To Peeps Who Have Initiate Break Ups Before!!!
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I give a scenario.....
You initiated the break up. You still love him/her. Would it be easy for you in the next few days to actually talk to your ex like friends? Or you wouldnt call at all?
Or if your ex calls, you will try to avoid the calls or talk coldly towards them?
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everyone has a different reaction ...
me, I would not loh. Let go liao, so hurt, so pain, no mood to pretend friendly and talk. Unless its a shallow 'love', then maybe lah -
So what do you think the situation is if a guy still loves the ex but due to some circumstances ask for break up and yet still able to talk to the ex like nothing happen like tat.....and this happen a day or two after break up...not few weeks or months...
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Then maybe he/she actually still has some connection of sorts, and the breakup was done in anger or haste.
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the guy might have his own reasons loh.
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Yeah. Am just wondering, if there is still love, woudlnt it be painful for the one who initiate the break up to talk to the ex like friends?
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It took me a few months to be able to talk to her like a friend again, but we've moved on and at this age, it's petty to dwell on the past.Originally posted by mhcampboy:Yeah. Am just wondering, if there is still love, woudlnt it be painful for the one who initiate the break up to talk to the ex like friends?
We're close friends now and it feels great. -
So what do you think if someone is able to talk to the ex like friends? No love? Still love? Even though the guy/gal told the ex there is still love in his/her heart...Originally posted by LazerLordz:It took me a few months to be able to talk to her like a friend again, but we've moved on and at this age, it's petty to dwell on the past.
We're close friends now and it feels great. -
Maybe he cannot bear to kick her away? Were they good friends before they started dating each other?Originally posted by mhcampboy:So what do you think if someone is able to talk to the ex like friends? No love? Still love? Even though the guy/gal told the ex there is still love in his/her heart... -
nopez. they were not friends...Originally posted by LazerLordz:Maybe he cannot bear to kick her away? Were they good friends before they started dating each other?
so its hard to actually treat the other party as friends huh? or so for ur case... -
it depends.. normally if they were good friends before that, there's a chance that they can still talk..Originally posted by mhcampboy:nopez. they were not friends...
so its hard to actually treat the other party as friends huh? or so for ur case... -
but they were not good friends before... straaaange...Originally posted by LazerLordz:it depends.. normally if they were good friends before that, there's a chance that they can still talk..
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yes, it hurts.Originally posted by mhcampboy:Yeah. Am just wondering, if there is still love, woudlnt it be painful for the one who initiate the break up to talk to the ex like friends?
when u need to pretend tat its nothing but deep down u, how u wish u could tell him/her again tat u love him/her.
both have to pull back their feelings, lest anyone gets hurt again.
as time goes, the feelings of either one will fade, the one whose feeling stil stays, will be the one suffering.
love hurts. love sucks. love is torturing.
pui! -
oh me gawd... tat is so true...Originally posted by Cool-gal:yes, it hurts.
when u need to pretend tat its nothing but deep down u, how u wish u could tell him/her again tat u love him/her.
both have to pull back their feelings, lest anyone gets hurt again.
as time goes, the feelings of either one will fade, the one whose feeling stil stays, will be the one suffering.
love hurts. love sucks. love is torturing.
pui!
love can be hell sometimes.. -
ya, tats wad im experiencing now.
call me a love expert!! -
i initiated a break to my first love..
hmm few days later we still talked on phone.. he asked me to give him another chance.. but i din. and i end up regretting till now.. coz i know deep in my heart, i still love him the most.
it's very tormenting de.. u love somebody so much and yet have to initiate a break. dun ask me reason for breaking ar.. dun feel like talking abt it again. -
No laa...i know its not easy...Originally posted by browniebaobao:i initiated a break to my first love..
hmm few days later we still talked on phone.. he asked me to give him another chance.. but i din. and i end up regretting till now.. coz i know deep in my heart, i still love him the most.
it's very tormenting de.. u love somebody so much and yet have to initiate a break. dun ask me reason for breaking ar.. dun feel like talking abt it again.
but, when you break up... its hard to treat him like a friend right? even though u are the one who broke up with him...
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I'd rather she hates me and gain strength from it to get on with her life than to try to end up being friends ....... people do that just to make themselves feel better anyways ....
so .... yeah, I'm pretty "cruel" .... I don't take phone calls, I sever all contacts, I don't acknowledge any future corrospondence at all ......
that helps with the other party's healing process ... better than let her cling on to some hope that perhaps it's still possible eh ? ..
of course, if you have trouble with the idea of someone hating you .......... -
of course.. coz when i love, i really love with my heart and soul.Originally posted by mhcampboy:No laa...i know its not easy...
but, when you break up... its hard to treat him like a friend right? even though u are the one who broke up with him...
even till now ba.. we are frens, but my feelings for him is more than frens. -
i truly sympathize n understand how u feel..Originally posted by browniebaobao:of course.. coz when i love, i really love with my heart and soul.
even till now ba.. we are frens, but my feelings for him is more than frens.
/me hugs bbb -
Wah, gals can emphathise and sympathise better...
Guys just grouse over their beer... -
We are nt even frens
yet my feelings are still there lor
sigh -
Not easy.
I still love her alot.
But I'm moving on.
We acknowledge that we will always love each other...
But we are free of each other.
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not very easy....Originally posted by mhcampboy:I give a scenario.....
You initiated the break up. You still love him/her. Would it be easy for you in the next few days to actually talk to your ex like friends? Or you wouldnt call at all?
Or if your ex calls, you will try to avoid the calls or talk coldly towards them?
but i will still talk to her...
asking things happening around and stuff...
if she call den i answer lor...
but will still be sad la...
i miss my ex...