To Those Who Are Single Now.....
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Wanna read my siggy so you can have more "lin(2) gan(3)"?Originally posted by foga:love dun promise u anything.
love means compromising, giving and accepting the person just the way they are.
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hmmm...
just curious, do you like her becasue you really like her or because she was the only choice?
love is about giving and accepting that person for who she/he is. Love is not charity...
Originally posted by fudgester:Yeah I know.... as much as I've always been a loner, the loneliness gets to me sometimes. I end up wondering what all my achievements add up to when I don't have anyone to share those achievements with me.
A couple of months ago a girl confessed to me that she has a crush on me. I was honestly taking a shine to her, but I didn't quite share the same sentiments. Still, I asked her to give me time to get to know her better before making a decision.
After some time passed I was becoming more and more fond of her, but eventually she told me to simply forget about going after her. Apparently she had a really difficult time with her previous relationship, and she feared that I would end up like her former lover - cheating, abusive, uncaring.
Oh well. The story of my life....
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didn;t noticed that until u pointed it out
great stuffOriginally posted by Bontakun:Wanna read my siggy so you can have more "lin(2) gan(3)"? -
I liked simply because I liked her character. Sweet, extroverted, caring, understanding... she pretty much had everything I was looking for in a girl. I was more than willing to accept her for who she is, so long as she can accept me for who I am.Originally posted by foga:hmmm...
just curious, do you like her becasue you really like her or because she was the only choice?
love is about giving and accepting that person for who she/he is. Love is not charity...
And no, she wasn't the only choice I had. I just felt that she was the best choice. -
i would have done the same thing if i were you.
"love takes time to heal when u're hurting so bad"...Originally posted by fudgester:I already did my best to show her that I'm not like her ex. In fact, she does believe me when I say that it's not in my nature to intentionally hurt others, she told me directly that she does indeed trust me to not hurt her.
However, in the end she decided that she's simply too traumatised by her past experiences to fully trust guys anymore. I told her that I was willing to wait for her to get over her feelings of hurt, but she told me not to wait for her.
Oh well. Some said that I should simply have gone for her when she confessed to me, but I didn't want to rush into a relationship when I wasn't sure of my own feelings for her. I may not be experienced in these things, but I do know for a fact that rushed relationships are mostly doomed to fail. The last thing I want is to be the cause of even more pain to her.
I don't believe I did anything wrong by wanting to take things slow and sure. What do you guys think?
If she had given me a chance to prove myself and be sure of my own feelings for her, it might seriously have worked. But it failed before it started, and now it's just another curious anecdote in the long and convoluted story of my life.
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Sometimes, they are days when you get emotional. And felt this longing in your heart that needs to be love.
Thats when I will hear the most saddest song, and just listen to it till tears dwelled up and flow... -
Ki cha?Originally posted by olala:Yaya agree
thats y I'm still waiting in line so when Botankun and rejected Ki cha then my turn
wait wati patient
best thing come to those who wait
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Noe her more loh. Understand her better.Originally posted by fudgester:I liked simply because I liked her character. Sweet, extroverted, caring, understanding... she pretty much had everything I was looking for in a girl. I was more than willing to accept her for who she is, so long as she can accept me for who I am.
And no, she wasn't the only choice I had. I just felt that she was the best choice. -
agree.. back then sad songs break me down easily...Originally posted by mhcampboy:Sometimes, they are days when you get emotional. And felt this longing in your heart that needs to be love.
Thats when I will hear the most saddest song, and just listen to it till tears dwelled up and flow... -
I'm walking away..from a wild sheep chase..for sure.
I didn't lose her to a better guy, that's for sure. But the reasons, I think I'll keep it within myself for now..
Perhaps now I can work on our friendship instead..
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back then?Originally posted by foga:agree.. back then sad songs break me down easily...
you must be old liao.. 
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Which is why I am listening to sad songs lessser and lesser. Even in KTV, I do not sing those sad "love" songs. Bring wrong atmosphere leh.Originally posted by foga:agree.. back then sad songs break me down easily... -
I share your pain. Its been a long since I had a good cry. Wah dunno simi condition den I can truely do dat though...Originally posted by mhcampboy:Sometimes, they are days when you get emotional. And felt this longing in your heart that needs to be love.
