so long already, still.....
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It's quite hard to curb tt habit.. okok.. maybe it's alittle addiction but but..Originally posted by browniebaobao:
okok.. dun hijack thread.
ok.. where were we?
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My senior taught me a method. He calls it the 'Dark Side'.
Make yourself hate him. -
It may be a viable option for the early stage of mending, but it isnt for the long run. It's silly. Once u get out of it and think back, you'll realized how silly you were.Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:My senior taught me a method. He calls it the 'Dark Side'.
Make yourself hate him. -
since it has already dried up, so pick yourself up and force yourself to move.
nobody can help you on a mental setback, only yourself.
do you expect people to pick you up?
be strong, lady. -
Well I never tried it myself. There was never a need to.Originally posted by Gackt247:It may be a viable option for the early stage of mending, but it isnt for the long run. It's silly. Once u get out of it and think back, you'll realized how silly you were. -
o well. over so long liao. hopefully the song makes you feel better...
and i like this saying from an expert, called bladez87.
you lived your xx years of your life before and without him, what is stopping you from living like before? it is not the end of the world without him, since you already lived that kinda life before him... -
blade yandao ish so deep.. i like.. i like.. deep deep..
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There will come a time where you'll be thinking about someone else more often and more fondly, after meeting more people or getting to know your existing friends better.
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i no long kang for you to deep deep...Originally posted by Gackt247:blade yandao ish so deep.. i like.. i like.. deep deep..
and i not yandao la...but if people wanna think like this i also cant stop them. -
ooohh.. guess i am abit late here eh?
But never mind. Anyway, its natural that we keep thinking about the past because there isnt anytihng to replace it. YET.
Just look forward to the future and see what sought of promise you can get, you know like the other guy and all. So many people out there. Must be more happy to try out new stuff etc. Because you never know just how far it will take you.
Well, during the camp just siam la. if cannot siam den build invincible wall.
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baby....u r still young.
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see no evil hear no evil speak no evil
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juz let my actions do the talking..Originally posted by bladez87:see no evil hear no evil speak no evil -
For me, it used to seem that it takes forever as well...
I was in depression most of the time last time, over someone who never cared that much about me, and never will. So one day I made the decision to stop thinking about him, because I know we will not be together.
I allowed myself to reminiscense about the good times we had together one more time, then I forced myself to get out of this spiralling darkness, and to think about the people around me, who love me for what I am.
And today I am happier than before...love finds you when you expect it least
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aiya, don't waste ur time.... go know more guys. giv urself more chance.
and others more chances.
u never know , maybe someone that care about u is already beside u all the time. =]
but don't anyhow la. -
haha.. paiseh MIA so long.... digging up my old thread now.. yeah im back fr camp! tried knowing other guys but still.. whenever i see him, memories just overwhelm me.. i dunno what u guys mean by time heals everything... its been so long alr but still no sign of any healings.. well, one thing's for sure... its that we talk like normal friends now... i knoe fr the way he talks he treats me liek a mere friend, and so i try to put up a brave front whenever i talk to him, liek to show im not concerned one bit... alot of my frens commented that im doing a gd job in recovering and they admire how strong i am now.. but actually they dont know im bleeding inside
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this song depicts exactly how i feel now....
Deep and meaningless
I, I don't know why I miss you so much
Yeah I, I don't know why I still feel your touch
You, you left me feeling high and dry
With nothing, nothing but the queston why
Yeah you, I guess you had another direction
And leaving me with nothing but a dead connection
If you call me today
I'll say that I'm fine
But I bet you can tell by the tone of my voice
It's just a lie
You knew what you had
You still walked away leaving me in this mess
My love for you is deep and meaningless
You, you knew what you were doing to me
And I, I guess I was too blind to see
Well you hit where it hurt and you fooled me so bad
But I'd do it again to relive what we had
Damn that's sad
There are many things left to remind me
Of a love that I just can't leave behind me
If you call me today
I'll say that I'm fine
But I bet you can tell by the tone of my voice
It's just a lie
You knew what you had
You still walked away leaving me in this mess
My love for you is deep and meaningless -
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Sooner or later, you'll be able to tell yourself that you won't let the past shackle you. And you'll be able to accept things the way they are. The epiphany will come.
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Originally posted by papercut87:
quit listening to songs like this......its hard to tell u to shut your mind but u must occupy urself with plenty of things to do coz these thoughts attacks when ur not doing anything.
this song depicts exactly how i feel now....
