The Top 10 Subjects To Avoid in Early Stages of a R/S
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Read on newspaper.
Don't ask: who just call u?
Don't compare: See ppl have a better car!.
Don't say: It's always yr fault.
Don't ask: wru, where u went last nite?.
When all this question start there is no end.
Everybody must noe wat to say and what not to say, there is a limit no matter how close both r. If the topic is not suitable just close and ban.
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Haha...whatever gave you the impression that I am attached? Anyway, how come you are so curious to know about guys? I'd think that most girls can't really be bothered these days.Originally posted by browniebaobao:hmm?
i tot u have a gf?
i think it's the opposite for me..
i want to know but they dun really wana say.. -
Then can I take it?Originally posted by browniebaobao:having read ur posts...
i ask u ar, if ur gf tells u that she is no longer a virgin, how would u react?
i believe [color=red]u can't take it de.
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will u mind?Originally posted by Bontakun:Then can I take it?
i believe u wun take it too hard. -
u are not?Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:Haha...whatever gave you the impression that I am attached? Anyway, how come you are so curious to know about guys? I'd think that most girls can't really be bothered these days.
hmm... then maybe i remember wrongly.. could be someone else.
me curious?
hmmm.. maybe coz been hurt too many times before.. wana know the other gender better to prevent unnecessary damage ba. -
Hhmm....seems like a sensible approach. I do that also. I'm a cautious person by nature, and I'd rather get to know a girl better before getting further with her. It's even more important for girls to do the same as they have more to lose...Originally posted by browniebaobao:u are not?
hmm... then maybe i remember wrongly.. could be someone else.
me curious?
hmmm.. maybe coz been hurt too many times before.. wana know the other gender better to prevent unnecessary damage ba. -
If I said I dun even mind abit, then I am lying with my eyes big...Originally posted by browniebaobao:will u mind?
i believe u wun take it too hard.
However that is no reason to condemn people who are not virgins nor should they be viewed as 'easy' in the eyes of others.
We made mistakes, we make decisions, no matter what happened as a result of our choices, we live with it and accept it as part of our lives. Everybody deserves a second chance. If we cannot give them the chance, who will? -
yalor yalor..Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:Hhmm....seems like a sensible approach. I do that also. I'm a cautious person by nature, and I'd rather get to know a girl better before getting further with her. It's even more important for girls to do the same as they have more to lose... -
im gg to raise this question that i believed many ple have raised before...Originally posted by Bontakun:If I said I dun even mind abit, then I am lying with my eyes big...
However that is no reason to condemn people who are not virgins nor should they be viewed as 'easy' in the eyes of others.
We made mistakes, we make decisions, no matter what happened as a result of our choices, we live with it and accept it as part of our lives. Everybody deserves a second chance. If we cannot give them the chance, who will?
why is it that girls can dun mind their bf is not a virgin,
but guys mind that much?
i tell u ar, i seriously dun mind... -
I cannot answer for guys here. I can only answer for myself and myself only:Originally posted by browniebaobao:im gg to raise this question that i believed many ple have raised before...
why is it that girls can dun mind their bf is not a virgin,
but guys mind that much?
i tell u ar, i seriously dun mind...
There is an element of pride and ego at work as to 'prized possession' here with regards to the gal involved. There is also that reminder of 'She has given her treasure to someone else' and it will ALWAYS bite into the mind.
However, as time goes by I have observed the morality of chastity and social beliefs of chastity. It made me more open to the social norms of dating, pre-maritial sex and taboos and stuffs. And really, the issue of who being virgin or not has never really bugged me. Its more of her beliefs, mindset and character that matters more to me than chastity.
I hope I answered your question with my point of view here. -
Originally posted by Bontakun:I cannot answer for guys here. I can only answer for myself and myself only:
There is an element of pride and ego at work as to 'prized possession' here with regards to the gal involved. There is also that reminder of 'She has given her treasure to someone else' and it will ALWAYS bite into the mind.
However, as time goes by I have observed the morality of chastity and social beliefs of chastity. It made me more open to the social norms of dating, pre-maritial sex and taboos and stuffs. And really, the issue of who being virgin or not has never really bugged me. Its more of her beliefs, mindset and character that matters more to me than chastity.
I hope I answered your question with my point of view here.
so.. for guys who have such a thinking.. shouldn't they keep their hands off girls too? coz of the girl has lost her virginity to him, the next bf will have the same thinking. -
Like I said: its my own view. I do not know how each guy will answer to your question because they all react differently even if they have similar thinking towards this.Originally posted by browniebaobao:
so.. for guys who have such a thinking.. shouldn't they keep their hands off girls too? coz of the girl has lost her virginity to him, the next bf will have the same thinking.
And in what sense they keep their hands off gals? I don't understand this part. -
as in since they mind if their gf is not a virgin liao, then dun go and have sexual intercourse with a virgin gf la.. next time break up le the girl will suffer if the next bf mind. get it?Originally posted by Bontakun:Like I said: its my own view. I do not know how each guy will answer to your question because they all react differently even if they have similar thinking towards this.
And in what sense they keep their hands off gals? I don't understand this part. -
If those guys can SEE this loop, then it be good. There are some guys who never laid a hand on their GFs until after marriage because they respect both their GFs and their own moral beliefs.Originally posted by browniebaobao:as in since they mind if their gf is not a virgin liao, then dun go and have sexual intercourse with a virgin gf la.. next time break up le the girl will suffer if the next bf mind. get it?
However it does not seem so with every guy who falls into this category. They have to battle their common sense, emotional feelings, rational thinking, beliefs and temptations.
It is also the gals' responsibilities to keep their guys in check if they both want to keep their chastities intact until they are married because it is a gift worth waiting to give to the one who deserves it as much as the person who gives it. I am sure if your BF believes in chastity, then you do what you can to uphold his belief in it.
Going into a relationship with someone you really love is never easy. Both parties have the responsibilities towards the relationship. -
i know wat u mean.Originally posted by Bontakun:If those guys can SEE this loop, then it be good. There are some guys who never laid a hand on their GFs until after marriage because they respect both their GFs and their own moral beliefs.
However it does not seem so with every guy who falls into this category. They have to battle their common sense, emotional feelings, rational thinking, beliefs and temptations.
It is also the gals' responsibilities to keep their guys in check if they both want to keep their chastities intact until they are married because it is a gift worth waiting to give to the one who deserves it as much as the person who gives it. I am sure if your BF believes in chastity, then you do what you can to uphold his belief in it.
Going into a relationship with someone you really love is never easy. Both parties have the responsibilities towards the relationship.
but somehow many ple just dun get it. -
In this case, putting the blame on who is of no use. Realising the important factor behind every individual's beliefs and practise will help us to understand more on their stand and respect them for their decision to do it.Originally posted by browniebaobao:i know wat u mean.
but somehow many ple just dun get it.
Many people don't get it because they don't bother to get it. Too much of a hassle and responsibilities. Its quite overwhelming if you see it not as one person who believe in this or that, but the WHOLE community.