Why Do Women Constantly Test Men?
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Men and women are different. A man, by nature, tends to look for comfort and consistency in his relationship.
A woman, on the other hand, tends to turn her primary relationship into a "Perpetual-Improvement Project." So, if there's nothing to work on or process, she's compelled to create something in order to continue work on her Project. As my uncle Jethro Love would say, "They've always gotta mess with things when things don't need fixin'."
You've probably heard the old familiar saying: A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
The interesting thing about familiar sayings is that a lot of them are based on real wisdom. In relationships, a man avoids change while a woman thrives on it -- if things seem a bit placid and static, it's time for her to stir things up! -
In essence, yes, I think that women do have an innate need to test and push their men. Why, exactly, must they do it? Ask 50 shrinks and you'll get 50 different answers. But I say that one of the main reasons they push is to see if there's anything there to push up against.
They need to know that you have a backbone, that you'll set limits, that you'll stand up for yourself. It makes them feel safe when you won't take any crap. It somehow provides them with reassurance that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you're provoked and that you're capable of protecting them from danger.
Trying to check a man's protective capabilities by starting arguments is not totally logical, but it is bio-logical. It's a drive that goes back to the days when the womenfolk huddled in the cave while the men fought off a pack of ravenous saber-toothed tigers.
A woman's actual physical survival was dependent on having a strong, brave male at her side who could hunt and kill dangerous animals, and protect her from hostile tribes. That survival-based drive for a provider/protector still motivates the modern female. -
So, even if a woman has super high Interest Level in you and she is also a sweet, loving and giving person, it's not uncommon for her to continually 'test your metal' somehow. She'll always feel the need to dig and question, pry and push in subtle or overt ways. Why? Because she's a female.
Remember guys; the man who passes the test is the man who won't be tested. -
coz they fear thing will change?
they 1 2 ensure everytin still fine?
mayb bcoz they lose confidence in themselves? -
every min things are changing..Originally posted by Si|verGer:coz they fear thing will change?
they 1 2 ensure everytin still fine?
mayb bcoz they lose confidence in themselves?
ppl also have to change to adapt to the environment..
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lack of a sense of security, i suppose, which i dont think a girl should always test for the sake of reassuring herself. the guy will sense a lack of trust and that might collaterally deteriorates the relationship.
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yes i agree..i think gals (maybe not all but i would say most) really need a certain amount of reassurance every now and then.. like my gf always out of the blue asks me some deep question or expects me to predict what will happen if... then i answer and hope that it will not make her upset or angry. If my answer does.. then I have to spend the next couple of says trying to explain the rationale behind the things I just said...Originally posted by www:lack of a sense of security, i suppose, which i dont think a girl should always test for the sake of reassuring herself. the guy will sense a lack of trust and that might collaterally deteriorates the relationship.
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