Thats when I will hear the most saddest song, and just listen to it till tears dwelled up and flow... -
no I don't ....
I still get plenty of bonks ...
perhaps I should stick to simple, non-commital over-night bonks ....
cos whenever I commit myself and my heart it always end BAD !!! .....
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i'm younger than bbb leh
Originally posted by mhcampboy:back then?
you must be old liao.. -
ya loh...
but i believe in drowning in sadness totally for a while and get back on me feet and move on.Originally posted by Bontakun:Which is why I am listening to sad songs lessser and lesser. Even in KTV, I do not sing those sad "love" songs. Bring wrong atmosphere leh. -
As I already mentioned in a previous post, I was taking the time to get to know her better.Originally posted by Bontakun:Noe her more loh. Understand her better.
It was later on when she decided to reject me for fear that I would ill-treat her. -
true love needs no promise.Originally posted by StarPuppy:what is the promise of love?
what is love?
i nv believe in promises..nv expect promises..unless I have lost all the faith. -
I forgot to add one more ingredient. Noe her more as a FRIEND. Dat simple. no other things involved.Originally posted by fudgester:As I already mentioned in a previous post, I was taking the time to get to know her better.
It was later on when she decided to reject me for fear that I would ill-treat her. -
Wah... really? I only hear it when I in super happy mood so I wun get affected by it. When sad I juz do smth else and tok to my buddy.Originally posted by foga:ya loh...
but i believe in drowning in sadness totally for a while and get back on me feet and move on.
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Never give up a tree because of a forest.
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if u really like her, go for it.Originally posted by fudgester:Yeah I know.... as much as I've always been a loner, the loneliness gets to me sometimes. I end up wondering what all my achievements add up to when I don't have anyone to share those achievements with me.
A couple of months ago a girl confessed to me that she has a crush on me. I was honestly taking a shine to her, but I didn't quite share the same sentiments. Still, I asked her to give me time to get to know her better before making a decision.
After some time passed I was becoming more and more fond of her, but eventually she told me to simply forget about going after her. Apparently she had a really difficult time with her previous relationship, and she feared that I would end up like her former lover - cheating, abusive, uncaring.
Oh well. The story of my life....
if she's really scarred and has that fear, then it doesnt matter who.. she will still feel that way.
u have to help her get over that ex and the past before u ask her to be ur girl ba. -
I know... but whenever she comes online and I try to chat her up, she always says that she's busy.Originally posted by Bontakun:I forgot to add one more ingredient. Noe her more as a FRIEND. Dat simple. no other things involved.
I suppose she probably IS busy... but more likely, she's just avoiding me. -
Den let her be. Friends are for life. Its not like she disappear soon after rite? Can alwaes chat some other time. Be it a dae later, weeks, mths, yrs. Patience is the key, you understand making friends are long worth while investments, rite?Originally posted by fudgester:I know... but whenever she comes online and I try to chat her up, she always says that she's busy.
I suppose she probably IS busy... but more likely, she's just avoiding me. -
give her time, be there for her..Originally posted by fudgester:I already did my best to show her that I'm not like her ex. In fact, she does believe me when I say that it's not in my nature to intentionally hurt others, she told me directly that she does indeed trust me to not hurt her.
However, in the end she decided that she's simply too traumatised by her past experiences to fully trust guys anymore. I told her that I was willing to wait for her to get over her feelings of hurt, but she told me not to wait for her.
Oh well. Some said that I should simply have gone for her when she confessed to me, but I didn't want to rush into a relationship when I wasn't sure of my own feelings for her. I may not be experienced in these things, but I do know for a fact that rushed relationships are mostly doomed to fail. The last thing I want is to be the cause of even more pain to her.
I don't believe I did anything wrong by wanting to take things slow and sure. What do you guys think?
If she had given me a chance to prove myself and be sure of my own feelings for her, it might seriously have worked. But it failed before it started, and now it's just another curious anecdote in the long and convoluted story of my life.
at the same time, try to spend time with her more often.. have more interactions and know each other better.. until she's really comfortable and u and ready to open her arms and embrace love.