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Originally posted by stellazio:dun worry, i'm sure you'll have lotsa pm by now asking u out for dates.there are many toads in 1 pond.
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Hey bud...if he holds your stuff hostage, ask for volunteers to act as your new guy to pick up your stuff from his place. I would love to help, except that he's seen me before so yeah, outta the question. Find someone big, and Brad Pitt looking.
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Heh. I know who la. Mr AJC lor. Except he's sick and kinda far away.Originally posted by SpecOps87:Hey bud...if he holds your stuff hostage, ask for volunteers to act as your new guy to pick up your stuff from his place. I would love to help, except that he's seen me before so yeah, outta the question. Find someone big, and Brad Pitt looking.
Cheers,
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FUnny. My inbox is EMPTY.Originally posted by stellazio:dun worry, i'm sure you'll have lotsa pm by now asking u out for dates.there are many toads in 1 pond. -
I'm feeling super sad now.
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Want to tell us what's on your mind currently?Originally posted by Quinsy:I'm feeling super sad now.
You might feel a little better if you let it all out. -
Cuz once I break up with him, I would be super lonely. I won't have as much fun as I used to have, I won't get to drink regularly, I won't get the love and pampering I used to get.Originally posted by fudgester:Want to tell us what's on your mind currently?
You might feel a little better if you let it all out.
I won't get hugged or kisssed anymore. My mum will still continue to bug me, bf or no bf. And since he wont be there to hug me, kiss me, I will start getting depressed faster.
And since I no longer know who my real friends are, I'll sink into depression pretty quickly. -
I'm not sure if I told you this before, but let me say it again if I did....Originally posted by Quinsy:Cuz once I break up with him, I would be super lonely. I won't have as much fun as I used to have, I won't get to drink regularly, I won't get the love and pampering I used to get.
I won't get hugged or kisssed anymore. My mum will still continue to bug me, bf or no bf. And since he wont be there to hug me, kiss me, I will start getting depressed faster.
And since I no longer know who my real friends are, I'll sink into depression pretty quickly.
Remember that you are who you are not because of that guy. You can only be the Quinsy that you choose to be. You don't need the guy to define who you are, and what kind of emotions you're having. You can choose to be depressed, or you can choose to be happy.
The very fact that you're hypothesizing that you might sink into depression shows that you still have control over your emotions. You don't have to sink into depression if you don't want to.
If you feel that there's no one you can really trust out there or in here, then you can still choose to see a proper professional counsellor. He/She can be trusted and will not divulge any information to anyone.
I should know. I sank into a major depression after my best friend threw himself off a HDB block more than two years ago. It took professional counselling to get me back on track. I could have chosen to sink further into depression, but I knew that my friend would not have wanted me to remember him that way. So I chose to do something about it.
And so can you. Now that you know that you can sink into depression, try to do something about it before you get too deep into it. -
I'm the way I am because of the environment and circumstances I'm put through. HE puts makes me happy. He knows how to put me in a happy place.Originally posted by fudgester:I'm not sure if I told you this before, but let me say it again if I did....
Remember that you are who you are not because of that guy. You can only be the Quinsy that you choose to be. You don't need the guy to define who you are, and what kind of emotions you're having. You can choose to be depressed, or you can choose to be happy.
The very fact that you're hypothesizing that you might sink into depression shows that you still have control over your emotions. You don't have to sink into depression if you don't want to.
If you feel that there's no one you can really trust out there or in here, then you can still choose to see a proper professional counsellor. He/She can be trusted and will not divulge any information to anyone.
I should know. I sank into a major depression after my best friend threw himself off a HDB block more than two years ago. It took professional counselling to get me back on track. I could have chosen to sink further into depression, but I knew that my friend would not have wanted me to remember him that way. So I chose to do something about it.
And so can you. Now that you know that you can sink into depression, try to do something about it before you get too deep into it.
I don't know how not to be depressed when I have parents like mine. I wasn't as depressed because I was out of the house most of the time. Being cooped at home really kills me.
I don't like professional counsellors. They seem so distant and cold. And the fact that they are paid to make me feel good kinda irks me. -
He may have known how to put you in a happy place. However, you can also learn how to put yourself in a happy place as well. As I've been saying, it's all about the choices that you make. Will you choose to learn to put yourself in a happy place, or will you choose to put yourself in the more-familiar state of depression?Originally posted by Quinsy:I'm the way I am because of the environment and circumstances I'm put through. HE puts makes me happy. He knows how to put me in a happy place.
