to get attached or not?
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Dun get attached, just because of u are lonely or for whatever reason. U might get urself very hurt, and not to mention, hurting the other party as well.Originally posted by Qoo`~`:i know this topic is being repeated alot of times already. However, I still have some concerns abt it.
Gers, will you get attached for the sake of it? eg: if you are very lonely and friends ard you r all attached, u suddenly feel like having a companion n somehow there's one "available" for you. U might have feelings for this guy if you further develop with him as friends..Will you want to be in a relationship coz you haven been loved n doted for awhile? Each time you see couples u start to envy them and think that if u had a bf, will u guys be like that? n start to imagine many many stuff....
Guys, how abt you?
It is really very hard to stay single, while majority of the friends ard you are attached?
Decide if its a crush, or u truly love / like tat person for whom he / she is... -
that's the main consideration i have.. i had given up a few coz of this.. til now i dunno if its right or wrong to do that....Originally posted by C-100:Dun get attached, just because of u are lonely or for whatever reason. U might get urself very hurt, and not to mention, hurting the other party as well.
Decide if its a crush, or u truly love / like tat person for whom he / she is... -
go slow, milady... go slow.
i have the same sentiments here... there r times i wish i have a gf, someone to share my joy and sorrows wif. someone who can be by my side when i need a company. someone who really care for me and think of me when i'm not around.
i've been unattached for more then 4 yrs already. during this period, i've met lots of gals, dated a few of them. sometimes the temptation of "having her as mine on a permanent basis" were also too great to resist.
i was rejected by some, most reasons given to me were becoz i wasn't their type.
i rejected some also, the reasons i gave also "she's not my type", "i foresee trouble if i get into relationship wif her", or "i'm not ready yet", etc...
there r a couple of times i almost started on a relationship, but glad i didn't when i get to know them further.
an example, wah... this girl looks decent, the girl-next-door type. she's not glamourous, not pretty, juz average looking. she's cute though, i love her smiles. but... she's bloody inconsiderate, doesn't care abt other ppl's feeling, very sarcastic at times.
another example, got to know a girl who is very smart. we had intelligent conversations. but when i got to know her further, she's actually a flirt, a cock-teaser... oh no, i can't take this.
u too... don't jump into a relationship for the sake of having one. get to know him as a friend, know him further. if he's still what u like, then go ahead. but if u find out something on him that u dont like, then u will be glad that u didn't.
trust me
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hmm...miss qoo...if u like tat guy..n if tat guy..can try out lor...u nv know if ur dun try rite...hehe
for me..i am very happy and contented wif my current life..zi you zi zai..dun nid anyone to chup one leg into my life yet
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Let's nature take it's course, I once hear a Qoutes saying:Originally posted by Qoo`~`:Gers, will you get attached for the sake of it? eg: if you are very lonely and friends ard you r all attached, u suddenly feel like having a companion n somehow there's one "available" for you. U might have feelings for this guy if you further develop with him as friends..Will you want to be in a relationship coz you haven been loved n doted for awhile? Each time you see couples u start to envy them and think that if u had a bf, will u guys be like that? n start to imagine many many stuff....
Guys, how abt you?
It is really very hard to stay single, while majority of the friends ard you are attached?
- If history teaches us anything, it is merely this: "Every revolution carries the seeds of its own destruction."
-History can be summarized as such: "Human can never learn from their mistakes. The world plunges itself into ever-increasing chaos. The only order in this anarchy is the trend of the conflict spiraling upwards as Father Time marches on."
But nevertheless the final say still lies on you. -
ahaha, its okie, dun worry.....u r not the first one who tot i am a guy......Originally posted by Qoo`~`:alamak.. keisha.. soory sorry.. coz yr reply is like "i wish i cld be single man" i interpretate as u want to be a single man/guy.. sorry sorry............
but u male or female by the way? i didn't read thru the postings, but why suddenly wanna get attached? -
think like wise too.. but some said coz i have too much hesitation n consider too much that's y until now still not attached.some of my colleagues also like that. almost 30 liao still single (no offence to those out there) n the advise they gove me is.. u are still young but cant take the "young" factor for granted. which is what they did. n i think also quite logical...Originally posted by weeeeeee.....:go slow, milady... go slow.
i have the same sentiments here... there r times i wish i have a gf, someone to share my joy and sorrows wif. someone who can be by my side when i need a company. someone who really care for me and think of me when i'm not around.
i've been unattached for more then 4 yrs already. during this period, i've met lots of gals, dated a few of them. sometimes the temptation of "having her as mine on a permanent basis" were also too great to resist.
i was rejected by some, most reasons given to me were becoz i wasn't their type.
i rejected some also, the reasons i gave also "she's not my type", "i foresee trouble if i get into relationship wif her", or "i'm not ready yet", etc...
there r a couple of times i almost started on a relationship, but glad i didn't when i get to know them further.
an example, wah... this girl looks decent, the girl-next-door type. she's not glamourous, not pretty, juz average looking. she's cute though, i love her smiles. but... she's bloody inconsiderate, doesn't care abt other ppl's feeling, very sarcastic at times.
another example, got to know a girl who is very smart. we had intelligent conversations. but when i got to know her further, she's actually a flirt, a cock-teaser... oh no, i can't take this.
u too... don't jump into a relationship for the sake of having one. get to know him as a friend, know him further. if he's still what u like, then go ahead. but if u find out something on him that u dont like, then u will be glad that u didn't.