Deep and meaningless
[b]I, I don't know why I miss you so much
Yeah I, I don't know why I still feel your touch
You, you left me feeling high and dry
With nothing, nothing but the queston why
Yeah you, I guess you had another direction
And leaving me with nothing but a dead connection
If you call me today
I'll say that I'm fine
But I bet you can tell by the tone of my voice
It's just a lie
You knew what you had
You still walked away leaving me in this mess
My love for you is deep and meaningless
You, you knew what you were doing to me
And I, I guess I was too blind to see
Well you hit where it hurt and you fooled me so bad
But I'd do it again to relive what we had
Damn that's sad
There are many things left to remind me
Of a love that I just can't leave behind me
If you call me today
I'll say that I'm fine
But I bet you can tell by the tone of my voice
It's just a lie
You knew what you had
You still walked away leaving me in this mess
My love for you is deep and meaningless
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best of luck -
The feeling of emptiness is because you have not found and loved yourself yet, hence your need for someone to fill that void......
Take time out on your own to meditate and appreciate yourself for who you truly are. This is easier said than done. But once you succeed, you'll want to find a companion to love and share your happiness and not because you want the emptiness/loneliness inside you to be filled...... Good luck! -
take time to enjoy yourself and let it out dun pretend to be ok.
take care, and go outings mroe often and make more friends
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what you are doing now is, telling everyone, including yourself, that you are trying to forget him and move on. but what you are really doing is lying to yourself and everyone else, cause you arent moving on.
accept the fact that memories are there to stay, they will not disappear at a snap of your fingers. but do remember, memories are memories. if everyone were to behave like you, thinking because they remember their memories = not moved on, i guess this whole world nobody moved on at all.
cherish your old memories as they were sweet and all. why do you keep telling yourself that "I AM NOT MOVING ON!!!" or something along that line. self fulfilling prophecy. the more u think u cant do it, the more u cant do it. instead think, OK! WE ARE FRIENDS NOW! BETTER FRIENDS THAN ENEMIES. talk talk sing song. and move on.
dont force yourself to look search find man on purpose. you are defying your heart. let it rest. wait for the right person to come at the right time.
how do you know you are not healing when you do not know what others mean by time heals all wounds? can you see the wound on your emotions? like how deep and how much of it is healed?
i think, correct me if i am wrong. there are a few signs of healing.
1 u can talk to that person, nicely, drawing the line clear that u 2 are friends.
2 u will not keep thinking of him daily, hourly, minutely, secondly. occasionally will think of the past memories but other than that u can live life normally.
3 putting up a false strong front will only hurt u more. it is like having a cut on yourself and adding salt on it, then shouting out NO PAIN NO PAIN!!! instead, accept the fact u might still have feelings for him, and let your heart rest. accept that although u still like him, but fate is up. forcing yourself to think that u dont like him is of no use.
aiya i dont know how to say. haha. advice also like rubbish so messy.
dont care how long u 2 together ,what matters is u 2 were together.
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just dont get it. why is everyone so bothered about relationships stuff.
why cant they move on? do they not see the fact that only 1 of their relationships will work out in life to become marriage?
all those relationships before the real deal comes are just preparations. accept the fact that this preparations will give u good memories. happy memories.
hao ju hao san. if 1 relationship doesnt work out, be happy that u r still friends, and also the fact that this is just BGR and not a marriage. why keep harping on a failed relationship and letting the rest of the world go by?
haiz...feelings makes the world smartest into a fool too. -
Don't keep yourself busy for the sake of keeping yourself busy.... Do things you're TRULY INTERESTED IN....Originally posted by papercut87:sorry guys, really need to vent this out. super emo....
broke up with my bf for a few mths already..
really hate acting in frnt of everybody to show that im okay.
coz im not.
i act all chirpy n smiley n hyper... but deep down i feel really empty.
im not the strong girl they all see me as.
just a weakling.
tried to move on, went out with other guys. nothing works.
tried keeping myself really busy.
but often, i find myself staring into blank space in between.
loneliness creeps in in the middle of the night.
i guess he has moved on. but not me.
can't seem to cry anymore like i used to in e past,
for all the tears have all dried up.
sigh... how am i ever gonna get over this love?!?!?
Break up = the past is over. Now is YOUR TIME. YOUR FREEDOM. Why tie yourself up and continue to let yourself down...? You've suffered enough already.