I don't know how not to be depressed when I have parents like mine. I wasn't as depressed because I was out of the house most of the time. Being cooped at home really kills me.
I don't like professional counsellors. They seem so distant and cold. And the fact that they are paid to make me feel good kinda irks me.
And how do you know that professional counsellors are cold and distant if you haven't even tried that option yet? The fact that you said that they 'seem' distant and cold tells me that you haven't had experience with them before. Or if you did, one cold and distant professional counsellor is not the same as all of them being cold and distant.
On my part, it took me months to make an appointment to see a professional counsellor. It doesn't have to do with money, for my school provides free counselling services. Rather it had to do with, sadly speaking, my own ego. I was a combat medic specialist in the Army. I saw and talked with plenty of psychiatric cases during SAF Psychiatric Medicine In-House Center duty. I talked to plenty of patients and gave them whatever advice I could.
And there I was, becoming one of those people who needed a listening ear. Do you have any idea how much that thought irked me?
But I made a choice, and I chose swallow my ego and see a professional counsellor. I don't know about you, but if the fact that they're being paid to make you feel better irks you, then I don't know what to say. I was initially irked at having to see a counsellor, but looking back, I know it was the right choice, for it led me to accept my friend's suicide and to move on with my life.
So will choose to be irked at professional counsellors and run the risk of depression? Or will you choose to get over whatever opinions you may have of them and give a shot at happiness?
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BEing happy means being away from home. Being with him, being showered with the positive attention.Originally posted by fudgester:He may have known how to put you in a happy place. However, you can also learn how to put yourself in a happy place as well. As I've been saying, it's all about the choices that you make. Will you choose to learn to put yourself in a happy place, or will you choose to put yourself in the more-familiar state of depression?
And how do you know that professional counsellors are cold and distant if you haven't even tried that option yet? The fact that you said that they 'seem' distant and cold tells me that you haven't had experience with them before. Or if you did, one cold and distant professional counsellor is not the same as all of them being cold and distant.
On my part, it took me months to make an appointment to see a professional counsellor. It doesn't have to do with money, for my school provides free counselling services. Rather it had to do with, sadly speaking, my own ego. I was a combat medic specialist in the Army. I saw and talked with plenty of psychiatric cases during SAF Psychiatric Medicine In-House Center duty. I talked to plenty of patients and gave them whatever advice I could.
And there I was, becoming one of those people who needed a listening ear. Do you have any idea how much that thought irked me?
But I made a choice, and I chose swallow my ego and see a professional counsellor. I don't know about you, but if the fact that they're being paid to make you feel better irks you, then I don't know what to say. I was initially irked at having to see a counsellor, but looking back, I know it was the right choice, for it led me to accept my friend's suicide and to move on with my life.
So will choose to be irked at professional counsellors and run the risk of depression? Or will you choose to get over whatever opinions you may have of them and give a shot at happiness?
Your choice, I say. It's not for me to tell you what choice to make.
I no longer have anyone to stay out with, and no one is going to give me any positive attention.
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All you need to do is ask:Originally posted by Quinsy:BEing happy means being away from home. Being with him, being showered with the positive attention.
I no longer have anyone to stay out with, and no one is going to give me any positive attention.
I don't know where to get free counselling.
http://www.samaritans.org.sg/need_1.asp?menu=1
If the thought of having paid professionals counselling you irks you, then I can tell you that the Samaritans of Singapore is made up of mainly volunteers. If the thought of counsellors being cold and distant puts you off, then I really don't know how else I can help you, for you're only hindering yourself by having that mindset.
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Eh...you don't need counseling at all lah. I think its just that you are suffering from alittle withdrawal symptom of not having someone to sayang and be there for you lah. But its okay what...you know where to find me. Haha, come to think of it, mebbe we should organize an outing for all the recently single guys and gals. Haha, that way we can borrow support from one another. Also, you're a strong girl yeah, you don't need him. Haha, unlike the ex...read that Brad Pitt wanna go be yoga instructor now.haha...so he can leech from those rich taitais.Originally posted by Quinsy:BEing happy means being away from home. Being with him, being showered with the positive attention.
I no longer have anyone to stay out with, and no one is going to give me any positive attention.
