Personal Grooming
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I posted this in another forum that I moderate when the girls there seems to question my advice to someone on dressing. Well, I thought it is interesting to share with everyone actually.
So here goes
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Well, the girls dun seem to think I have good taste, but I would like to say taste is something very subjective. Thus, I think I'll share something on grooming instead. Not that I myself follows everything that is said below as it's quite a drag and a lot of effort to look well-groomed all the time. But I thought it will be good to know some of these so called-rules about grooming. A well-groomed man is a well-dressed man I would say.
Women like well-dressed men, we all know that. How to dress well though? I'm no fashion guru, but there are certain rules no matter what your wear that you follow to make you look good. And yeah, I learnt them from an grooming course a few years back.
The key here is symmetry.
Why? Symmetry says "This isn't a fluke, I can create the same pattern over again in mirror image." What it does is show that you know what you are doing, that you have your stuff together so to speak.
Think about how unattractive asymmetrical faces are (think Quasimodo in the hunckback of notre dame).
Symmetry is broken by small differences between sides. The more symmetrical you are, the more slight details stand out. So, attend to even the smallest detail!
How to achieve symmetry? Here are some starters:
1. Press your clothes. No crumpling.
2. Polish your shoes. Not down at the heel.
3. Have the join in your shirt exactly line up with your zipper. Have your belt buckle exactly along that line.
4. When wearing a tie, use a full windsor knot.
5. Have "color symmetry". That is, match the color of your belt to your shoes to your watch strap to your wallet, etc. As for metal (belt buckle, watch, pen) stick to the same color, silver OR gold, not a mix.
6. Have a flat stomach so that your belt forms a horizontal circle around you. Have the belt buckle just marginally below your belly button so that your body is cleaved into two even parts, top and bottom.
7. Have your trousers long enough to fall onto your instep, but not so long so as they drag.
8. Make sure your collar is tight enough so it isn't sloppy, but not so tight that you look like you are choking. <---applies for comtemporary looks mostly.
9. Cut a bold outline, a bold silhouette. Try these combos: Black or Charcoal trou, dark gray or dark burgundy or dark forest green or dark navy blue shirt.
10. Avoid yellow ties. Leave them for clowns. Have a tie darker than your shirt (try a dark black/blue tie on a dark grey shirt). Try a stylish red tie on a white shirt.
11. Wear long sleeves (never rolled up) with the cuff coming down exactly to where your hand meets your wrist.
12. Make sure your hair forms near endlines. Shave the back of your neck if you have to.
13. Make sure your sideburns are even.
14. Shoes should announce your presence audibly (hard sole) not make you stealthy (soft soles).
15. Stand up straight!
16. Shave.
17. Have your clothes FIT.
18. Tie should come down so that the point lines up exactly in the center of your belt buckle.
19. Wear over-the-calf socks (color matched OF COURSE), so that they are evenly tight (not crumpled) either side.
20. Do up buttons. Don't leave back pockets unbuttoned.
21. Have a very slim wallet with a card or two. 1 or 2 keys at most (color matched key-ring). Nothing bulging in your pockets ruining the "line". (Oh, and no loose change in your pockets, don't jingle as your walk!)
22. Ask stylish young women in good clothes shop what THEY think would look good on YOU and TAKE THEIR ADVICE EVEN IF IT SURPRISES YOU. (And even if it contradicts something I've written here). Likewise for haircuts.
Oh, and one last thing, on colognes, which I'm sure most guys would be interested to know about. There is some evidence that outgoing, extroverted women tend to prefer men wearing spicier colognes, while the quieter, more introverted women tend to prefer floral scented men. So maybe you should consider choosing your weapon, er cologne, based upon the personality of the woman you're pursuing. Just a thought. :p
These are just some tips to help you get the general principle. The key is to look STRIKING, to cut a bold, masculine figure. Notice why some woman like man in uniforms? These women will say they looks smart and masculine. Well, notice some of the points above are very much in line with the way their uniform is worn, just that it is not that regimental. You get the idea. -
wear jersey and berms sua
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x 1.5Originally posted by kopiosatu:where jersey and berms sua
btw, its wear. -
hahaha, everyday must notice all these things hor, i think the guys will pass out man~~
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wow.. r u a personal groomer? nice tips.. but yah.. as was said.. if need to take care of so many things everyday... stress man..
