abt it and carry on wif his own life, almost forgetting that he has a tail behind him.
once he caught a glimpse of his tail again, he wud perform another yoga and say "see? i did it again!", wif a smug.
once in a while, u have to chase after happiness, not completely ignore it and assume that it'll come to u or follow u. most ppl wud give an excuse of "let nature takes its own course" or "what is ur is urs, what's not urs will not be urs no matter how hard u try".
there's certain extent of trial u need to make to achieve happiness, and u must know exactly when to pull back and save ur effort for something else more worthwhile, before u get hurt.
though it may be a ridiculous metaphor to most of u here, but dino has taught me a valuable lesson: when u have happiness following u around, do not take it for granted. once in a while, u need to recall or remember how u did it, how much effort (by getting the tail between ur teeth) u have put into it to achieve what u have... and cherish it.
ha ha ha.... that's all for my crap
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personally i feel that when a relationship ends, it is nvr one party's fault
both parties will have certain parts to play in the crumbling of the r/s no matter how much it seems to be the gal/guy's fault
to be able to find happiness, both parties must put in equal effort in making the r/s works otherwise no matter how patient a person is, after mths of giving n not receiving much in return, even a saint would give up... -
case to case basis, as far as who is the party responsible in screwing up the relationship.
even with that discovered, that is perhaps to make one feels better as he or she is probably not the one to blame.
the lesson to a failed relationship is always about what went wrong and how to avoid it in the future.
if the problem lies with you and u are not learning from it, its like climbing up from one man-hole and falling into another. -
case to case basis, as far as who is the party responsible in screwing up the relationship.
even with that discovered, that is perhaps to make one feels better as he or she is probably not the one to blame.
the lesson to a failed relationship is always about what went wrong and how to avoid it in the future.
if the problem lies with you and u are not learning from it, its like climbing up from one man-hole and falling into another. -
*2 thumbs up* well said!!Originally posted by weeeeeee.....:i'm trying to tell dino the same story... at first he couldnt get it.
finally, he tried to make himself into a sitting position, wif his tail stretched all the way to the side. becoz he's a jack russell terrier, which is known for his very flexible body, he managed to perform some kinda yoga by bending his body very slowly, very gently, stretching to the extreme, and caught his tail wif his teeth and gave me a "see? i did it!" look.
so at other times when his tail is out of his sight, he wud forget abt it and carry on wif his own life, almost forgetting that he has a tail behind him.
once he caught a glimpse of his tail again, he wud perform another yoga and say "see? i did it again!", wif a smug.
once in a while, u have to chase after happiness, not completely ignore it and assume that it'll come to u or follow u. most ppl wud give an excuse of "let nature takes its own course" or "what is ur is urs, what's not urs will not be urs no matter how hard u try".
there's certain extent of trial u need to make to achieve happiness, and u must know exactly when to pull back and save ur effort for something else more worthwhile, before u get hurt.
though it may be a ridiculous metaphor to most of u here, but dino has taught me a valuable lesson: when u have happiness following u around, do not take it for granted. once in a while, u need to recall or remember how u did it, how much effort (by getting the tail between ur teeth) u have put into it to achieve what u have... and cherish it.
ha ha ha.... that's all for my crap 
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well its easy to make such a judgement ONLY after u get outta relationship.Originally posted by elawee:personally i feel that when a relationship ends, it is nvr one party's fault
both parties will have certain parts to play in the crumbling of the r/s no matter how much it seems to be the gal/guy's fault
to be able to find happiness, both parties must put in equal effort in making the r/s works otherwise no matter how patient a person is, after mths of giving n not receiving much in return, even a saint would give up...
thinking back on past relationships make me realise that usually its easier to put the blame on the other party and move on rather than not dwelling on what happened, who is at fault, so might just end up wanting to get back if u dont really know what went wrong.
true enuff that a relationship is built on efforts from both parties but bad thing is when u start comparing who put in more effort.
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when a rship concluded, it's not finger-pointing time....
it's time for self-reflection and keep in mind not to make the same mistakes in future rships.....
jing yi shi, zhang yi zhi...... -
but such camparison usually dun occur unless one party is realli giving alot more than the other...Originally posted by chronos:well its easy to make such a judgement ONLY after u get outta relationship.
thinking back on past relationships make me realise that usually its easier to put the blame on the other party and move on rather than not dwelling on what happened, who is at fault, so might just end up wanting to get back if u dont really know what went wrong.
true enuff that a relationship is built on efforts from both parties but bad thing is when u start comparing who put in more effort.
in any r/s it is almost impossible for both parties to be giving n receiving in the same amt....
wat is more impt tat 100% effort is put in to make the r/s work -
agreedOriginally posted by FireIce:when a rship concluded, it's not finger-pointing time....
it's time for self-reflection and keep in mind not to make the same mistakes in future rships.....
jing yi shi, zhang yi zhi......