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T.T Sadded. You reminded me again. OF the ex. T.T He too fat to bend la that Brad Pitt. Yoga Instructors are all skinny.Originally posted by SpecOps87:Eh...you don't need counseling at all lah. I think its just that you are suffering from alittle withdrawal symptom of not having someone to sayang and be there for you lah. But its okay what...you know where to find me. Haha, come to think of it, mebbe we should organize an outing for all the recently single guys and gals. Haha, that way we can borrow support from one another. Also, you're a strong girl yeah, you don't need him. Haha, unlike the ex...read that Brad Pitt wanna go be yoga instructor now.haha...so he can leech from those rich taitais. -
i knew tis will happen to u!
usually when the gals whine about their problem wif their r/s, chance is highly dat they will break off sooner or later... -
You're one evil *^*(er.Originally posted by 798:i knew tis will happen to u!
usually when the gals whine about their problem wif their r/s, chance is highly dat they will break off sooner or later... -
798: To put it bluntly, if you don't have any constructive comments to add, then at least please don't try to rub salt into wounds.
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Interests: Doing jigsaw puzzles, collecting nail polish, reading, Surfing LiveWire and other forums and Xanga...and signing up to useless things. And I love money. And shopping. And I love money cuz I love shopping. But feeding my wallet and keeping it fat is also important. Cuz a malnourished wallet makes me sad. But hey. I live simply. I like the simple life too.
Love money huh? I think u need to get a fat goat as yr bf or future husband. Heart broken? I don't very sympathise u le.. Materialistic gal
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at least i dun add in lame comments like +1 as u did.Originally posted by fudgester:798: To put it bluntly, if you don't have any constructive comments to add, then at least please don't try to rub salt into wounds.
from the way i see it, guy want to continue tis r/s, but gal want to break off n give lame excuse such as, "my mum dun like u". tis kinda of excuse only justify in the 60s.
why not say not prepare for commitment? or looking for better fish out there? -
Gosh, please go back to the top of this page, and scroll down slowly to see what I've been posting. Heck, please go back to pg 2 of this thread. I give some proper advice on how to deal with breakups, and I even went so far as to point the TS towards proper professional counselling.Originally posted by 798:at least i dun add in lame comments like +1 as u did.
from the way i see it, guy want to continue tis r/s, but gal want to break off n give lame excuse such as, "my mum dun like u". tis kinda of excuse only justify in the 60s.
why not say not prepare for commitment? or looking for better fish out there?
And here I see you claiming (without justification) that I've been posting '+1' comments here in this thread. Sheesh.
If you're referring to the 'Tambah satu' comments I've been putting in lame threads in the Bar forum, then what does that have to do with this thread? I certainly didn't put any +1 posts in here. I put lame comments in lame threads. I put serious comments in serious threads. I certainly was trying my best to help the TS in this thread. So what's the beef?
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alot of my gal friends like to whine about their boyfriends tis not good, dat not good. even if i told them to be understanding to their bf, they still insisted to end it in the end.Originally posted by Quinsy:You're one evil *^*(er.
when they finally broken off, they will want me to be their shoulder to cry on, but i chose to be ignore their needs as i do not want to be labelled as third party in term of their breaking off.
as far as i see it, i feel u r still immature in relationship, i suggest it's better to find a partner in working life later since by then u can see wat kinda boyfriend u want, not a puppy kinda love. -
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the things i see are TS announcing she is single now n alot of guys coming in to sayang her wif care n concern. as said, "tis is not her first n it definitely not be her last."Originally posted by fudgester:Gosh, please go back to the top of this page, and scroll down slowly to see what I've been posting. Heck, please go back to pg 2 of this thread. I give some proper advice on how to deal with breakups, and I even went so far as to point the TS towards proper professional counselling.
And here I see you claiming (without justification) that I've been posting '+1' comments here in this thread. Sheesh.
If you're referring to the 'Tambah satu' comments I've been putting in lame threads in the Bar forum, then what does that have to do with this thread? I certainly didn't put any +1 posts in here. I put lame comments in lame threads. I put serious comments in serious threads. I certainly was trying my best to help the TS in this thread. So what's the beef?
'Nuff said. I'm outta here.
the one dat i feel need more counselling is the TS's boyfriend. -
listen. No one is sayanging me.Originally posted by 798:the things i see are TS announcing she is single now n alot of guys coming in to sayang her wif care n concern. as said, "tis is not her first n it definitely not be her last."
the one dat i feel need more counselling is the TS's boyfriend. -
=.= That was a very very old profile. If you're not materialistic and can live with $350 a month, GO ON. I can't.Originally posted by CannyOng:Love money huh? I think u need to get a fat goat as yr bf or future husband. Heart broken? I don't very sympathise u le.. Materialistic gal