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*nods head furiously* point takenOriginally posted by cwill:Let's nature take it's course, I once hear a Qoutes saying:
- If history teaches us anything, it is merely this: "Every revolution carries the seeds of its own destruction."
-History can be summarized as such: "Human can never learn from their mistakes. The world plunges itself into ever-increasing chaos. The only order in this anarchy is the trend of the conflict spiraling upwards as Father Time marches on."
But nevertheless the final say still lies on you. -
hahah.. me female... feeling of getting attached suddenly comes to me....Originally posted by keisha:ahaha, its okie, dun worry.....u r not the first one who tot i am a guy......
but u male or female by the way? i didn't read thru the postings, but why suddenly wanna get attached? -
err...u still very young wat...still got plenty of time to get ur right man..think there's things better to do den have a r/s...Originally posted by Qoo`~`:hahah.. me female... feeling of getting attached suddenly comes to me.... -
ya lor.. haiz.. but u know.. its likeu see have, u also wanna have that kind of attitude..Originally posted by Inzaghi:err...u still very young wat...still got plenty of time to get ur right man..think there's things better to do den have a r/s... -
is normal lar...but if u have this kinda thinking to look for a r/s, den u might encounter problem when the honeymoon period is over...u will have joy at 1st, den lotsa trouble n heart break later on...Originally posted by Qoo`~`:ya lor.. haiz.. but u know.. its likeu see have, u also wanna have that kind of attitude.. -
ya lor.. so have also got prob, dun have also got prob right.. fan ar.. dunno hoe... kekkekOriginally posted by Inzaghi:is normal lar...but if u have this kinda thinking to look for a r/s, den u might encounter problem when the honeymoon period is over...u will have joy at 1st, den lotsa trouble n heart break later on... -
there's no guarantee tat every r/s will succeed..if not, wont have ex bf or ex gf liao mah..but the mentality must be right when into the r/s lor, at least if fail, u know its not meant to be instead of knowing its impluse at 1st..Originally posted by Qoo`~`:ya lor.. so have also got prob, dun have also got prob right.. fan ar.. dunno hoe... kekkek -
saying easier than done.... when u xian ru ai he.. very hard to zi ba...Originally posted by Inzaghi:there's no guarantee tat every r/s will succeed..if not, wont have ex bf or ex gf liao mah..but the mentality must be right when into the r/s lor, at least if fail, u know its not meant to be instead of knowing its impluse at 1st.. -
den tat mean u like the other party liao lor...if u believe he's right for u, den go for it lar...these days gals also can take the 1st move, guys like it..but dun scare him off can liao..once the guy got scared, he will run faster than the gal...hahahaOriginally posted by Qoo`~`:saying easier than done.... when u xian ru ai he.. very hard to zi ba... -
hahha..right right agree..Originally posted by Inzaghi:den tat mean u like the other party liao lor...if u believe he's right for u, den go for it lar...these days gals also can take the 1st move, guys like it..but dun scare him off can liao..once the guy got scared, he will run faster than the gal...hahaha
take the first move? not very me leh.. hahha.... still abit abit unsure abt my feelings though, dun wan to hurt him tooo..
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Sometimes you gotta let go of fear... fear of failing, of things not working out, of losing. If you're scared of a less than perfect ending then you'd never try anything new. Live in the moment lah and enjoy whatever comes along.Originally posted by Qoo`~`:saying easier than done.... when u xian ru ai he.. very hard to zi ba...
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making the 1st move doesnt mean go up to him n pop tat qn lar..i mean is come more fwd to him, see him more often..call him more often..make sure he's used to u etc lar....but den if he's quite blur like me, den haha..good luck..Originally posted by Qoo`~`:hahha..right right agree..
take the first move? not very me leh.. hahha.... still abit abit unsure abt my feelings though, dun wan to hurt him tooo..
u attached?
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Sometimes, i do envy others especially when you offically have a girlfriend but at the same time its like you don't have a girlfriend.Originally posted by Qoo`~`:i know this topic is being repeated alot of times already. However, I still have some concerns abt it.
Gers, will you get attached for the sake of it? eg: if you are very lonely and friends ard you r all attached, u suddenly feel like having a companion n somehow there's one "available" for you. U might have feelings for this guy if you further develop with him as friends..Will you want to be in a relationship coz you haven been loved n doted for awhile? Each time you see couples u start to envy them and think that if u had a bf, will u guys be like that? n start to imagine many many stuff....
Guys, how abt you?
It is really very hard to stay single, while majority of the friends ard you are attached? -
/sob sobOriginally posted by Marmalade Boy:Sometimes, i do envy others especially when you offically have a girlfriend but at the same time its like you don't have a girlfriend.
understand yr feeling.. if u wanna let it out.. here's the place n shoulder.... -
Thanks but i broke up with her already... its just too stressful and too tired after 6 years of the same shit over and over again! I am feeling a lot better now than i was... i think!Originally posted by Qoo`~`:/sob sob
understand yr feeling.. if u wanna let it out.. here's the place n shoulder....
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think on the brighter side..old one no go, new one how to come?...Originally posted by Marmalade Boy:Thanks but i broke up with her already... its just too stressful and too tired after 6 years of the same shit over and over again! I am feeling a lot better now than i was... i think!
some attached guys are dying to be dettached...so tat they can have no commitment n have more free time to do watever they wan.. -
I rather be attached with the women i love... but some things are just not meant to be...Originally posted by Inzaghi:think on the brighter side..old one no go, new one how to come?...
some attached guys are dying to be dettached...so tat they can have no commitment n have more free time to do watever they wan..