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Ask stylish young women in good clothes shop what THEY think would look good on YOU and TAKE THEIR ADVICE EVEN IF IT SURPRISES YOU. (And even if it contradicts something I've written here). Likewise for haircuts
hmm will have to take note of this... -
Nah....just some stuff I pick up a few years ago at a grooming course.Originally posted by wuming78:wow.. r u a personal groomer? nice tips.. but yah.. as was said.. if need to take care of so many things everyday... stress man.. -
Originally posted by Estee:hahaha, everyday must notice all these things hor, i think the guys will pass out man~~
...Not that I myself follows everything that is said below as it's quite a drag and a lot of effort to look well-groomed all the time....
Well, I did state that myself right?
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hahaha, i never say you never state right?Originally posted by Callan:Well, I did state that myself right? -
*lub chin*Originally posted by Estee:hahaha, i never say you never state right?
*raise eyebrow*
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can you personally groom me as well ? wink* wink*
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u ask a guy to dress u???Originally posted by thelesis:can you personally groom me as well ? wink* wink*
gay??? -
wahh cal..
tatz quite a handful manz...
act i alwae prefer guys in super relac pattern one...
sporty tee n baggy bottoms...
tink my lovable jay~~
guys who r 2 dressed up moi buay tahan...
look vainer than moi
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jay?Originally posted by fish&chipz:wahh cal..
tatz quite a handful manz...
act i alwae prefer guys in super relac pattern one...
sporty tee n baggy bottoms...
tink my lovable jay~~
guys who r 2 dressed up moi buay tahan...
look vainer than moi
ya, and do the 1-2-3-4 sign -
if moi rili spot tis fela doing e hand signal...Originally posted by kopiosatu:jay?
ya, and do the 1-2-3-4 sign
tink i pengzz~~ -
i tink u will go like thisOriginally posted by fish&chipz:if moi rili spot tis fela doing e hand signal...
tink i pengzz~~
*knees weak*
jay i lurrrve uuuuu~
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hiakk~~Originally posted by kopiosatu:i tink u will go like this
*knees weak*
jay i lurrrve uuuuu~
*faints*
i will only b mesmerized by e real mcCoy lo
NO imposters plzzz.. -
oh... heard that dot?Originally posted by fish&chipz:hiakk~~
i will only b mesmerized by e real mcCoy lo
NO imposters plzzz.. -
personal grooming course??Originally posted by Callan:Nah....just some stuff I pick up a few years ago at a grooming course.
out of the 100 times i have been out with u:
70 times u r in ur black short sleeves tight-fit tshirt with jeans
20 times u r in ur black sleeveless tight-fit tshirt with ur blue berms (sentosa)
and the remaining 10 times will be the occasional BLACK (again) polo tshirt or u have just finished meeting ur clients n so u r in shirt n pants....
me no see any of those tips being put into use my dear.... -
personally t-shirt (no tight-fit tee pls) or short sleeves shirt with jeans or berms would be perfect for me, depending on where we are going
although i do like a guy to be in long sleeves shirt (smart mah), casual is still my personal preference as i myself am a t shirt n jeans gal... -
Originally posted by elawee:personal grooming course??
out of the 100 times i have been out with u:
70 times u r in ur black short sleeves tight-fit tshirt with jeans
20 times u r in ur black sleeveless tight-fit tshirt with ur blue berms (sentosa)
and the remaining 10 times will be the occasional BLACK (again) polo tshirt or u have just finished meeting ur clients n so u r in shirt n pants....
me no see any of those tips being put into use my dear.... -
i still miss the shorts callan worn on our first basketball outing.
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muahahahaha, and the towel too??Originally posted by www:i still miss the shorts callan worn on our first basketball outing. 
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BOCHAP. Like it or not, it's MY BODY...
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where he sprained 2-3 ankles?Originally posted by www:i still miss the shorts callan worn on our first basketball outing.