Originally posted by Stefanism:
errrrrr dis is a crapping post.....
recently feel very lonely maybe becos too stress den see couples going out hold hands..... i also feel like doing it too..... only thing is i no gf.....
most of u seen me b4 n more or less know wad kinda guy im like...... i dun understand y im such a turn off to gals... da feedback i usually get from friends is dat i usually turn them off with my first impression.... although most of da time i juz keep quiet and do not warm up to ppl unless i feel dat they can accept me for who i am.... or unless im sure they wun be my target of affection.....
when i like someone i always feel dat they r a million miles out of my reach.... and da line from Shallow Hal comes to haunt me..... dat i need to find someone who is in my own league.... which is someone who is ugly...
i juz dunno y izzit so hard for someone to like me... izzit becos i suay or do i seriously need a plastic surgery.....
this is my sincere advice, nothing boh liao, and i'm not joking either.
tho u r not handsome, but i dont think that u r ugly either. it's juz that ur looks might not attract girls at the first impression.
i know i'm gonna piss off a few girls here, but i dare to say that girls around ur age (20 plus minus) tends to look at appearance first, and the degree varies. some girls put looks in the first priority, tho they didnt realise themselves; some girls put looks as not so important; and very very few would completely ignore the looks and see the inner beauty as first priority.
why is that so? it's because of the "quality" of SG girls here. compared to other countries, they:
1. have better standard of living - try going to backward countries like china or vietnam. more girls there wouldn't mind not good looking men.
2. r more educated - they know what they want. they wanna be able to choose. and they wanna choose as best as she could (outer + inner beauty combined).
3. r still young - and they can flaunt it. they dont mind going thru several relationships at their age, but few wud commit to marriages.
my advice to u? enjoy ur singlehood while u can! u r still young! no girls come to u? no girls like u? who cares? while u r enjoying ur singlehood, u r sub-consciously waiting, waiting..... waiting.... waiting....
the wait could be a few years... or mebbe 5 or 10 years. u juz wait. as u wait, girls at ur age grows older wif u also. and when they reach the late twenties, they will start to worry.
trust me: they WILL start to WORRY, or even PANIC! i know that because i've seen all my gal friends like that. those married ones no worries, they r very happy. those unmarried ones or unattached ones more worrying than guys of the same age.
and... they don't care abt looks anymore. they would literally grab any guy who is good in inner beauty. u juz give them a little attention, a little concern, no bad habits, etc, and they'll start consider u as a potential liao, completely don't care if u r good looking or not.
and surprisingly, most late 20s ladies who havent get mrried yet r more good-looking then those married already. so what will be "left over" is for u to choose freely liao!
dont think urself too negatively. i dont think u r a complete turn off to gals. if u got no confidence in urself, how u expect girls to have confidence in u?